I agree w/you until the kids hit early teen/puberty age,then many kids it seems to me see their parents as uncool, I'm childless,but I've seem many friends kids hit the piss in mom and dads face button at that juncture. After all the sacrifices made by these parents in raising their children, I can't imagine dealing w/the disappointment they must feel. Years of fine parenting thrown into turmoil by little junior falling in with or being influenced by the wrong crowd. I remember a friend of mine hooking up his son w/a apartment in his 3 decker rental that he owns,the kid is mid 20's and still goes home to have mommy feed and wash his clothes. He has a job paying more than dad,and pays no rent making the rental property unprofitable and just breaking even after mort. and insurance. Dad asks him to why he can't help out by throwing mom and dad a couple bucks,not full rent mind you, just maybe 2-300 a month.Kid refuses and dad asks "what do you do w/your money", the son replies "I live". Go figure.no, we're not, if that was effective, we wouldn't even be having this conversation.
a child's parents are the single biggest influence on them, period. they see them every day, they associate food, safety, and stability with them, even if they offer very little of any of it. they actively tell their children how to behave, and constantly supply examples, whether intended or not. what you suggest does slow the tide, but it will not turn it. that has to be done incrementally, in the circumstances allowed, and that means it will be many generations before we see any significant changes in the attitudes of those raised by racists and bigots.