its hard to meet a girl i can trust being in a illegal state. The southern states BAM you if you get caught. I can never let that happen.
Then move. Really. This is core shit. You want a relationship. You may phrase it as "vag", but that's just because you gotta be cool around the macho assholes. Accept it. You are human, you need another person.
You also might need your dope. I know I do. So you have presented yourself with a false choice. It is unnecessary. There are other choices.
You have determined that living in the south is bad for you. You have a stress level you can't deal with, and you are letting it affect you way too deeply.
Note: I'm not saying pack up your shit today. But if you spent the next 6 months working on it, you might be in a far better place next year.
Also, you exhibit one of the core medical downsides of pot. THC releases prolactin, which is what the HIGH is, but prolactin turns testosterone into estriol, reducing a guy's sex drive and growing tits sooner or later. Do you really want to be a little girl?
MOVE.