I need some advice :(

[jahman2222]

you gotta cry man..you gotta man up and do it, even though you might think its pussy..you just gotta do it, trust me i know all about this, I freakout at my girlfriend sooo much, i think i might have an anger problem..anyway the last time i freaked out at her we were so close to breaking up, i broke out the tears and started saying itd never happen again. Now were happy..so thats my advice, cry

 

[smokablunt16]

you gotta cry man..you gotta man up and do it, even though you might think its pussy..you just gotta do it, trust me i know all about this, I freakout at my girlfriend sooo much, i think i might have an anger problem..anyway the last time i freaked out at her we were so close to breaking up, i broke out the tears and started saying itd never happen again. Now were happy..so thats my advice, cry

Theres def some shit to clear up that you also shouldnt let her get away with. But first, you need to let her know your side of the story. Let her know how you saw the whole thing and why you felt angry.
95% sure she just sees it from her point of view, that you just got angry at her for no reason and that she was right to react the way she did etc.
Dont know exactly how it happened, but tell her how you were trying to make her happy and get some drinks and have a good time but then she just spillt everything and didnt seem to care or whatever and you were jsut upset because she didnt seem to care about what you thought would be a nice gesture...

Girls love to think they had the right to get angry that what they did was justified from their point of view

Thats exactly what happened...good advice, good advice...She called me at work after my last post and was making sure i was okay again, then said nevermind im sorry I called? Like the sensitive guy i am out of nowhere just busted some tears out and she was like "stop dont make me feel bad"...Im so confused on whats going on right now and you all are helping me out greatly...Like I said before Im in LOVE with her and would do anything creative, thoughtful, apologetic to attempt to get her back...YEah she punched me in the face and It should be closed case right there but we were drunk and i know shes sorry...I just still feel like the one whose to blame...Should I call? Should I wait a little bit? Anything would help...

 

[rkm]

We went to the Dave Matthews concert over the weekend and everything was fine until the concert...Tailgating we got all drunk of course then we went to the concert...about 15 min later i went and got us some beer then went back to where every one was..Got there then she came up all drunk and spilled one of the beers(8$ might i add) then i got pissed started bitching at her for being a little out of hand and she got even more pissed and spilled the other beer out of my hand..I started walking away and she tried grabbing me and i kept shooing her off until finally she punched me right in the face...She was lost for 3 hours barefoot and cold and didnt get to see the concert...me neither...But i feel bad because she was lost, had a sprained ankle from trying to get me to come back, bare footed--now with cuts on her feet from glass, missed the concert she paid for, all because i was an idiot and walked away like a little girl because she spilled some damn beer..

My opinion.....IF she honestly punched you unprovoked.....and you in no way showed any aggression or force towards her....let her go....dont feel guilty if she was lost, she was drunk. Cut her loose....You just got a taste of those true colors.

 

[smokablunt16]

Ya know that makes a lot of sense....I just am that forgiving that even if she did punch me in the face I 'd forgive her in a heartbeat though thats what sucks..I would never in a million years be aggressive towards a female and look down upon anyone that would..It just sucks how Im so forgiving for anything anyone else had done but they can be the same way...Ive felt so sick at work today i had to leave early because of all of this and I just wish i knew the right things to do and say to her...

 

[rkm]

Ya know that makes a lot of sense....I just am that forgiving that even if she did punch me in the face I 'd forgive her in a heartbeat though thats what sucks..I would never in a million years be aggressive towards a female and look down upon anyone that would..It just sucks how Im so forgiving for anything anyone else had done but they can be the same way...Ive felt so sick at work today i had to leave early because of all of this and I just wish i knew the right things to do and say to her...

You just have to decide, is this what I can expect every time she drinks? What ever the answer is, in order to stop it now, something or someone has to go.

BTW..this is only valid if what you say is 100% true.

 

[smokablunt16]

very true, when ever we drink she always gets out of hand and always ruins my nights out with my buddies and her or her buddies and me...Hence why I never go out anymore and she feels bad....I would give up drinking for her why cant it be the same...Its been a little over a month since my last hit of ganja because im trying to get a new job and it just sucks because that would seriously be the medicine I need right now..

 

[rkm]

very true, when ever we drink she always gets out of hand and always ruins my nights out with my buddies and her or her buddies and me...Hence why I never go out anymore and she feels bad....I would give up drinking for her why cant it be the same...Its been a little over a month since my last hit of ganja because im trying to get a new job and it just sucks because that would seriously be the medicine I need right now..

I am not going to tell you what to do....you know the situation. But keep in mind, you come first before someone else. Sounds selfish but its not.

 

[smokablunt16]

Well i just called her and now I know for sure its done...Trial and error I guess...It just hurts knowing that someone doesnt feel the same about you anymore that you do for them...

 

[jahman2222]

i know the feeling bro..it sucks..and you feel like no ones gona be out there for you..but there are..what happend? why do you know its forsure done?

 

[rkm]

Well i just called her and now I know for sure its done...Trial and error I guess...It just hurts knowing that someone doesnt feel the same about you anymore that you do for them...

Been there done that, and your story sounded so familiar. Do what you got to do. Don't feel guilty for making decisions like this, your first obligation is to make yourself happy first and foremost. No person should subject themself to relationships like that.

 

[smokablunt16]

i know the feeling bro..it sucks..and you feel like no ones gona be out there for you..but there are..what happend? why do you know its forsure done?

Thats exactly it, I jus feel like she was the one and i dont even want to try and start over with someone else...We did everything and shared everything together and now its gone...I guess its for the best and I should want her to be happy with her decisions...

Se just kept saying stuff like you'll be fine, we just dont work..etc..I did the whole crying thing like sensitive guy I am and she just tried telling me everything will be fine for me n shit like that...Im just a complete wreck right now..

 

[smokablunt16]

Been there done that, and your story sounded so familiar. Do what you got to do. Don't feel guilty for making decisions like this, your first obligation is to make yourself happy first and foremost. No person should subject themself to relationships like that.

My position is I love making other people happy before me, most of all her...I just feel guilty for all the times i was mean to her but it was vice versa..she started fights as well...I just want her to be happy if this is the decisionshe wants to make it'll just take some time I guess..

 

[DWR]

ahhhhhhhhhhhhh dude...... Take it easy peasy..... atleast you dont have to live with a fuckhead that punches you... wtf !!! ??? Sorry me and my girl have had real bad fights... and i mean real bad.. the police even came round cuz obv. something wasnt right ... not to mention i just harvested !!! * didnt find anything those fuckers *

I think u should shit on her while u can.......... U obv. get anoyed with her cuz u want something else and believe me little fish there's many ponds to swimm in

MUHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA .... Wana join me jump the ponds ?

Ahhh chill dude

smoke a blunt Invite some friends round, forget her... tell ya friends to invite some chicks from outa state or somin yo !

Yeah dude... life's beautyfull when u see the most shittiest part of it !


--- To taste sweetness one must taste shit... or somin like ---

 

[mahlye]

My position is I love making other people happy before me, most of all her...I just feel guilty for all the times i was mean to her but it was vice versa..she started fights as well...I just want her to be happy if this is the decisionshe wants to make it'll just take some time I guess..

You thought that she was the one and this happened =/ I'm really sorry then..wow. honestly from reading one post where she told you to move on, you'll be fine, etc. I think you should take her advice but I understand how hard this could be. this really scares me, though.

I am 18 and in April I started dating my current girlfriend...and from April until now she has become my best friend and I love her with my entire being. The memories that I have with her are the best that I have out of my life so far..I consider her to be the best thing that has ever happened to me. I can't even explain how much I care for her. and I think she is the one too, which is why this thread is making me nervous...I totally see us 10 years from now. look, I won't elaborate on our relationship but it's been pretty short and we've come so far and check this...

she went to a private school so I asked her to come party with my senior class one day over the summer. she went with me but was mad when I smoked a bunch of blunts...so I took her and my friend to my friends house so we could get away from all of the people. but when we got there he was playing pong with this girl, so I got my gf to play a round with me. the beer was old and it was disgusting so I quit after one round and smoked a bong. she kept drinking it, idk why...probably because I smoked so much. but then she was talking to me about college and making out with girls and she can't wait...and that hurt a little bit. she just went off saying dumb shit because she was drunk. then made out with that girl in front of me and my friends. I was like..this is how she acts when she's drunk? going to college? fuck this relationship. most guys would find that cool but I wont be there when she's at college..so I'd be scared of her cheating. then all of this drama went down I broke up with her, she was throwing up all night and really depressed. so then the next day we talked and she swore off alcohol for me. she hasnt had a sip of any alcohol since that night and promised me that she would not drink in college..supposedly she is doing this for herself. but I know that she cares about me and doesnt want to lose me, so it's mostly for me I guess. but try to work out a deal with your girlfriend...like you wont drink around her or something. i had to give up something for her, too. but it all worked out thank god. make up a deal though, try that out. sorry that this happened to you. and for this long ass post i hope no one took the time to read. if you did, I'd have one of those with you. cats.

 

[smokablunt16]

ahhhhhhhhhhhhh dude...... Take it easy peasy..... atleast you dont have to live with a fuckhead that punches you... wtf !!! ??? Sorry me and my girl have had real bad fights... and i mean real bad.. the police even came round cuz obv. something wasnt right ... not to mention i just harvested !!! * didnt find anything those fuckers *

I think u should shit on her while u can.......... U obv. get anoyed with her cuz u want something else and believe me little fish there's many ponds to swimm in

MUHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA .... Wana join me jump the ponds ?

Ahhh chill dude

smoke a blunt Invite some friends round, forget her... tell ya friends to invite some chicks from outa state or somin yo !

Yeah dude... life's beautyfull when u see the most shittiest part of it !


--- To taste sweetness one must taste shit... or somin like ---

Bro i think your post was just what I needed...lol

I think a day when im off work Im going to invite a nice little group of close buddies over and just chill and just get my mind off things....If its meant to be then she'll be back..but if its not then life too short to just hang by phone waiting...

time to get my blunt rolled, (if i didnt stop for a new job), and get my damn swim trunks on!

 

[Florida Girl]

i was an ass and called her a bitch n shit for punching me, we can never drink and not fight...etc.. Im pissed because I think SHE ruined my first concert,and punched me in the face..

This is a HUGE RED FLAG!!!! If the two of you can't drink together and not fight then the two of you need to not drink.... or not be together.

 

[DWR]

Bro i think your post was just what I needed...lol

I think a day when im off work Im going to invite a nice little group of close buddies over and just chill and just get my mind off things....If its meant to be then she'll be back..but if its not then life too short to just hang by phone waiting...

time to get my blunt rolled, (if i didnt stop for a new job), and get my damn swim trunks on!

................... Forget her..........

Believe me, you might think you've gone through allot of shit... why go trough more ??????????

I am gona smoke my j now !

 

[donWonton]

heres the best solution, if your girl is like this: just have hardcore make up sex man...or some shit like that...

 

[smokablunt16]

@Mahlye----How long has it been since she drank? Im on the same boat with the whole girl on girl thing...If its two random girls then so be it..AWESOME...but if its my girlfriend and someone else I'd flip shit..A couple of weeks ago I saw her doing a triple kiss with two other girls all drunk about it and FLIPPED!! She didnt see the big deal but in a way i looked at it like some sort of cheating?

I hope everyhting works out for ya bro but you just gotta hope for the best but expect the worst...

 

[DWR]

heres the best solution, if your girl is like this: just have hardcore make up sex man...or some shit like that...

worst solution ever cuz if you dont want her around you anymore..... you'd rather have a limp dick when she's blowing ya ^^ hahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa