I said your life is what it is because you let others make that choice for you. That, in its self, is a choice. A choice to be on the bottom. True, you can't win every battle, but you won't win ANY if you don't try.
No. I don't "let" others. Others impose, and i have to decide whether to risk my life and livelihood to stop them, by knowingly entering an unwinnable battle, and ultimately costing myself the war. I'm very skilled at accurately estimating my abilities, and avoiding scenarios in which i am unlikely to prevail.
You're interpreting the unfortunate and unappealing results of my self-preservation as self-destruction, when the only reason i've had to accept less than what i wanted, is the decisions others made without my consent.
I didn't want to live this way, but if i don't yield and preserve myself, i won't be alive at all. Sometimes i think THAT was my biggest mistake, in that i should have just recklessly flung myself into the jaws of certain doom, due to having no better options, due to having them prevented by the choices others made, before i was even old enough to consent, and throughout every moment i've spent trying to recover from the damage others' choices have caused me.
Other people "just do things," whether i allow them or not. I can either accept that, and try to work with what remains, or i can try to get revenge by damaging those who've made choices which caused me significant detriment. The former is not ideal, but the latter is illegal.
What should i choose, then? Should i choose to illegally punish someone for imposing their choices on me, resulting in either death or prison?
Or should i try to absorb the loss of what was stolen from me by the choices of others who bore no consideration of the detrimental impacts their choices have wrought upon my life?
Where i am, is better than prison. I don't have to go there to know that.
However... it's still another kind of prison, which allows unchecked others to interfere with which choices are actually feasibly available to me.
Words require an audience; actions do not. If i try to explain something to someone who won't listen, or doesn't care, then my only remaining option is to enforce my will through actions... which will certainly and inevitably result in violence, which i'm trying to avoid, because i know i don't want those consequences.
Make sense yet?