i got into a fight with my gf over bud..........

Cannabolic

Cannabolic

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ok im gunna make this quick. me and my gf were having a convorsation about how her friends and all they do is smoke weed and dont do shit with there lives and wtvr. and idk how but she directed her anger towards me. and was like "Canna, you say that ur never gunna stop smoking weed and u act like weed is your god and i cant do this anymore. i thought that maybe u would change, but everyday your on that messageboard(RIU) and everything is about weed with you, i dont get it? why dont you just get over this faze and grow up? I juat cant be with you anymore because we both grew up diffriently and i realize that ur not what im looking for." im like woah!!!! WTF!? where is this comming from? first off you knew how much i loved weed when u met me. was i not high when we first met? was i not smoking back to back blunts with everybody at that party? and i was like u dont try to change somebody if you love them. in fact u love them BECAUSE of the way that they are. and i was like honestly im never gunna stop smokin weed. when im 80 years old im gunna be smoking weed, thats me. and even if it becomes a health issue ill just eat it or vape it. i dont smoke weed just to have a party or wtvr its not a party drug to me. and honestly if u dont like me to smoke weed then idk what the fuck to tell u cuz im not changin that part of my life for nobody. then we argued some more then she said she was sorry and that she was fustrated and that she loves me.............:wall:
 
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smokeh

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ahhh, ive been here.

i used to be like urself man, partying it up every weekend and chance i get, gettin the smokin flowin at a party out back etc etc.

my gf didnt have a problem with it as she knew what i was like when she met me. now we have a child and are gettin married. we have been to amsterdam together and had a great time. now i do smoke it, not as much as i used to. but still she doesnt mind. when i get my free time, like all of us, i sometimes have a smoke.

what im tryin to say is, if she cant deal with u smokin / partyin, doin w/e u want then its not worth it unless u think it is. u have no commitments and can do w/e u want, so why not?

as for ur gfs friends, they will release 1 day its not all about partying and once the real world hits them, it will knock em down.
 
Mcgician

Mcgician

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Cannabolic said:
ok, her friends smoke weed and she is mad that all they do is smoke and drink and party. and all she does is go to college and work.
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Well, we can't have her doing responsible things like that can we? Lol. Balance my friend, is everything. If you've been together a long time, she probably knows you pretty well, and I'm willing to bet she's not just imagining or exaggerating her statement too much about your involvement with it. I'm guessing she still likes you a lot, but let's not forget, that baby-maker of theirs has a finite amount of time, and they're looking for some security down the road. If you can BALANCE your life with weed/school/work whatever it is you do, then she shouldn't have a problem. Just don't let it derail you from goals or amibitions.
 
Cannabolic

Cannabolic

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smokeh said:
ahhh, ive been here.

i used to be like urself man, partying it up every weekend and chance i get, gettin the smokin flowin at a party out back etc etc.

my gf didnt have a problem with it as she knew what i was like when she met me. now we have a child and are gettin married. we have been to amsterdam together and had a great time. now i do smoke it, not as much as i used to. but still she doesnt mind. when i get my free time, like all of us, i sometimes have a smoke.

what im tryin to say is, if she cant deal with u smokin / partyin, doin w/e u want then its not worth it unless u think it is. u have no commitments and can do w/e u want, so why not?

as for ur gfs friends, they will release 1 day its not all about partying and once the real world hits them, it will knock em down.
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Mcgician said:
Well, we can't have her doing responsible things like that can we? Lol. Balance my friend, is everything. If you've been together a long time, she probably knows you pretty well, and I'm willing to bet she's not just imagining or exaggerating her statement too much about your involvement with it. I'm guessing she still likes you a lot, but let's not forget, that baby-maker of theirs has a finite amount of time, and they're looking for some security down the road. If you can BALANCE your life with weed/school/work whatever it is you do, then she shouldn't have a problem. Just don't let it derail you from goals or amibitions.
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its not even like I party. i almost never go out. and its just that i like smoking weed u kno? and she even smokes from time to time. Ive even stopped smoking for 2 months to pass a drug test. (i still havent smoked). and yea, that exactly what it is, she wants to settle down with me and have "securities" but idk man woman fuckin stress me out..................
 
Mcgician

Mcgician

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Cannabolic said:
its not even like I party. i almost never go out.
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This could be part of the problem. I'm probably about 15 years older than you are just by guessing, and not to sound like an old timer, but from they way things sound, I'd recommend you maybe take some time and plan some active things to do that don't necessarily involve weed (although most things are WAY better that way! lol). Go hiking, take some pictures, go to a museum- whatever. Just do something that occupies your mind. Focus on what interests you, and excel at it. I'm no psychologist, but I am older than you, and that's just my two cents. Take it for what it's worth I guess.
 
Cannabolic

Cannabolic

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Mcgician said:
This could be part of the problem. I'm probably about 15 years older than you are just by guessing, and not to sound like an old timer, but from they way things sound, I'd recommend you maybe take some time and plan some active things to do that don't necessarily involve weed (although most things are WAY better that way! lol). Go hiking, take some pictures, go to a museum- whatever. Just do something that occupies your mind. Focus on what interests you, and excel at it. I'm no psychologist, but I am older than you, and that's just my two cents. Take it for what it's worth I guess.
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lol what i mean to say is i dont go out to clubs or parties anymore since i settled down with my gf. i go hiking, i love fishing. and actually me and my gf are going to the museum down in manhattan cuz i helping her wit her art project for school. and i work out everyday. plus i havent smoked in 2 months. and she is only going by what ppl have said not from what she seen.( i used to smoke like crazy). idk man i dont see her issue...........................................
 
GrowTech

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fdd2blk said:
wait, .............. her friends smoke weed? problem solved. :hump:
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when she says "my friends" she means "the guys that im cheating on you with" :lol::weed:

honestly though OP: if she doesn't dig you, get rid of her... too many cute girls out there want to ride your fat cola.... ;) besides, it sounds like she's not grown up to handle it.

im on this message board every damned day of my life now and if my lady ever has a problem with that (who i am, a rolli) then too bad... love me or leave me, we change every day anyway.
 
GrowTech

GrowTech

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is money tight? women tend to get stressed out when they worry about money... sort of like how I get stressed out about my plants :lol:
 
Cannabolic

Cannabolic

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GrowTech said:
when she says "my friends" she means "the guys that im cheating on you with" :lol::weed:

honestly though OP: if she doesn't dig you, get rid of her... too many cute girls out there want to ride your fat cola.... ;) besides, it sounds like she's not grown up to handle it.

im on this message board every damned day of my life now and if my lady ever has a problem with that (who i am, a rolli) then too bad... love me or leave me, we change every day anyway.
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AMEN! thats what i told her
GrowTech said:
is money tight? women tend to get stressed out when they worry about money... sort of like how I get stressed out about my plants :lol:
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yea money is real tight and lately she's been worried about securities(cuz she wants to settle down and get married with me) and plus its mid-tearms so she hassnt had time for anything cuz all she does is study. and she is worried cuz if she fails a class then she is gunna have to take it next year, and that would stop her from takin the courses she needs next year to get her degree, and also it would fuck up her health insurence.....................
 
Sgt. Floyd

Sgt. Floyd

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It seems like she's just stressed about her friends smoking and being useless. Since you smoke she lumped you in with her friends when she was bitching. I wouldn't take it personal unless it happens a bunch.
 
RetiredToker76

RetiredToker76

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Cannabolic said:
AMEN! thats what i told her

yea money is real tight and lately she's been worried about securities(cuz she wants to settle down and get married with me) and plus its mid-tearms so she hassnt had time for anything cuz all she does is study. and she is worried cuz if she fails a class then she is gunna have to take it next year, and that would stop her from takin the courses she needs next year to get her degree, and also it would fuck up her health insurence.....................
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I've been where she is, sober, busting my ass, trying to make ends meet, trying to not only pass but pass to keep my scholarship, and also working 35 - 40 hours a week. It's not fun at all. My girlfriend at the time (now wife) was doing absolutely NOTHING. She wasn't in school, she was only working 20 hours a week at work, she never did anything to improve her (or our) situation. I ended up leaving her as a cold dose of reality. In a matter of days she figured out that she couldn't 'ride' my wave of productivity for free. She got off her ass and got re-enrolled in school, figured out how to make her rent payments, and low and behold became a responsible person in the end. All that laziness and she was sober!!!

It REALLY sucks when you have these plans and you're taking action to make them work while your partner is doing anything BUT being a partner.

Now as far as women they are FAR more touchy to this kind of stuff than men. For starters I NEVER let my wife see me high unless she's there with me. I also make sure that I keep my employment level either static or increasing in pay. If things go backwards we enter a world of hurt. While I love MJ and really love getting high, the bottom line is that there really are things that are more important.

-RT76
 
mastakoosh

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its all about money. she is wondering" is this motherfucker gonna smoke all the time and be broke the rest of our lives??? cuz i need a dude with a lambo that doesnt smoke". dont worry im broke all the time lol, before my wife got pregnant she was always smokin up all my shit.
 
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