It looks to me as though your plant has been grown without a sufficient enough amount of light, theres quite a stretch there, it doesnt look like the spidermites have messed with the bud much, just the buds arnt getting enough light to grow properly, Ive seen plants grown in almost full shade outside, and your plants buds are looking very similar. It is only the third week of budding though so theres still plenty of time for them buds to ripen and fill in. You say your growing outdoor? I would suggest trying to put it in a place for maximum sun exposure, she'd love it. hope that helps, happy toking