I think you missed the point, but anywoot
Most marriage are about a give and take. Its not about monitoring anothers decision. Kind of confused why you would use that terminology. Certain things I bounce off my wife to see how bad or good of an idea it is...same with her. I recently told my wife I was going to the next rally to protest the protest. She thinks that is a stupid idea and will make sure my ass don't go out of town in the near future, Nothing about her monitoring me. It called being in a marriage and sometimes somebody has to be the voice of reason.
I would disapprove of my wife if she took money from a company that she helped to bankrupt and also lied about donation money to get a loan. Same way she would disapprove of me doing something illegal.