Are you a pacer?

It has been getting on my nerves lately - out of nowhere someone says "would you sit down? You're making me nervous" or "Sit down before you wear a hole through the floor". Like biting my fingernails, I have no clue that I pace until someone points it out. Even worse when I am high - sitting on a couch watching TV while baked is a mental chore. I will fidget, readjust, fidget, flail, and ultimately get up and wonder around aimlessly, touching this and that until I get told to sit down. Let the cycle repeat.
 

sunni

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yeah i hate pacers, i generally say to them could you sit down please youre making me nervous,
 

see4

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pacers and knee shakers make me nervous! especially the knee shakers who sit next to you with a seat that is connected to yours, so you feel their shaking... grrrr so annoying!!
 

racerboy71

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pacers and knee shakers make me nervous! especially the knee shakers who sit next to you with a seat that is connected to yours, so you feel their shaking... grrrr so annoying!!
me mom is like that in the car.. she's always reaching for the holy shit bar for no good reason and it makes me nervous as poo to say the least..

the other day i was driving her to the dr's and the roads were a bit icy, so being the first real winter weather we've had, i turned down this small side street, grabbed the e brake and cut the wheel hard, sending the car into a semi-spin.. omg, i thought she was going to shit herself, lol..
 

AltarNation

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If you want to change it, practice yoga. Seriously. I pace plenty. It's ungrounded energy. You're flitting about because you're not centered physically--meaning that your body is not able to sit still because you are not allowing gravity's natural pull to center your form. Sit your ass down in a yogic pose (cross legged or half-lotus) and focus on keeping your core stable, shoulders down and relaxed, neck long, and your head held high. You will use a shitload of energy just trying to keep your form stable. You might shake if you're not used to it. But this will burn off the energy that gets subconsciously expressed via nervous habits.

Honestly I don't mind pacing, and I don't bother correcting for it when I'm alone, usually. But, it really does make other people nervous, which in turn makes me uneasy because I become aware of how chaotic the energy in my form is being when other people are around to mirror my energy.

You could say that I'm nervous by nature and don't mind being nervous for the most part, as I'm sort of used to it, but it can be really hard to settle my mind if I can't center my body, and it all can add up to sudden unexpected shifts into anxious states. Sort of like I was actually already acting anxious but didn't notice it. Basically, between the extra muscle tension necessary to hold up the form when not centered, and the endless barrage of thoughts that tend to accompany my pacing, it's just a stressor on the body that I don't need, so I'm learning to rid myself of it.
 

see4

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me mom is like that in the car.. she's always reaching for the holy shit bar for no good reason and it makes me nervous as poo to say the least..

the other day i was driving her to the dr's and the roads were a bit icy, so being the first real winter weather we've had, i turned down this small side street, grabbed the e brake and cut the wheel hard, sending the car into a semi-spin.. omg, i thought she was going to shit herself, lol..
i was with you until you talked about fast and furious on an icy road with moms in the car... thats messed up man!
 

AltarNation

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pacers and knee shakers make me nervous! especially the knee shakers who sit next to you with a seat that is connected to yours, so you feel their shaking... grrrr so annoying!!
My friend from high school whom I rolled with quite a few times had this amazing tendency... he had ADHD, and when he rolled his regular knee-shaking would get SO intense. Full bore, like a jackhammer... then, before you know it, THE OTHER ONE WOULD START TOO! Fucking amazing.

Being a nervous person myself, it never bothered me, it was actually fucking hilarious to watch, like some really weird cartoon character with jackhammer legs. (I was rolling.)
 

Jimmyjonestoo

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pacers and knee shakers make me nervous! especially the knee shakers who sit next to you with a seat that is connected to yours, so you feel their shaking... grrrr so annoying!!
I must say I'm guilty of this. I have ADHD so sitting still is hard for me. I'm always tapping my fingers or feet or shifting around. Just can't sit still.
 

see4

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its all good. my best friend is a knee shaker and the bastard can't stand still.. not a pacer.. but always moving about. im used to it by now.. but sometimes i can't take it and say something..

do you think adhd has something to do with it? I had adhd when i was a child and have a mild form of ADD now... i've never had a knee shake or paced around.. i am impatient though..
 

drolove

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lol i CAN NOT sit still on the phone. i gotta walk and talk. by thats about as far as my pacing goes.
 

greenswag

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not a pacer (unless I'm on the phone) but what exactly about pacing would make you nervous? Are you worried they are plotting something? I have to be moving at all times so if I'm sitting down, like right now, my toes are moving up and down. I've tried to stop the knees thumping as was mentioned earlier and try to do more subtle things. Might be slight RLS (restless leg syndrome) because I can not sit or lay still without needing to move my legs or feet/toes in some way, unless I'm exhausted. I shift around a lot too like Jimmyjonestoo. Always need to be moving, stretching, something even if I'm playing with something in my hands like a pen cap or taking apart and reassembling a mechanical pencil. It's also caused me to develop a habit of cracking my fingers and neck whenever possible. It doesn't hurt me at all but when I crack my neck it's like, 10-20 cracks on each side and people cringe and even freak out thinking it hurts lol. I feel really bad about that one because it bothers people unlike the other ones ><
 

Dislexicmidget2021

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More of a sitter,not a real pacer at all.My brain starts doing the pacing though,Its more of a contemplative pacing than an anxious pacing,if that makes sense.
 

tip top toker

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I am confused as to why it makes you nervous. Doesn't that indicate that you have an issue of some sort? Insecurity or something. In racer boys scenario, why would your passenger grabbing the holy shit bar as you call it, make you nervous, you are the one driving, how is it that your passengers reaction affects how you feel about your driving or something?

I'm the same as drlove though, whole family is. When on the phone, I tend to walk around a table non stop else walk around the edge of a carpet.
 

AltarNation

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Yeah, I don't know what it is about phones, but I pace 1000x more when on a phone. Too bad I don't have a cell anymore, I could just go for a fuckin walk.
 

tip top toker

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Yeah, I don't know what it is about phones, but I pace 1000x more when on a phone. Too bad I don't have a cell anymore, I could just go for a fuckin walk.
Ifni wasn't so far from kuroi, I would ditch my phone. I use it solely as a torch, which I have on my car keys, an alarm clock, I have one of those anyway, and texting kuroi. I don't know how my employers would react if I told them I don't have a contact number, would be amusing. Might have to try this.
 

AltarNation

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Ifni wasn't so far from kuroi, I would ditch my phone. I use it solely as a torch, which I have on my car keys, an alarm clock, I have one of those anyway, and texting kuroi. I don't know how my employers would react if I told them I don't have a contact number, would be amusing. Might have to try this.
I hate phones, generally. Probably why I pace, heh.
 

meechz 024

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actually the opposite. I'm on some guy on the couch in half baked mixed with thurgood and the scientist who hooked him up shit.
 

Jimmyjonestoo

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its all good. my best friend is a knee shaker and the bastard can't stand still.. not a pacer.. but always moving about. im used to it by now.. but sometimes i can't take it and say something..

do you think adhd has something to do with it? I had adhd when i was a child and have a mild form of ADD now... i've never had a knee shake or paced around.. i am impatient though..
I've always attributed it to the ADHD. At night Its hard to fall asleep cuz I toss and turn and my brain is racing always. I can only assume its the ADHD. Maybe some people are just restless and a label on it is Bullshit because everyone is different. I'm no doctor.
 
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