so... I'm thinking about changing my whole life overnight.

eatspam

eatspam

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I'm currently working as a freelance web designer while studying network engineering.
I've always been in computers because its what I'm best at and was kinda forced into it.
and I'm miserable.
I hate computers, they rule my life and I spend the better part of my life looking at code for hours on end. and I feel like I've missed out on so much.

I recently thought back to when I 17...
the happiest part of my life was spent delivering pizza's and making timber furniture at home.

basically I'm thinking of packing everything I currently do in, and going back to when life was easier.

I'm only 21 and I've done nothing but work, save and build myself up to the point where I own my own 3bedroom house and large block of land, I have 2 nice cars, I'm getting married in less then a year and I have about $100k in the bank... hell I don't even pay for water or electricity because I have off the grid power supplied from solar and wind, and I have a rain water tank! (yes I'm a bit of a greeny... that and no bills is nice :D)

I'm thinking about kicking back, get my workshop going again and taking a no-brainer job that pays just enough to get by with very few hours.

I was even thinking about building a boat? or building another house from scratch on my block for my kids to have one day.

I'm just not sure about it yet... I'm kinda worried about what the missus will think?

its just that between a 50-60hr work week and study on top of that my health has taken a turn for the worst.
my I've got an ulcer, bad kidneys and I'm way out of shape from lack of exercise and bad diet.

so what do you guys think? more importantly, how should I tell the missus?
 
iblazethatkush

iblazethatkush

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Haha u read my post about delivering pizza and selling weed, huh? I think u should go for it, I agree delivering pizza was the happiest time of my life too...U sound a lot like me, i'm 20 and i got an ulcer too lol...So what r u in college? If so u should go for it b/c it's only temporary till u graduate. And if you're gonna sell it's the best job ever to have, but if u do be careful not to get busted.
 
Lacy

Lacy

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Yeah! I say go for it too. It's not like you can't afford it. You have enough security to fall back on. DON"T stay stuck in a job or lifestyle that you regret. You sound really bright, most people don't realize these type of things until its way too late.

As far as telling your significant other....slowly and carefully. Take her out for dinner and know ahead of time what you are going to say and think about questions in advance that she might ask. Thats about all I can suggest.

Good luck.
 
nongreenthumb

nongreenthumb

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eatspam said:
I'm currently working as a freelance web designer while studying network engineering.
I've always been in computers because its what I'm best at and was kinda forced into it.
and I'm miserable.
I hate computers, they rule my life and I spend the better part of my life looking at code for hours on end. and I feel like I've missed out on so much.

I recently thought back to when I 17...
the happiest part of my life was spent delivering pizza's and making timber furniture at home.

basically I'm thinking of packing everything I currently do in, and going back to when life was easier.

I'm only 21 and I've done nothing but work, save and build myself up to the point where I own my own 3bedroom house and large block of land, I have 2 nice cars, I'm getting married in less then a year and I have about $100k in the bank... hell I don't even pay for water or electricity because I have off the grid power supplied from solar and wind, and I have a rain water tank! (yes I'm a bit of a greeny... that and no bills is nice :D)

I'm thinking about kicking back, get my workshop going again and taking a no-brainer job that pays just enough to get by with very few hours.

I was even thinking about building a boat? or building another house from scratch on my block for my kids to have one day.

I'm just not sure about it yet... I'm kinda worried about what the missus will think?

its just that between a 50-60hr work week and study on top of that my health has taken a turn for the worst.
my I've got an ulcer, bad kidneys and I'm way out of shape from lack of exercise and bad diet.

so what do you guys think? more importantly, how should I tell the missus?
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Finding the right balance between home life and work life is always a tough call no matter what the circumstances. I completely understand how you feel as I used to work in property working 85 hour weeks working my nuts off and becoming an asshole in the process.

The thing is though that as we grow up we do remember old times and how things used to be when life was simple but taking a lower paid job just to get by will make life harder believe me.

What I think you should do is if you are unhappy with what you do now and would like to have more time to do things then why not set up your own business of some kind, you've got the funds to do so so why not. I'm not talking anything risky just something steady and laid back be your own boss. Maybe setup a hydro shop where you are or something else. Do the sums and find something that works out, but as your getting older you don't want to be taking steps backwards, forwards is the only way to go, otherwise you could end up wasting your life away trying to recover something that can't be. Novelty wears off on everything, take your time and figure out where you want your life to go from here before you make any rash moves. Could you really handle being like your 17 year old self and run your household and everything, when you have kids have enough time and money to be able to do anything you want with them and not be restricted by work or money.
 
iblazethatkush

iblazethatkush

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Yeah and ulcers fucking suck, pardon my language, but they do. Mine won't go away b/c i drink about every weekend and stress a lot. Anxiety is the number one cause of ulcers. If it's your job that is causing u the anxiety than u should def. quit cuz life's too short for that bullshit. And as far as telling your girl, u should tell her your thinking about it b4 u actually do it and keep bringing it up so it isn't a big shock to her, u quitting ur job all of a sudden and what not.
 
eatspam

eatspam

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all good points...

I did forget to tell you a few things.

by "$100k in the bank" I ment in assets. I part own a bonzai and asian furniture import company that is worth around 30k at the moment that I have nothing to do with on a daily basis and i make about $3000p/mth off it, and I have a web server with about 200 high profile clients websites (before you ask, yes most of it is porn :P) and get a trickle income of about $5000 a month from it which realy looks after its self. I have to run back ups morning and night and thats it.

I realy have no intrest in stopping working, just cutting back a bit.
I was thinking about getting into landscaping which can pull about $1000-1500 for small jobs that would take about a week to complete.
and only take jobs when I feel like it (about once a month)

I want to drop the high stress investments I have and just make up the differnce by working part time for a while.

the missus is a nurse and she brings in a fair bit as well that I'm not even considering.

so cash isn't an issue, its more the what will I do factor?
I just dont wanna be the richest guy in the grave yard when I'm dead.

I was dirt poor growing up, but I had a mind for business from an early age and could make money online from age 18 that was quite substancial, I paid most of my cash to smart people that turned it into alot more...

the best way I can explain it is, if a carpenter works for a year strait he could build a house that could quite well be imaculate and will last for hundreds of years!

if I work for a year strait I get a a bunch of websites that will probably last a year or 2 then disapear.
 
Pullin' weeds

Pullin' weeds

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I had open heart surgery earlier this year - nothing like facing your own mortality to force a life change.

We only go around this world once - make the best of it and do what you love! The rest has a way of working itself out.

happiness outweighs big $$
 
bush basher

bush basher

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i'm currently doing a network engineering course an im finding it really hard! i need study help. i'd love to set something up like you have, a server or some sort of web design. any ideas for me?
 
Kant

Kant

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well i can't say i know what you're going through but i do know what it's like to debug endless lines of code. i'm currently taking an encryption class.
 
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stonecold

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id say, with all that side income from part owner of that furniture store and your server deal, why the hell not take time off and do what you wanna do, your only 21 and you have that many health issues? you need to take some time and enjoy your self, do what you wanna do.
 
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stonecold

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life, its not what you have, its not what you own, its not assets, life is doing what you wanna do when you wanna do it and enjoying what you do
 
HoLE

HoLE

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wow,,I wish my only problem was what i don't wanna do

Keep on Growin

HoLE

repost: okay ,,that's a lil sarcasm there^^^^^^^,,,it sounds as if you have done well so far for 21,,don't fuk it up,,wanting to live a little at your age,,could end up not good in your favour,,,if you have this worth at 21,,if you stuck at it,,where do you think you will be at 25,,or 28,,wich is still young,,and still leaves plenty of time to enjoy,,maybe a diet and a walk once in a while will help,,for your age you sound as if your on the Right Track,,dont get off,,hard to catch that train again on foot,,,Good Luck
 
Kant

Kant

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mastakoosh

mastakoosh

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eatspam said:
I'm currently working as a freelance web designer while studying network engineering.
I've always been in computers because its what I'm best at and was kinda forced into it.
and I'm miserable.
I hate computers, they rule my life and I spend the better part of my life looking at code for hours on end. and I feel like I've missed out on so much.

I recently thought back to when I 17...
the happiest part of my life was spent delivering pizza's and making timber furniture at home.

basically I'm thinking of packing everything I currently do in, and going back to when life was easier.

I'm only 21 and I've done nothing but work, save and build myself up to the point where I own my own 3bedroom house and large block of land, I have 2 nice cars, I'm getting married in less then a year and I have about $100k in the bank... hell I don't even pay for water or electricity because I have off the grid power supplied from solar and wind, and I have a rain water tank! (yes I'm a bit of a greeny... that and no bills is nice :D)

I'm thinking about kicking back, get my workshop going again and taking a no-brainer job that pays just enough to get by with very few hours.

I was even thinking about building a boat? or building another house from scratch on my block for my kids to have one day.

I'm just not sure about it yet... I'm kinda worried about what the missus will think?

its just that between a 50-60hr work week and study on top of that my health has taken a turn for the worst.
my I've got an ulcer, bad kidneys and I'm way out of shape from lack of exercise and bad diet.

so what do you guys think? more importantly, how should I tell the missus?
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Dude i am totally with you on this one. I believe go with what your heart tells you to do. I have recently gotten married and am now in my thirties. I basically quit smoking weed 3 years ago, but my wife still smokes. I quit smoking weed to get a good job at the railroad. It is the best paying job i have ever had. But now i am miserable and feel like a slave to my job. I hate it more and more every day. I work odd hours and sometimes twice a day or get called to work at 2am. I only have time to sleep and work and never know when i am coming or going. They want us to work every holiday including christmas day while all the office people are home with their families. I constantly think about when i made three times less money and could smoke herb. I was happy then. It is hard to feel not stressed now. I want to quit but there are no good jobs where i live. My wife is happy and says i should stay put and think about the family. But she is happy and lives her life the way she wants to. Also i am in financial trouble and would have a hard time taking a pay cut. I wish i could make money doing something i really love and have a passion doing. I have so many business ideas but dont know where to start. I just feel stuck.:-?
 
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