so if a business refused to serve your son because he is gay, you would tell your son that he just has to accept that his sexual orientation makes him less deserving of respect and equal rights, and that he should respect the bigot like you do?
You can conflate all you want, our argument really boils down to who owns a person....that person or somebody else?
I've consistently maintained nobody "owns" a person but that person themselves, you have tried hard to avoid that, but that's where our differences always come back to. Your calling me a racist is funny, in a kind of pathetic and idiotic way.
I get that you don't like the bigot, neither do I . I also get that you want to use force against him. I won't unless it is in a defensive way. The way you approve of the use of force, is not defensive though. it is a rationalization for the use of offensive force.
In your world bigots are going to interact with you like it or not and you're willing to INITIATE FORCE to them to do it. You can dance around that, but the situation is clear, you think, at least in some instances, forcing a human interaction with a person that wishes to be left alone is acceptable.
If your intent is to foster peace, there are two ways to do it,
One way is to engage in consensual relationships.
The other way is to avoid relationships where one person is forced into it, the force itself negates the possibility of peace.
If your intent is to break the peace, then proceed as you always do, make a person interact with you on YOUR terms.
Concerning my son. He has no right to force a person to interact with him. Nobody has any right to prevent him from interacting with people that wish to interact with him. My son is free to despise the bigot, he is not free to force an interaction or control the bigots property though, that would make him the aggressor.