it sounds like he has two houses to rub together
I am taking on the shitty old house do nothing approach as well, and shit sometimes life just allows you to fall into a functionless state of depression and its easy to not be functional and be depressed when everyones doing it and pretending they are not. At least I have my plants growing though shit, that always puts a smile on my face. Its too bad no ones got time to make those spaces habitable, like even one room or whatever. Hope you guys can work something out.
hands full as in hes got two houses, are they full of shit or they need work, someone needs to live in and work on them because it sounds like hes not doing it. He probably needs work too, thats why he wants to smoke your weed. Its easier to get high and worry about it tomorrow if your in the position to do it.