Mods, this poster Bonghits4all is the stalker about whom I emailed you this morning. Although I have never met him, he has contacted me to say that we have "a love connection," has delusions about having "taught [me] everything I know," is writing me poems on the site trying to get me to send him seeds after I said no (
https://www.rollitup.org/grow-journals/83591-littlebats-first-grow-08-a-3.html), is posting in other people's threads about me (
https://www.rollitup.org/subcools-old-school-organics/60437-subcool-seeds-5.html), is following me around in multiple threads (
https://www.rollitup.org/organics/83309-willow-bark-extract-3.html) to ask the same question about an intentional misspelling in my avatar (because I mentioned to him at one point, in trying to get rid of him, that as a writer I would be unable to date someone who insisted on spelling 'maybe,' 'mabey') and no amount of telling him to leave me alone or blatantly ignoring him is getting him to back off. He's going back and forth between being in love with me and saying scary mean things about me on threads (see above), and then intermittently emails me or writes to me here asking for forgiveness (and seeds.) He's also writing in his own threads to call me names (
https://www.rollitup.org/inspired-art/86864-bat-bud.html#post1030586) even though I have never commented on any of his threads nor communicated with him in any way since I last told him several weeks ago to leave me alone. Apparently, my ignoring him and refusing to go out with him "feels like rejection" and that's why he has to lash out. This is the behavior of men who ultimately hurt women, and I am afraid. Mods, I will happily send you the full email exchange if you need me to, just let me know.
WOMEN, PLEASE WATCH OUT ON HERE!!!!! I learned that lesson the hard way. There are some very scary, very lonely guys out there. I would love to still be able to post here, but I am stepping away from the site until I find out that this user is gone, out of a need for self-protection. Hopefully I will be able to come back.
I'm really sad to potentially leave RIU, but I have to face the fact that I have a net-stalker, and I have to protect myself until he's gone.
(Incidentally, the reason I edited this thread is because after I wrote it I found the second time -- in the willow bark thread -- where he said something about the spelling in the avatar. Then I found the unprovoked rant at me in his own thread. I find this an unbelievably creepy thing to do as a result of being pissed off that a girl you've never met won't travel to another state to date you and/or bring you seeds. )