No, he can be subtle about it.Lemme tell you a story.My first daughter's father was an asshole.Women are shit to him.He is 6'7" in his stocking feet, 425 pounds.When we were together her was more like 300,but he was tall. I am NEVER gonna be a "skinny" girl.But I wasn't disgustingly fat when I was with him,and I had had his baby,so yeah, a little weight gets gained,but I carry it well.I got out of the tub one day with a towel wrapped around me,and his big dumb naked ass was on the toilet.He looked at me and said,"Look how fat you are.I can do so much better than you." Let me just say...if you looked at this man, you'd say Sasquatch.He had no room to talk.But that comment hurt me really badly.(Sure,he did other, worse things,but that was the last straw.)I never get naked in front of a man anymore.I don't go to the gyno because I hate it,but also because I CANNOT bring myself to be naked in front of anyone. Always in the back of my mind is"You're fat, you're ugly." I don't want pity, and I know it's absurd and I should get over it.But I hear that little voice of doubt every time I'm intimate, every time someone touches me.I have a good man now, we've been together 4 years. But the only time he's even seen me "down there" is when I gave birth to our daughter.I love him,he's chubby too,and I don't find him repulsive.I know on a certain level he loves me,but I can't open up all the way to him and "let go" without shame.When someone, man or woman,has sex with you,and opens up to you, they are vulnerable.They are exposing themselves to you,and it is your responsibility not to take advantage of that vulnerability and hurt them.I can't speak for guys, but I know women have a lot of emotion tied up in sex.If you make her second guess herself,wonder if you find her "repugnant",then you're going to notice the sex will go down hill.Because she will feel that she can't be free with you, because you're judging her.
buy a treadmill and throw her ass on it while its on.... jk
just tell her if it bothers you that much, its funny how the girls are like "just dont say anything" as if it was okay
for a girl to gain a lot of weight and guys are just fine with that...
Yeah, but brutal honesty ain't the way to go in this case.See above.
Fuck this not trying to piss her off stuff. Being nice only gets you so far. I'm tired of all these pussy guys out there worried about telling their g/f's this or that....fuck that, telling a girl what is on ur mind and what's bothering you is the only way to achieve a successful relationship. I'm not saying don't be nice to her or nothing, but if she is doin something that is bothering you (ex: gaining weight) then tell her.
Without honesty, i can guarantee your relationship will go to shit.
We didn't say that.We said do it unobtrusively.Long walks, healthy food,physical activities on dates.Having fun together and getting in shape.
yeah by telling him to just not say anything which is a bad idea because it wont fix his or her problem.
That's crazy talk, Stoney. 
