pabloesqobar
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Sounds like most of the responses are from people that don't have a clue what it's like to have aspergers. My nephew has it, he's a little older than you, about 19 or 20. He has 3 siblings, and great Parents. However, his disorder has caused a lot of pain to his family. People with this disorder can be downright a-holes, albeit unintentional. He will get fixated on one thing, ignoring everything else. He will argue a point unlike anyone I've ever seen. He looks odd, and is arguably socially unacceptable. There's been times when his siblings hated him.
My brother (now a retired Colonel) was very strict with him. Forced him to do well in high school, which he graduated with honors. Made Eagle Scout. He's now at a junior college and wants to go to the college his older sister went to. Unfortunately, it doesn't appear he will be able to manage that level of stress. He had a Walmart job for a short time, but had to quit. He simply couldn't function at a level necessary to be an effective employee. With the job pool being what it is lately, what employer would pick somebody with aspergers over someone equally qualified, without this disorder?
As for my nephew, his parents will probably be taking care of him for the rest of his life. I just don't see him moving out on his own and taking care of his life like someone without this disorder. Children sometimes come out flawed. Deciding to have kids means you acknowledge the risks of having a kid that is disabled. That may mean your life will be extremely difficult for a long, long time. Aspergers is relatively mild, considering the more extreme disabilities that some Parents have to deal with.
I've always wondered how my Brother can distinguish the behavior that is caused by the disorder from behavior that is unrelated. When is discipline appropriate? He's strict, but patient. I wouldn't want that job in a million years.
Sounds like some of the issues you have with your Dad (like smoking pot) have nothing to do with aspergers. Either way, it's a tough spot to be in. I'm assuming you were diagnosed as a toddler, maybe a little older. Dad has had plenty of time to obtain the necessary education regarding this disorder. He should know that he can't simply toss you out now that you're 18. I don't condone what he wants to do, but after spending time with my Nephew, I certainly understand it. It can be infuriating to deal with someone with aspergers.
Sorry dude, best of luck to you.
My brother (now a retired Colonel) was very strict with him. Forced him to do well in high school, which he graduated with honors. Made Eagle Scout. He's now at a junior college and wants to go to the college his older sister went to. Unfortunately, it doesn't appear he will be able to manage that level of stress. He had a Walmart job for a short time, but had to quit. He simply couldn't function at a level necessary to be an effective employee. With the job pool being what it is lately, what employer would pick somebody with aspergers over someone equally qualified, without this disorder?
As for my nephew, his parents will probably be taking care of him for the rest of his life. I just don't see him moving out on his own and taking care of his life like someone without this disorder. Children sometimes come out flawed. Deciding to have kids means you acknowledge the risks of having a kid that is disabled. That may mean your life will be extremely difficult for a long, long time. Aspergers is relatively mild, considering the more extreme disabilities that some Parents have to deal with.
I've always wondered how my Brother can distinguish the behavior that is caused by the disorder from behavior that is unrelated. When is discipline appropriate? He's strict, but patient. I wouldn't want that job in a million years.
Sounds like some of the issues you have with your Dad (like smoking pot) have nothing to do with aspergers. Either way, it's a tough spot to be in. I'm assuming you were diagnosed as a toddler, maybe a little older. Dad has had plenty of time to obtain the necessary education regarding this disorder. He should know that he can't simply toss you out now that you're 18. I don't condone what he wants to do, but after spending time with my Nephew, I certainly understand it. It can be infuriating to deal with someone with aspergers.
Sorry dude, best of luck to you.
