So, since I dont have a facebook but I need a place to just lay it all out, Im going to do it here. Wife asked me for a divorce on friday. Been a rough weekend looking for a house etc etc. We have no kids but we were 2 weeks from our 5 yr anniversary where I was going to ask her to marry me again so that we could have a real wedding. Been trying to keep my mind busy but since we still have to live together till at least the 5th its going to be hard. I have found a place and it has plenty of room to grow so I can get some extra income. Going to be moving in with my best friends. So here I am trying to write a mythology paper, crying and typing here instead. I feel bad because I was talking to her a bout an hour ago and still came on to her. Well I guess I just need to write this all down . I feel like I should have been a better person. I feel like there is still hope, should I hold out, should I keep trying. I feel like Im lost at sea and my compass just gave up.
I dont really feel anger yet, so please if you comment lets try not to call my wife a bitch yet.
u obviously still love her & not only that so much u wanted to renew ur vows & YOUR vows are still for life. SO....wtf r u doing giving up? NOW is the time, it there ever was one to LAY out all ur feelings to her. Tell her the specific ways u maybe could have been a better husband. make no exuses for why other then, till just now, u being human forgot that marriage is an everyday affair that u have to work hard at, and maybe u didnt give it ur best but NOW she has got ur attention & this is a definite wake up call. Pull everything u have inside you out to be that MAN she fell in love with & tell her why u refuse to let her go. If this was the first u have heard her cry divorce, tell her she owes it to her, urself, ur marriage to give it a try. and if u didnt get specific reason as to why she supposedly wants this divorce u need to start there, u need to address THOSE issues. This is ur time to LISTEN carefully, & then open up in response. Whatever u do, right now is NOT the time to be crying in defeat. okay, she hurt u by even saying she wants a divorce but that can pass, saying she wants one & u two getting one r 2 different things. FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT for her. Pull out all the stops, & assure her this is not just in response to her cries....that u will incorporate change into ur daily routine & marriage for life.
and if she is the type of person who can appreciate good humor, REMIND her that men are all assholes to a certain degree, & does she really want to start at square one training another one
She might just realize, she is better off working it out with you, more then ever. Your chances are GREAT as long as she still is in love with you. If she says she feels she has fallen out of love with you, it is still possible to re-spark her love, but the chances r not so good.
I feel for you, be strong, & do NOT give up. Best of luck my friend!
PS...why r u even MOVING out? if she wants to do so, let her, I would stay put, while u fight to keep ur marriage intact.
