so I'm having man problems y'all. and except for the vagina master I think you are all dudes. regardless of sex, you understand the special risks we take when growing in places its not fully legal (the US has a 99 plant threshold for federal involvement.; LA*PD can't fuck with me for the most part) add to that being single. I just dumped dude for being a liar (again) after three years so I'm like... dating? um. yeah I started growing in the span of the relationship I just ended so I've never done 'dating with secrets' before. if you think im parading a bunch of dudes thru here youre wrong-a-rooni.
I was out vending my excess meds and met a nice tall guy who was out doing the same. we talked on the phone and texted for a few weeks. then we hung out in my hood one night and came back to my place. showed him my grow. he liked. so he suggested, next time, we go someplace for the night cuz he's taking down and had to get back to that. date #2 the hotel night was pleasurable and fun. on the way back I asked if I could spend the night at his place cuz it was halfway to my place from the hotel we just stayed at. he said he couldn't cuz he lives at a grow site, has partners and a tight crew and nobody comes over yada yada.
now I understand all that because I don't have anyone to my place except formerly the ex and maybe 2-4 excellent friends I trust. (I'm compliant with the law but I worry about the pirates.) At the same time I was perplexed that he felt he could not trust me after I trusted him. I guess he's within his rights. However, what is the point of dating within the 'industry' if you have to rent a hotel just to get some ass? and guys outside the industry will be like "why doesn't she ever let me come over?"
question: was he being weird or just a good partner to his crew for not letting me have the same access I granted him
question 2: how do you deal with lying to people who may not be canna friendly
q3: should be easy to find a dude at, say, the hydro store, but it isn't really a spot where I network.
600 thoughts?