Singlemalt
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Get a lawyer, now. He'll start hiding assets
deserate for some solid advice...
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Unclebaldrick
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If it is me, it is too late. You'll have to collect them from Bailey-Jay.com
I realise that... but I am desperate.
I dont want him to feel that..
I have tried to stand up for myself and my girl. To no avail. I have snapped.
His dad came out of retirement in order to help us and get us going!!!!!!!! Hows that for fucked up. And he doesnt even respect his dad enough to listen to him either. I dont want to fuck him over. I believe in him and trusted that he was this exceptional being like he said he was, capable of so much love. And I love him. You dont give up on that do you?
His dad came out of retirement in order to help us and get us going!!!!!!!! Hows that for fucked up. And he doesnt even respect his dad enough to listen to him either. I dont want to fuck him over. I believe in him and trusted that he was this exceptional being like he said he was, capable of so much love. And I love him. You dont give up on that do you?
Singlemalt
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Who says that about themselves? Well, other than stinkliner. Extremely narcissistic, mucho red flags
qwizoking
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Sounds eerily like my last relationship
Was your daughter born in the beginning of October? Were you born in middle of august?
Lol
Theres definitely some missing details though. I thought he was trying to leave you and he gave up
Took me a while to realize you dont "fight" for love. Give up and let go. Move on to better.
It takes a long time, honestly a full year before i was really moving past it..which was just a couple months ago. And i was falling down in that pit of darkness. I still love my ex wife of course. Shit the first girl i had sex with, got together beginning of highschool, went to college together etc..
But its a make believe happiness i promise. Once you find someone else youll be all better
Was your daughter born in the beginning of October? Were you born in middle of august?
Lol
Theres definitely some missing details though. I thought he was trying to leave you and he gave up
Took me a while to realize you dont "fight" for love. Give up and let go. Move on to better.
It takes a long time, honestly a full year before i was really moving past it..which was just a couple months ago. And i was falling down in that pit of darkness. I still love my ex wife of course. Shit the first girl i had sex with, got together beginning of highschool, went to college together etc..
But its a make believe happiness i promise. Once you find someone else youll be all better
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PKHydro
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Sounds like you've been manipulated. This guy has no official diagnosis, isn't doing anything to help himself (medication, councilling, etc) and instead is forcing his retired parents back to work to support his ass. By the sounds of things he's a bit of a deadbeat and you, and your daughter, deserve better.
My wife has felt your frustration many times. She has been a huge support for me and my issues since I became disabled, but the downside of that, is her feelings and needs tend to take a backseat. I am so caught up in my issues that I often neglect her feelings and seldom show her my appreciation. The only thing that has kept us together is that she can see that I am at least trying, by seeking councilling, trying medications (I'm very much anti big pharma so this was hard for me but I gave it a fair shake at least, FOR HER) and now being active in seeking other ways to heal (meditation, psilocybin etc..)
You said he's not making any effort, and rather relying on family to take care of him and baby him along. EXPECIALLY because he hasn't even been diagnosed from a fucking doctor. If his family really wanted to help they would stop enabling him and instead make him get some help and do his best to live a normal productive life.
My wife has felt your frustration many times. She has been a huge support for me and my issues since I became disabled, but the downside of that, is her feelings and needs tend to take a backseat. I am so caught up in my issues that I often neglect her feelings and seldom show her my appreciation. The only thing that has kept us together is that she can see that I am at least trying, by seeking councilling, trying medications (I'm very much anti big pharma so this was hard for me but I gave it a fair shake at least, FOR HER) and now being active in seeking other ways to heal (meditation, psilocybin etc..)
You said he's not making any effort, and rather relying on family to take care of him and baby him along. EXPECIALLY because he hasn't even been diagnosed from a fucking doctor. If his family really wanted to help they would stop enabling him and instead make him get some help and do his best to live a normal productive life.
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reddan1981
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It is a breath of fresh air, to hear a woman show concern for her man. You haven't failed him, or your daughter. His rejection of you is HIS failure. Still you are looking for answers, for solutions. If HE is willing to look for solution, he must seek it himself to prove his willingness to You. If he isn't, then short of a family intervention, there is little you can do. You owe him nothing, you owe your daughter a life without this unhappiness. Have respect for yourself, understand your own worth, show your daughter that this shouldn't be tolerated in a relationship. If you don't, it could either damage her respect of men, or destine her to repeat this cycle.
Commander Strax
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reddan1981
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I read guilt? What are you guilty of? Did you cheat?
Cobnobuler
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If you beg him back now, you'll be on your knees and begging for the rest of your life.
For your own good start thinking about what you need to do to best protect yourself and your kid.
Your in the guilt and denial phase. You say you've done everything and bent over backward to try to make it work ?
Its time for you to get pissed off
WHATFG
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Gotta stop you there honey.....you must be willing to do anything to protect yourself and your child. If he has manipulated you into thinking he was bipolar, what else has he told you stories about? You need to pack up your daughter and make tracks.
Yessica...
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THIS 100%
Stop feeling bad for someone that won't help themselves.
Get yourself and your daughter somewhere safe.
Tell him, he has X amount of time to get the ball rolling to get himself some help. And if he doesn't - leave him!
There is a lot of help out there for crazy people - but it takes A LOT of effort on their part to go get it.
Hi @farsyt - nice to meet you. I'm kinda bipolar myself. I have about....18 years experience with mental shit, personal experience. You want talk sometime - send me a PM.
I won't talk about everything out here. But I might be able to provide some insight.
abe supercro
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Is that an allusion to suicide? Now that's not very attractive. Sounds like guilt tripping. And you have a child? Maybe he's not the only bipolar one. See a doctor instead of infiltrating your husband's stoner friends. This is all kinda sneaky... are you trolling us w fabrication or just attempting to manipulate the predicament? Either way, take care of yourself. strangers opinions hardly matter.
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reddan1981
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Out of curiosity, what does your Avatar name mean?
Do you tend to hold grudges?
Do you tend to hold grudges?