What are your opinions of mixed race relationships?

[suicidesamurai]

Also, cognitive psychology is an experimental and research-oriented field. It hasn't much to do with spotting 'changing stories'.

 

[skunkushybrid]

I see your point, i really do. It sounds as though your sister has deliberately alienated herself from your family. I doubt it is about colour, but instead the whole culture thing that is at issue here.

If my sister went out with a muslim, and started wearing all the gear, I'd disown her like a shot.

 

[heymo85]

I personally don't care if people want to mix outside of their race, so to speak. Because I'm a libertarian, even if I see something that I don't really agree with (like someone hiring a prostitute in Nevada where it is legal, for example), I would still be glad to see it in a weird kind of way if free will is being practiced and the government isn't sticking their nose in (miscegenation used to be illegal, of course).

That being said, family is different. My sister (who lives in Vegas) is dating a Mexican, and I no longer speak to her because of it. It is something that, although my parents more or less accept it, I know they don't agree with it. My other sister (who lives here in Alabama) knows better than to do such a thing, because she respects the wishes of her family. If the Vegas sister doesn't want to do that, she can deal with no longer having a brother. When her relationship with the guy ends, our familial relationship will not resume (atleast not for quite some time), and she can learn a harsh lesson from that. There is too much of a stigma attached to mixed-race couples, so it is best to avoid them.

Not all stoners think alike, as you can clearly see from reading threads in the politics sub-forum.

You ask whatever happened to free will - I do not wish to stop anyone from doing something they choose to do. That does not mean I have to appreciate it. I simply tolerate it.

Really it isn't about me caring what race her boyfriend is. It is that she knows our parents don't like it but she does it anyway. She has no respect for the wishes of her parents, so I have no respect for her. Understand?

Fuck, I would hate to have you as my kid. You must not have been raised right if you don't believe in obedience to parental will. You don't seem to understand that when you do things, there can be consequences. If you decide to break the law, you take the chance of going to jail. And if you do something other people don't want you to do, you take the risk of destroying relationships. She took a gamble and lost. And if my family is fucked up, I'd hate to see yours.

The reason I don't talk to her isn't because her boyfriend is Mexican (although, as I said, it is best to avoid them, even though I don't really care if people do it), it's because she is doing something (and someone) that my parents don't consent to, although they still talk to her. I took it a step further and don't talk to her.

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[suicidesamurai]

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All you had to do was read the next sentence.

My sister (who lives in Vegas) is dating a Mexican, and I no longer speak to her because of it. It is something that, although my parents more or less accept it, I know they don't agree with it.

I said why I don't talk to her, and explained the reasoning behind it in the next sentence.

The only thing I said against interracial relationships that I personally feel that it is best to avoid them because of social stigmas. In the Deep South where I am, it is more of an issue than in other places. That isn't racism on my part, it's thinking it is better to not have people look at you weird.

If I wanted to say "I hate blacks" or "The J00Z run the world", I would have already said it.

 

[heymo85]

All you had to do was read the next sentence.


I said why I don't talk to her, and explained the reasoning behind it in the next sentence.

The only thing I said against interracial relationships that I personally feel that it is best to avoid them because of social stigmas. In the Deep South where I am, it is more of an issue than in other places. That isn't racism on my part, it's thinking it is better to not have people look at you weird.

If I wanted to say "I hate blacks" or "The J00Z run the world", I would have already said it.

this isnt hard...i dont care what your parents do i was talking about you...you said you didnt talk to her because shes dating a mexican...then right after you said that wasnt it...i dont care anymore about this dude but if your gonna be someone who has an important job..especially that involves mentally ill people then you need to learn not to contradict yourself cuz alot of people pick up on that..then you just look like a lier
btw this is how i work..how i make friends
no hard feeling

 

[suicidesamurai]

this isnt hard...i dont care what your parents do i was talking about you...you said you didnt talk to her because shes dating a mexican...then right after you said that wasnt it...i dont care anymore about this dude but if your gonna be someone who has an important job..especially that involves mentally ill people then you need to learn not to contradict yourself cuz alot of people pick up on that..then you just look like a lier
btw this is how i work..how i make friends
no hard feeling

We aren't understanding eachother, so we can leave it there. For the record, I've had many 'non-white' friends in my life and I treat each individual as such.

I probably won't be working with mentally ill people. I will be writing papers, doing research, teaching courses, etc. Cognitive psychology is the study of cognition, and as such is methodological and experimental. I won't be a clinical psychologist, i.e. a therapist.

 

[ThatPirateGuy]

I understand the will of your parents should be respected and I certainly hope my parents consent to whomever I chose to marry.....that being said I am a white man and If the person who treats me right and makes me happy happens to be a Black, Mexican or Asian Woman or any other race or culture for that matter and my family dislikes them for no other reason than the color of their skin and decides to disown me because of that then fuck em. I live in the south too. And being out west I very seriously doubt people are Looking at a Mexican white couple weird its not that uncommon especially in the cultural melting pot that is Las Vegas. I can understand if he just isnt a good human being and you disowning her based on stupid decisions but the only excuse you've given is "Oh people might look at her funny" As some one interested in Cognitive Psychology you should probably realize that your reasoning is very misguided....also as I have siblings myself it is important to point out that being some ones brother is supposed to be a supportive role some one who is effected less by the generation gap and can help cool things down with parents...not someone to further the racist leanings of a past generation...No disrespect to you or your family just my own personal observations

 

[suicidesamurai]

I understand the will of your parents should be respected and I certainly hope my parents consent to whomever I chose to marry.....that being said I am a white man and If the person who treats me right and makes me happy happens to be a Black, Mexican or Asian Woman or any other race or culture for that matter and my family dislikes them for no other reason than the color of their skin and decides to disown me because of that then fuck em. I live in the south too. And being out west I very seriously doubt people are Looking at a Mexican white couple weird its not that uncommon especially in the cultural melting pot that is Las Vegas. I can understand if he just isnt a good human being and you disowning her based on stupid decisions but the only excuse you've given is "Oh people might look at her funny" As some one interested in Cognitive Psychology you should probably realize that your reasoning is very misguided....also as I have siblings myself it is important to point out that being some ones brother is supposed to be a supportive role some one who is effected less by the generation gap and can help cool things down with parents...not someone to further the racist leanings of a past generation...No disrespect to you or your family just my own personal observations

You missed my point. It's not my dislike of it, but my parents. I can't change the way they think. As for people looking at mixed-race couples. It isn't as common out West with white-brown relationships but with black people... I can't tell you how many times when I lived in California that friends and acquaintances would talk about how such and such is a nigger lover. It's something to look down upon for many white people (and vice versa).

Back in the South...

I talked to the contractor that built my parents most recent house (about a year ago) and we got to talking about how some Mexicans have come to the area after Katrina. He said if they weren't illegal, he would much rather hire Mexicans because niggers are lazy and smoke weed on the job. Those were his words. He is a typical upper middle class guy that owns his own company. If a normal person like that can talk about 'niggers' to someone he barely knows, do you think many people aren't going to look weird at a white girl with a black guy?

 

[skunkushybrid]

This is SO true. There is a lot of bullshit in the world. People even lie to themselves. the worst people are those that say they aren't racist and then use words like nigger or paki as soon as they think it is safe to do so.

Honestly, now i'm not really racist, but if I had a daughter, and she married someone from a different culture, started wearing burkhas and shit like that. I WOULD disown her.

We make choices in this world, we choose whether we will be racist or not. Even if we are raised to be racist (as I was), there comes a point in our lives where we make a choice. In fact you must choose to be racist every time you make a comment. You get the thought, you mull it over, then CHOOSE to act upon it (all this happens without you consciously realising it).

Colour, to me is no barrier. The barrier for me is culture and religion.

 

[maryjaneismybestfriend]

You dont even think about mixing races. Its just not right. The poor kids get teased later in life and you dont even know what they are. Races should stay with their own.

 

[heymo85]

You missed my point. It's not my dislike of it, but my parents. I can't change the way they think. As for people looking at mixed-race couples. It isn't as common out West with white-brown relationships but with black people... I can't tell you how many times when I lived in California that friends and acquaintances would talk about how such and such is a nigger lover. It's something to look down upon for many white people (and vice versa).

Back in the South...

I talked to the contractor that built my parents most recent house (about a year ago) and we got to talking about how some Mexicans have come to the area after Katrina. He said if they weren't illegal, he would much rather hire Mexicans because niggers are lazy and smoke weed on the job. Those were his words. He is a typical upper middle class guy that owns his own company. If a normal person like that can talk about 'niggers' to someone he barely knows, do you think many people aren't going to look weird at a white girl with a black guy?

if its not you just your parents then your letting there dislike become yours..for only that reason..if thats what you saying..thats misguided hate for no reason except to follow in someones words

 

[fdd2blk]

i can't believe this thread is still running. dumbest thread ever!!!!!!!!

 

[heymo85]

i can't believe this thread is still running. dumbest thread ever!!!!!!!!

i know and ive been on it for prolly the last 5-7 pages..i tried to stop like 3 times but it just really bothers me i guess lol...whats up though?

 

[fdd2blk]

mixed-race relationships. who isn't in one. it's 2007.

 

[heymo85]

mixed-race relationships. who isn't in one. it's 2007.

i know i try to mix it up all the time..just the other day i went with the left hand instead of righty

 

[shamegame]

What if you have a daughter, and your daughter decides to marrry a muslim, then she takes on the muslim beliefs and then wears the muslim ninja mask

How would that affect you

Honestly I would be extremely unhappy, because I do not agree with their violent, hard -headed relegion and the way women are treated within that society. I hope I would raise a daughter with enough common sense to not get wrapped up in that garbage.

 

[suicidesamurai]

Honestly I would be extremely unhappy, because I do not agree with their violent, hard -headed relegion and the way women are treated within that society. I hope I would raise a daughter with enough common sense to not get wrapped up in that garbage.

I read about this English woman that married a nice Saudi guy and once they got married he forced her to move to Saudi Arabia and she was treated like crap, just like all women there. I don't feel sorry for her.

 

[suicidesamurai]

mixed-race relationships. who isn't in one. it's 2007.

Only a couple percent of people in the US are mixed, so apparently not that many. It is on the rise though.

 

[skunkushybrid]

i know i try to mix it up all the time..just the other day i went with the left hand instead of righty

Did you paint it black?

ha ha ha ha ha ha. Couldn't resist.

 

[skunkushybrid]

I read about this English woman that married a nice Saudi guy and once they got married he forced her to move to Saudi Arabia and she was treated like crap, just like all women there. I don't feel sorry for her.

Happens in England all the time. The men also take their kids to pakistan and places like that after a divorce. Fact is, if you're a muslim woman, chances are you're fucked. Poor bitches.