No, these are your words
Give me specifics. To who are you referring? And to whom are they controlling? Be specific.
We have all granted exception for government to use force, as you describe it. Just as they are accountable and held liable (which seems less so these days) for the promises they intended to fulfill when "forcefully" taking our taxes.
I agree, that if I were to go to my neighbor and demand that he give me $100 so that I could use some of that money to sweep his sidewalk and look out for bad guys, that would be nothing more than extortion. And in that sense, I suppose HOA is not much more than extortion, nor the state government "demanding" tax dollars. And all that is no different than a business owner denying someone the right to use their facility or purchase their products, which from what I understand you are ok with.
Now are you referring to business owners who deny people access based on skin color or sexual preference, or are you referring to government?
Cognitive dissonance is certainly not a facilitator to ignorance. Ignorance by definition is, "lack of knowledge or information". Cognitive dissonance is the discomfort in holding two or more contradictory beliefs or is confronted with new information that conflicts with existing beliefs. Because I choose not to be persuaded by your false equivalent arguments does not mean that I am either ignorant or experiencing cognitive dissonance, it just means you have not done a good enough job in your persuasion. Something you misunderstand about me, is that I can be pretty open minded, as most intelligent people are, as long as they can be persuaded.
Remember, you are the one making the claims, you need to persuade me. I have the advantage of continuing as I have with no worse the wear.