I recently took Dabs to the vet, I usually ask for the female vet bc shes real sweet and my cats are really calm around her. This time I got the male vet and was really surprised he discussed training techniques with me. The female woyldnt really answer my questions about some things it seemed like she felt it wasnt her job to give training advice. But anyways, this male vet walks in the room and Dabs is all hyper as shit to see him. He bends down on 1 knee and puts her into a sitting position facing out. He holds her for about 5 min and hes readjusting as she tries to break free. After 5min she just gave up. He gave her a few kisses and said calmly good girl. After that she was just chilled out.
He then told me about Shaun Ellis a guy who went to study and live with wolves. He explained how some old techniques we thought were the right way to train dogs are in fact not the way. Like..pinning a dog down on his side shows dominance, jerking the lead to get them to not pull.
We bring dogs into our little worlds and then we think thry think like us and have feelings like us and they dont.