SexyMiamiChic, first of all I love sexy Miami chicks and I know there are so many out there! It's nice to hear that you're one of them. Secondly, I think you can control the paranoia more easily by smoking less than experienced smokers. You can feel the effects from just one hit of a bong, even just one drag of a nicely rolled joint. Some people need three or four tokes to feel great, others just need one. Experienced smokers have a tolerance level that you don't yet. If you were smoking cannabis as much smoke as your boyfriend each time and he was an experienced smoker, you probably had way too much and it made you get super high and paranoid... a common side-effect.
My first time I got high it was great fun, I laughed my ass off, acted silly, ate incredible food and listened to the most fantastic music in a new and amazing way... the whole experience was incredible and it blew me away how good I felt, even days later and long after it had worn off. The second time I got high was a total disaster, full of paranoia because I got much, much higher and it then became one of the scariest days of my life. It's now many years later and it took me a long time to realize that the THC and CBD in cannabis do have very useful, recreational and medicinal properties for me, and I really enjoy it periodically. I just don't need to get super high to enjoy it. A toke here and there still does the job for me. Take it slow and you'll enjoy it more and have less paranoia.
To everyone else, I just noticed I'm reviving an old thread -- sorry, haven't logged in for a while and wanted to help out.