Anyone ever loose their growing partner?

Jeffro420

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My dad's been gone for 3 years now and I miss him every day. He was my best friend and we did mostly everything together. He taught me many life lessons from the time I was born till the day he passed. The one thing he taught me that I'll be forever grateful for is how to turn a seed into somthing mich better.....

We used to be growing partners and he would be the funding part (buy supplies, nutes, dirt, etc) I would be the grunt and do most the back breaking labor. We shared many hours together trimming and searching for the best strains.

He would often sneak up behind me while I would be watering and either tap me or try to startle me and often it worked. Still to this day when I'm bent over in the corner of a room reaching to water that plant that's just out of reach I expect that tap.

We just trimmed up our best batch to date and everything was looking great. He came over and we split everything up. He left with his jars full with a large grin in his face. Less than a week later he passed away froman uunexpected heart complication in his sleep.
As I stood in his room where he passed I felt such a feeling of sadness and unknowingness. I looked over and on his nightstand their was a doobie that was half burned and sitting on the edge if the table. I picked it up and smoked the rest. It helped a little.

it gave me an idea though. My dad had tons of friends and family. Most of which were smokers and from the 70s. So i proceeded to roll 300 doobies. I had some assistance doing this and it still took a few days on and off. I printed out a bunch of business card sized pictures of my dad that said "This lasts ones on me, straight from my personal stash".

I passed them out before the funeral and through out. I feel it truly passed along his joy to everyone one last time. He enjoyed nothing more than grabbing his rolling pan and rolling up somthing fire that he produced and showing it off.

Sorry for thr long post but i got to thinking I'm sure someone on here had a similar experience even with a friend and knows how bitter the grow room feels after you walk in the first year or so by yourself and have no one to talk to or help and sit there in silence.

That's the main reason I've joined this sight was so i could discuss and talk about daily growing with someone and not go crazy just thinking about the ins and outs to myself in my head.

So thanks guys, you helped me through a hard time.

Jeffro.
 

resinhead

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Sorry for your loss. That was an awesomely beautiful thing you did with the doobies.

I once had a relationship collapse while growing with a friend. I regret that day. Wish I would have handled the situation different. I'm in a much better situation now, and hope that my old partner is too.

If you decide to work with anyone again (wouldn't recommend it) make sure they love and respect the plant as much as you do.
 
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Jeffro420

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Sorry for your loss. That was an awesomely beautiful thing you did with the doobies.

I once had a relationship collapse while growing with a friend. I regret that day. Wish I would have handled the situation different. I'm in a much better situation now, and hope that my old partner is too.

If you decide to work with anyone again (wouldn't recommend it) make sure they love and respect the plant as much as you do.
Thanks. Yea it's strictly a solo thing now. I just take the past as it was and accept the future as it is. I still hire a trimming buddy though cause that shit sucks by yourself haha.
 

tyke1973

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Sorry for your loss,breed a plant a dedicate it to him like we did with the basil kush we did,we grew up watching basil bush (BOOM BOOM)Now ever time i smoke that strain it reminds me of him,
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I would never advice growing with friends,friendships break down,also girlfriend's,i have two friends that have both done time through been grassed by them x girlfriend once they broke up,i also have a friend that was robbed through a girlfriend telling her,new boyfriend every detail about a friends op he had going he was robbed and put in a coma through this,
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Peace jha bless
tyke
 

VTMi'kmaq

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Theres no way to handle losing your dad gracefully. I can relate...
...fishkill IBM exposed him to chemicals that gave him a rare form of cancer that RAVAGED him in less than a yr. Seeing a man that could haul quartered moose outa the woods go to a skeleton of pain is truly torture. Upwards and onwards
 

HydroGrowLover

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Growing with your dad? Man that had to be fun. Rolling up 300 doobies for a funeral in his honor is awesome. I know your post was lengthy but its heartfelt and I am sorry for your loss. I just lost my dad to heart complications broke me down hard. Maybe one day I will grow with my son. About how old were you when you started to help?
 

Jeffro420

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Growing with your dad? Man that had to be fun. Rolling up 300 doobies for a funeral in his honor is awesome. I know your post was lengthy but its heartfelt and I am sorry for your loss. I just lost my dad to heart complications broke me down hard. Maybe one day I will grow with my son. About how old were you when you started to help?

I had just got my own house and was 18 almost 19. He was only 53 when he passed so it was super unexpected. I figured I had atleast another good 10 years with him around. taught me life is short and don't take anything for granted. He was an old school grower back when they would grow in corn fields and never get caught. He taught me alot about growing. Always would tell cool storys about the 70s and how garbage most buds were back then lol. But if he was here today he would be amazed at the progress I've made over the last 3 almost 4 years.

One thing he always said.....and it's true to this day is.

"Times with money and no weed are worse than times with weed and no money".
 

bbyb420

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god man this has me crying like a baby i have a similar relation ship with mine and hes terminal. fucking idiopathic pulminary fibrosis. such a great man. he helped me through so much, im sorry for your loss man fuck the reaper
 

justugh

Well-Known Member
My dad's been gone for 3 years now and I miss him every day. He was my best friend and we did mostly everything together. He taught me many life lessons from the time I was born till the day he passed. The one thing he taught me that I'll be forever grateful for is how to turn a seed into somthing mich better.....

We used to be growing partners and he would be the funding part (buy supplies, nutes, dirt, etc) I would be the grunt and do most the back breaking labor. We shared many hours together trimming and searching for the best strains.

He would often sneak up behind me while I would be watering and either tap me or try to startle me and often it worked. Still to this day when I'm bent over in the corner of a room reaching to water that plant that's just out of reach I expect that tap.

We just trimmed up our best batch to date and everything was looking great. He came over and we split everything up. He left with his jars full with a large grin in his face. Less than a week later he passed away froman uunexpected heart complication in his sleep.
As I stood in his room where he passed I felt such a feeling of sadness and unknowingness. I looked over and on his nightstand their was a doobie that was half burned and sitting on the edge if the table. I picked it up and smoked the rest. It helped a little.

it gave me an idea though. My dad had tons of friends and family. Most of which were smokers and from the 70s. So i proceeded to roll 300 doobies. I had some assistance doing this and it still took a few days on and off. I printed out a bunch of business card sized pictures of my dad that said "This lasts ones on me, straight from my personal stash".

I passed them out before the funeral and through out. I feel it truly passed along his joy to everyone one last time. He enjoyed nothing more than grabbing his rolling pan and rolling up somthing fire that he produced and showing it off.

Sorry for thr long post but i got to thinking I'm sure someone on here had a similar experience even with a friend and knows how bitter the grow room feels after you walk in the first year or so by yourself and have no one to talk to or help and sit there in silence.

That's the main reason I've joined this sight was so i could discuss and talk about daily growing with someone and not go crazy just thinking about the ins and outs to myself in my head.

So thanks guys, you helped me through a hard time.

Jeffro.
i just lost my pops

he was ot into growing but he knew it helped me and supported me ( need bail call him up be out in 6-10 hours ....let me keep my car under his name so if ever got pulled over the car could always be gotten back .....in my name would be seized )

i plan on honoring by making up a new rec strain calling is southern grumps ......i hope to meet u in a contest if u do the same
swap stories of the crazy old man drink shine so the weed

knuckle bump of missing the old man

@Chef420
thanks hope i this guy and we get shitty tell old man stories
knuckle bump
 
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