Look Japanfreak, you're basically right about when people make homophobic comments, or mention raping someone's wife. Personally, I don't have time for people like that, ever. I will openly tell a new friend of mine to fuck off if they say homophobic or sexist things and will likely dismiss them as friends, but maybe that's just me. Although, I doubt poonjoon would actually rape someone's wife over noodles or whatever, there are people in this world you know, that call you gay instead of dumb or annoying, say you are a fag instead of a loser, and will use the world rape to describe simple, common things in life, i.e, "I raped that video game", or " I raped that burrito", whatever... people in this world can suck sometimes, just be glad that you aren't one of those people.
And I'm not taking sides, hopefully everyone can read my diplomatic tone.