It isn't so much the excess Calcium that causes issues, but the form that the Calcium is in. Not Calcium, but rather Calcium Carbonate (CaCO3), aka Dolomite Lime. It isn't so much the hardness of the water that causes the issue, but what specifically makes the water hard. Salt build up of any type can cause issues, but the worst is when the water source comes from Limestone of any sort, then you're effectively watering with liquid dolomite lime, causing excess alkalinity in your pH that results in these issues.
Peat moss actually has double the CEC that Coco coir does, so I'm honestly stumped as to how there were no issues with coco as opposed to peat moss. Especially since the Peat Moss is acidic, where as the coco is not.
Correct. But if we learn to work with the water instead of against it, we can use this to our advantage. By creating a new soil devoid of any liming agent (no Dolomite Lime, Oyster Shell Flour, etc) then we can use the hard water as our liming agent instead. Once I removed the lime from my soil and continued using my well water as normal, it eliminated all of my issues.
Try it out yourself. Get yourself some peat moss and put it into 2 cups, one with distilled water and the other with hard/well water. Strain, then apply pH drops. You'll note the peat moss is pure red (3.0-4.0 pH) and the well water is a perfect 7.0 pH from the water buffering the peat. Furthermore, wait 48 hours and not that the pH remains the same.
Regards.