i feel bad-
something similar to this happened to me, and caused great grief. it didnt involve marijuana, directly, but was very unpleasant nonetheless.
trust me. if that lady is already goin to your business associates, shes already told anyone that she has thought could have made an immediate impact on the situation. because i know this type of narcissist, i can predict what she'll do next, right?
be ready for video and audio recording of yourself and families movement s and actions. its what comes next.
anyway. here's the cure. you have to start acting as though this is hurting you. find a counselor/therapist that takes your insurance, and go there, immediately. talk about this subject. grab your heart, say things like , my hearrt!, ohhhhhhh, my heart!
if you have insurance use it. go too the doc, and say the neighbor lady is buggin the hell outta me. say it makes your chest tight. hard to breathe.
when she gets fired up next time,(give her a reason, but nothin conspicuous, like workin on the fence, or lighting a brush fire or mowing that portion yourself for awhile. while shes foaming at the mouth, you call the fuzz. tell them the truth, crazy lady is threatening you, making you chest hurt, and stopping work and maintenance on your property.
let them know shes watching you, and contacting your associates(stalking). for sure she will try and use and video camera to try and make a video if she can( my neighbor lady got a miracle ear thing). you will have to get photos of this, a game trail cam comes to mind. cammoed out so as not to draw attention. they even have ones that are ip able, so they can send live photos and vid straight to your phone through a website. get pics of her gettin pics.
then, when all is setup properly, and she has exposed herself many times, and you have documented the INJURY caused by her, shrink, doc, police, hardware store guy/stripper.
have her prosecuted and sue her. she has obviously already slandered you, and harassed threatened your livelihood. get a protection order against her at the time of filing.
trust me. her life will be such a hell, she will think a truck hit her. felonies and civil lawsuits are a bitch.
at that time you can either give her a deal, or stick it too her.
do things in this manner. nothing aggressive, or over the top. all in the back ground kinda.
then drop the hammer.
never know. maybe they move and oyu can buy there house super cheap, right?