Stoney McFried
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Verbatim from my mom: I'd like to try some of that.
WTF is wrong with me...
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Leilani Garden
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Ding, ding! I agree with this.Or at least show your parents the respect of not exposing them to something they may not approve of.
Your parents don't need to know everything about you
Your mother is your mother. Respect her. You're a grown man, as you've pointed out, so everything in your life is not her business anymore. It really should not have been since you were a teenager. I believe in PRIVACY, big time. But I also believe in RESPECT your parents.
I'm even older than you and I would not expect my mother, from a completely different generation, to go along with everythign in my life. It's MY life. And if I'm going to have her as a guest in my home, I'll do like I do for other guests: I will protect MY privacy.
But do respect your mother, okay?
Hugs!
RetiredToker76
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Ok family is gone now ...
The problem is her brother has Paranoid Schizophrenia. In the 60's he took a LOT of LSD (of seriously questionable sources) and I'd be willing to bet could smoke most of us under the table when it comes to weed.
He would get incredibly violent when he was having a schizophrenic episode so much so that he almost killed my grandparents. While it's known that there was nothing that could be done to prevent the schizophrenia the cornucopia of drugs he took only made the problems worse.
She's not ultra conservative, she just has life experience that has made her very worried about the effects of any kind of drug.
So hiding it when I was a teen and now was more a matter of respect in that while I know that weed won't cause me (or any balanced person for that matter) to go completely off their rocker, she still has her doubts because of her experiences.
It's a tricky situation and I"m really glad I don't have a grow going because it would have been far more difficult to hide a whole grow from her than just 1/2 an oz and some vapes and bongs.
It's just frustrating to me that the conversation can't be had with out dredging up a whole slew of really bad emotional issues for her and at her age I seriously doubt she'd be willing or able to see past all her negative experiences.
There really was an internal conflict of 'it's my house damnit' and 'respect your mom' because I have both mentalities. For everyone but her it's my house, my rules, you don't like it get the hell out. For her it's more like my house is your house. It's a double edged sword and I think overall it's better that she not know. Her security blanket of ignorance is for the best I think.
-RT76
The problem is her brother has Paranoid Schizophrenia. In the 60's he took a LOT of LSD (of seriously questionable sources) and I'd be willing to bet could smoke most of us under the table when it comes to weed.
He would get incredibly violent when he was having a schizophrenic episode so much so that he almost killed my grandparents. While it's known that there was nothing that could be done to prevent the schizophrenia the cornucopia of drugs he took only made the problems worse.
She's not ultra conservative, she just has life experience that has made her very worried about the effects of any kind of drug.
So hiding it when I was a teen and now was more a matter of respect in that while I know that weed won't cause me (or any balanced person for that matter) to go completely off their rocker, she still has her doubts because of her experiences.
It's a tricky situation and I"m really glad I don't have a grow going because it would have been far more difficult to hide a whole grow from her than just 1/2 an oz and some vapes and bongs.
It's just frustrating to me that the conversation can't be had with out dredging up a whole slew of really bad emotional issues for her and at her age I seriously doubt she'd be willing or able to see past all her negative experiences.
There really was an internal conflict of 'it's my house damnit' and 'respect your mom' because I have both mentalities. For everyone but her it's my house, my rules, you don't like it get the hell out. For her it's more like my house is your house. It's a double edged sword and I think overall it's better that she not know. Her security blanket of ignorance is for the best I think.
-RT76
Leilani Garden
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I think you sound perfectly reasonable and you obviously respect your mother. Listen, parents usually die before we do. And once you lose one, you'll really get it, how much they mean in your life. So making some adjustments while she is in your home is the right thing to do. Sounds like you're working this out in your head very well. Parents are just people too, after all, and for those close to us, most of us know that we have to compromise.
Glad it all worked out.
Don't forget her on mother's day!
Glad it all worked out.
Don't forget her on mother's day!
RetiredToker76
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Never have, never will. I send her a sympathy card every year for 22 hours of labor, 18 years of mooching, and 2 major emergency car repairs that happened right after I got out of college.
It's the funny things that make her smile. Like when she finally married a guy worth while I got her 'virginity restoration cream' as a gag wedding gift and I got him the penis enlargement kit (a magnifying glass) as his gag gift. It's always been my job to make her laugh so I try and keep it up.
-RT76
Leilani Garden
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What a good son you are! I have a good son too. I hope he keeps it up when he's grown up. Oh, the love between a mother and a son. Now, that's something very, very special. I bet you feel a lot better about the whole incident now, huh? Good for you! I'm happy for you. BIG hug!