I'm with you on this, I track all my waterings and if you use a method to decide when to water...finger, lift, probe etc, you should stay consistent with it. Even though they want to be watered more often, it still needs direct monitoring. It can change weekly, one week every 2 days, another week every 3 days, it can even bounce around a little. Imo you want to be a robot about it following the same procedure over and over. If you need to feed more or more often that wont cause these problems. If the roots are too wet too long, they stop functioning as well and cause the issues you see. The good part is within a week or 2 it can all be back on track. The pots I use are large enough that I dont have to check the day after watering, but any pot more than a day past watering gets a daily check (and recorded in my log) for reference. Just my 2c and method there are many that work.