why does anyone ? I was attracted to her at one stage obviously. where are all these relationships that last an entire lifetime? 6 years is a long fkn time, way long enough to realise you could and should be doing better. is it shallow, maybe.it's nature, it's evolution. we are hardwired to desire attractive mates. If you lose an attraction the urge is to replace it , but the moral bs that society has invented makes it a very hard thing to do
Society invented morals because without them we would be animals , being shallow & self absorbed isnt evolution or nature , its childish , immature , loathsome & a unrealistic view of life .
I dont see why your all fuked up over this & cant see the bigger picture , in your initial post its all about how unattracted YOU are to her , how YOU feel YOU can do better , how YOU think your missing out ect ect ect , maybe if you spent more time being a better husband vs lusting after what YOU dont have things would be better for you .
Nothing but a brief mention of your 4 yr old child , have you given any thought to the other 2 people stuck in this right along with you ?
Here's some cons you didnt list .
1 Shitting on a woman who adores you ?
2 Leaving your child fatherless , weekend parenting is a fart in the wind ,especially when new super hot girlfriend hates your kid ?
3 The next 20 guys your kid's gonna call daddy or uncle bob ?
4 Kids from broken homes are less likely to succeed in life ?
5 What if your wife remarries & her new husband is a kick ass father , loves her & your child enough to adopt him or her ?
Why ruin lives when its you that has the problem , ive been married to the same woman for 40 yrs & yes i got tired of the pussy but i dealt with it like a man , life isnt supposed to be perfect at all times , i dont think she's became less attractive at all , its your self.centered thoughts making you ugly inside .
I'd be willing to bet cash money your woman is closer to an 8 or 9 than the low 6 you made her out to be , your seeing her in a different way than before , your seeing the mom , your seeing the cook , your seeing the cleaning lady , you listed those as pro's in your reasons.
From the way you wrote your 1st post it sounds like you dont treat the mother of your child with much respect but she still worships you , put the shoe on the other foot & you'll get a sneak peak at how you will be treated once you leave your family looking for the hottest girl you can get .
After she's spent your last penny & your working overtime ya really think she's gonna be waiting at the door with a kiss & a cold beer ? You'll end up with a shallow ass bitch who stomps on your feelings once it isnt fun for her 24/7 & she see's the real you , you'll be the one doing all the crying & pleading , meanwhile she's asking her friends how to dump the needy not so handsome sissy she's stuck with , she will loose all respect for you once you start pleading & blubbering when she wants to ditch you because she's the shallow cunt your being twords your family .
Monogomy isnt a western ideal its world wide & in many countries deadly serious , ive been married to the same non western woman for 40 yrs & there were a few yrs where i got tired of being with the same woman , but i didnt shit on her , crush her feelings & destroy our childrens lives to fulfill my desires , i dealt with it like a man who thinks about family 1st & personal desire last .
Im in my 60's now & looking back i wouldnt change a thing , i have 3 awesome sons ( lost eldest in Iraq god bless him ) & i was a part of everything they did growing up into men , i was there to teach them honor , dignity , honesty , truth , loyalty ,sacrifice , what love is & how to give & recieve love , all the things good men know & all the things you'll never be able to teach your child , weekend parents have zero positive influence on a childs life & end up causing more harm than good by insisting the woman still submit to their desires , demanding the child be available on weekends for " Visitation " rights , so now you'll be the visitor who ruins the kids chance of spending weekends with friends playing & learning how to interact with his/her peer group , you'll never be a good role model to the child .
IMO you should be on your knee's kissing her ass for putting up with the self centered , selfish & childish drama you put her thru , the fear of loosing her family SHE ADORES ,the fear of raising a fatherless child , and for making her live her life as if she's done something to be such a bad mother & wife where you'd dump her .
Ive seen this shit happen several times in my 62 yrs of life & its allways the same , the next guy she marries will adore her & be the man of her dreams while being a great father to the child you walked away from , saying you can still be part of the kids life while you build a new life without the child is a bullshit cop out , its shit loosers say to excuse their unexcusable actions .
Wake up & be the husband & father you promised to be when you found out you were gonna be a father , before she tires of you & replaces you with a man who lives up to her expectations of what a husband & father should be .