CaregiverGoneGreen
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Haha I'm sure he's out there somewhere.A well spoken, funny single parent and you're taking care of the family too, yea he's gonna be one awesome dude to be worth your time.
Haha I'm sure he's out there somewhere.A well spoken, funny single parent and you're taking care of the family too, yea he's gonna be one awesome dude to be worth your time.
I've had friends go through this, and some times it's better to just do on your own then deal with the crap with the courts and custody battles.That's seems cool of you, but child support is that child's right, not yours. That kid deserves the extra income for the best chance at a great life. It's a pretty simple process: just file in family court, and they will hunt this loser down and garnish his paycheck, tax returns, etc. Every little bit helps, right? Plus, it seems that your hands are really full caring for other family members. Just my 2 cents...
He better be, or I'm taking that floating half naked fat fuck named Cupid and breaking his arrows across his skullHaha I'm sure he's out there somewhere.
I believe they should force fathers to be fathers a check means absolutely nothing to a kid a father means everything I understand the financial responsibility of raising a child but that should only Co exist with being a father to your child or penalty of imprisonment aswell responsibility it's a child not a bill just my $0.02That's seems cool of you, but child support is that child's right, not yours. That kid deserves the extra income for the best chance at a great life. It's a pretty simple process: just file in family court, and they will hunt this loser down and garnish his paycheck, tax returns, etc. Every little bit helps, right? Plus, it seems that your hands are really full caring for other family members. Just my 2 cents...
My suggestion is to find a dude who's going somewhere. A dude who goes to chico state or something like that.Haha I'm sure he's out there somewhere.
I kind of agree, but being a kid from a broken home. I'm glad my sperm donor was not a part of my life what so ever. Some guys just aren't meant to be fathers.I believe they should force fathers to be fathers a check means absolutely nothing to a kid a father means everything I understand the financial responsibility of raising a child but that should only Co exist with being a father to your child or penalty of imprisonment aswell responsibility it's a child not a bill just my $0.02
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Whether he pays cs or not, he could still petition for visitation. One is not linked to the other. He obviously doesn't want to be a part of the kid's life, so it seems he'd just be a paycheck. Statistically, kids develop better with a dad in their lives, I'm sure you know that. They only reason I could understand not to go for cs is if he is abusive. Other than that, the child deserves the financial support, and/or a chance to have the dad in his life even on a very limited basis. Too often parents look at things from their desires and perspectives instead of what is truly best for the child. I'm not saying you're doing that necessarily, and it's none of my business. Just making conversationExcept here's the thing. I would then have to accept a possible custody case. Because him paying (in my state) means he has a right to petition. And he has no right. He doesn't even know my son's name. I provide just fine, thank you very much. lol. But I appreciate the thought. It's just worth the extra we're not getting to not have to be afraid of him. He doesn't know where we live anymore and we want to keep it that way.
Yes, ideally the child should have both the financial support and a dad. But the law does not attempt to force a man to spend time with his children, but does force them to pay. You can do a lot for a child with extra finances, it is objectively better than nothing. And often, when the court forces cs, the dad starts taking an interest in the child. It's as if their hiding from paying, but once they have to, they some figure they may as well spend time on the child, too. Strange...I believe they should force fathers to be fathers a check means absolutely nothing to a kid a father means everything I understand the financial responsibility of raising a child but that should only Co exist with being a father to your child or penalty of imprisonment aswell responsibility it's a child not a bill just my $0.02
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I'm not saying it's a perfect for every situation obviously you would not want to force a drucken child beater to be around a kid but the support system is broken aswell I have seen many good dad's over the years get fucked out of seeing there kids yet forced to pay hundreds monthly that never goes to the children anyways again not saying that all people abuse the support moneyI kind of agree, but being a kid from a broken home. I'm glad my sperm donor was not a part of my life what so ever. Some guys just aren't meant to be fathers.
I know what you were and are saying. I usually tell my friends in that situation, keep every receipt for anything you buy for their kids, documentation is key in court. I've seen girls brag about getting child support checks, then hitting the salon, buying clothes for themself and none of that money went to the kid.I'm not saying it's a perfect for every situation obviously you would not want to force a drucken child beater to be around a kid but the support system is broken aswell I have seen many good dad's over the years get fucked out of seeing there kids yet forced to pay hundreds monthly that never goes to the children anyways again not saying that all people abuse the support money
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Again i understand it needs to be a case by case basis but i just think that the way they do things is broken because there are good dad's out there that get fucked in court over the man vs woman factorYes, ideally the child should have both the financial support and a dad. But the law does not attempt to force a man to spend time with his children, but does force them to pay. You can do a lot for a child with extra finances, it is objectively better than nothing. And often, when the court forces cs, the dad starts taking an interest in the child. It's as if their hiding from paying, but once they have to, they some figure they may as well spend time on the child, too. Strange...
Oh man, do I agree with you. I got royally fucked during my last divorce by the courts. I was ordered to pay SO much money that I could not afford my own rent. I asked the judge where I was supposed to take my kid on weekends when I'm homeless. She replied, "not my problem". It is a fucked up system to be sure, and I was a great dad. But, that's all beside the point. A broken court system is just another obstacle to be overcome. That's the origin of me selling, then growing. weed. Just to pay for that shit. Another case of the courts creating a criminalAgain i understand it needs to be a case by case basis but i just think that the way they do things is broken because there are good dad's out there that get fucked in court over the man vs woman factor
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Unless that person is a sociopath who I'd sooner toe tag than let near my son.I believe they should force fathers to be fathers a check means absolutely nothing to a kid a father means everything I understand the financial responsibility of raising a child but that should only Co exist with being a father to your child or penalty of imprisonment aswell responsibility it's a child not a bill just my $0.02
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He tried to push me out of a moving car. And killed my bird. So... lolWhether he pays cs or not, he could still petition for visitation. One is not linked to the other. He obviously doesn't want to be a part of the kid's life, so it seems he'd just be a paycheck. Statistically, kids develop better with a dad in their lives, I'm sure you know that. They only reason I could understand not to go for cs is if he is abusive. Other than that, the child deserves the financial support, and/or a chance to have the dad in his life even on a very limited basis. Too often parents look at things from their desires and perspectives instead of what is truly best for the child. I'm not saying you're doing that necessarily, and it's none of my business. Just making conversation
My dad ditched us for meth. I feel this.I kind of agree, but being a kid from a broken home. I'm glad my sperm donor was not a part of my life what so ever. Some guys just aren't meant to be fathers.
It's a sexist ass system is what it is. Any decent father should have a chance. Women are not always genetically predesposed to be what their children need.Again i understand it needs to be a case by case basis but i just think that the way they do things is broken because there are good dad's out there that get fucked in court over the man vs woman factor
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Maybe the bird was just old...He tried to push me out of a moving car. And killed my bird. So... lol
Meth is a horrible thing.My dad ditched us for meth. I feel this.
I'm not even looking right now. He'll find me. I got shit to do. lolMy suggestion is to find a dude who's going somewhere. A dude who goes to chico state or something like that.
Here's the deal:
You are in the top 1% for looks up here. Chicks are fucking butt ugly and fat up here. Seriously! I'm screwed, but then again, i'm 42.
Do not go lookin for dudes up in magalia. They are all ex-convicts with no teeff. Good luck.
My daughter is curently looking for a doctor to marry she got tired of pissing me off and dating scrubs