My Daughter and her Friends BROKE my Bong!

MsBotwin

MsBotwin

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Okay, so a month or so ago I ordered a few new pieces from GrassCity so I would have somethings that had never been used for my first harvest, which I haven't received yet, and doubt I will anytime soon. So, since I was doubting getting my new stuff, I decided I'd just clean my bong super good. So, I fill the bong with super hot soapy water to soak while I spend 20 minutes cleaning the slider til it looks unused. Now, I go to pick the bong up by the neck and the bottom stays in the sink! It had been broken and then glued back together!
I know it had to be my daughter and her friends! I am sure if one of my Hubby's band mates did it, he would have fessed up last night during my ranting about DD and her friends snooping in my stuff and breaking it! I'd love to make her pay for a replacement, but she is not working right now. To make matters worse, she is not supposed to be smoking pot because she signed with the Navy and will be drug tested again before Boot Camp. We allow her and her friends to hang out in Hubby's band room sometimes because I'd rather have them where I know they aren't gonna be drinking and driving and also, I have told my daughter that although pot is illegal it is safer than alcohol and I'd rather have her smoke pot than drink. This was before she signed with the Navy. She got busted by her friend's parents for drinking and smoking weed, so we had the talk. She is aware I smoke pot and that I do it out in the band room. Guess they decided to search around and found the bong. :-(
 
robert 14617

robert 14617

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thats what kids do , they are getting back at us for the shit we did to our parents , ever wonder why the grand parents love them so much
 
akgrown

akgrown

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Well tell her from a real vets experience.

If she fails her test then she will not be allowed to go to boot camp, and may be subject to military discipline because, once you sign on that dotted line(like 100 times over) your belong to the military untill your contract is up. I smoked on my summer break before boot and I failed my test. It was really embarrasing, I had to write a letter to the CG of the meps west coast and explain how and why and that it would never happen. for a week I was not going to be able to go, I dissappointed my parents and embarrased my self. I ended up going but, I was known as a "drug waiver". If its what she really wants then tell or she may be up shit creek without a paddle.
 
MsBotwin

MsBotwin

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akgrown said:
Well tell her from a real vets experience.

If she fails her test then she will not be allowed to go to boot camp, and may be subject to military discipline because, once you sign on that dotted line(like 100 times over) your belong to the military untill your contract is up. I smoked on my summer break before boot and I failed my test. It was really embarrasing, I had to write a letter to the CG of the meps west coast and explain how and why and that it would never happen. for a week I was not going to be able to go, I dissappointed my parents and embarrased my self. I ended up going but, I was known as a "drug waiver". If its what she really wants then tell or she may be up shit creek without a paddle.
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I have told her this! But, you must understand, as her Mom, I know nothing about anything. And she claims she isn't smoking, just her friend and boyfriend do. I'd like to believe this is true, but I used to be a 19 year old girl, so I take with a grain of salt.
She is supposed to leave for Boot Camp March 28, so I think I may buy a test at CVS and make sure. Technically she is an Adult and if it were not for her decision to join the Navy I would never even consider such a thing, but I don't want to see her screw this up. It would follow her the rest of her life.
 
Sr. Verde

Sr. Verde

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MsBotwin said:
I have told her this! But, you must understand, as her Mom, I know nothing about anything. And she claims she isn't smoking, just her friend and boyfriend do. I'd like to believe this is true, but I used to be a 19 year old girl, so I take with a grain of salt.
She is supposed to leave for Boot Camp March 28, so I think I may buy a test at CVS and make sure. Technically she is an Adult and if it were not for her decision to join the Navy I would never even consider such a thing, but I don't want to see her screw this up. It would follow her the rest of her life.
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Don't go the drug test route...

It seems like you try to stay out of your daughters life, and just let her live it.. which is way cool but it doesn't seem like you are expressing your emotions enough...


You need to sit down with your daughter, and tell her everything your telling us. Lay your feelings out on the table. You want her to do well, and understand where she is coming from with the cannabis. You smoke/used to smoke. But shes going to the navy bootcamp, and needs to cut that shit out for now so she doesn't pop positive and get in trouble!


Just lay it out on the table for her.. and have a real talk......... don't try to 'catch' her


Smoking weed isn't a big deal... if she sees no harm in it, she may just give you a little lie to keep YOU off HER back..... even when my parents knew I smoked often, I would never let them know when I was high or how often I was smoking... It was just easier to have it be like that.

If she does see where your coming from she might just be honest with you like, "yeah I have been a few times a week, I didn't think it was a big deal, but your right about the boot camp thing"
 
MsBotwin

MsBotwin

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Sr. Verde said:
Don't go the drug test route...

It seems like you try to stay out of your daughters life, and just let her live it.. which is way cool but it doesn't seem like you are expressing your emotions enough...


You need to sit down with your daughter, and tell her everything your telling us. Lay your feelings out on the table. You want her to do well, and understand where she is coming from with the cannabis. You smoke/used to smoke. But shes going to the navy bootcamp, and needs to cut that shit out for now so she doesn't pop positive and get in trouble!


Just lay it out on the table for her.. and have a real talk......... don't try to 'catch' her


Smoking weed isn't a big deal... if she sees no harm in it, she may just give you a little lie to keep YOU off HER back..... even when my parents knew I smoked often, I would never let them know when I was high or how often I was smoking... It was just easier to have it be like that.

If she does see where your coming from she might just be honest with you like, "yeah I have been a few times a week, I didn't think it was a big deal, but your right about the boot camp thing"
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Yeah, I'll try talking with her again. I guess maybe I didn't say things the right way the first time. Thanks for the advice
 
Sr. Verde

Sr. Verde

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MsBotwin said:
Yeah, I'll try talking with her again. I guess maybe I didn't say things the right way the first time. Thanks for the advice
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No problem. Just make sure you start the conversation making her understand how serious you are about it.

You can't really make her stop, without making her hate you completely. (ie. grounding her for months, keeping her in the house/away from friends) most kids that are kept 'away' from sleep overs, and late nights/partys with friends end up worse off anyway. Kids with super strict parents go off to college by themselves, finally let loose, like a captive animal let into the wild.... the kids go overboard with their new found freedom, and most of the time end up dying of an overdose or getting pregnant or whatever..... the kids that had loose parents? They are almost tired of the partying and are a little more involved in 'life'- they've been there, and move on to otherstuff... the strict parent's kids try to make up for 10 years in 2 semesters and pay the price

Teenagers are rebellious by nature, think they know everything. One day, she will realize she doesn't know anything and she will understand everything you do for her, and how much you care for her ;)

For now, you just have to put yourself in her head and help her figure things out for herself.. because that's the only way one will gain true knowledge.
 
Total Head

Total Head

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maybe just buy the drug test and give it to her as a gift. if she's going into the navy she better know whether or not she'll come up positive. tell her you don't care what she does with it, and that maybe she "knows someone" who has something important coming up that can make use of it. lol it's something my mom would have done and i personally would have responded fine. better to get an eyeroll than a screaming match, but then again i never met your daughter lol.
 
RawBudzski

RawBudzski

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Dang well @ least in another life had I been your daughters boyfriend I would have her on point enough and ballin so she would buy you a new 1. sucks.
 
Luger187

Luger187

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ANC said:
Serious issues of dishonesty and deceit....
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yup thats what i was thinking. i personally think u should straight up tell her(like verde said) if your going into the navy, u need to stop. period. it will be a huge headache if u come up positive, and still decide u want to join. its either the navy, or the weed. having both isnt an option. she cant get mad at u for saying that cuz its not u who makes the rule... the government is the one that makes those rules, not u
 
Saerimmner

Saerimmner

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do you not know anyone that is ex-forces that could have a casual chat with her? being told all this by someone that has gone through it and isnt family might be what she needs
 
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