Is Love Real?

[Urca]

ok so there is this guy i see every few weeks. we kiss and cuddle and other things not sex though... but he wont be my bf because he doesnt do long distance, which is understandable. anyway, its like when im with him everything is perfect, right, like ive known him forever, like we never spent any time apart... i dont love him or anything but i know i would if we were in a relationship. he makes me feel at peace, and just thinking about being with him makes me blush. ive been hurt alot of times before, alot, and never had a bf... im wondering if love is real? or does it only exist for the few? and if it is real, what if i fall in love with this guy? he wont ever date me.... and he told me to go kiss and be with other guys too if thats what i wanted. what if i meet someone else? i still really care for this guy. all so confusing.

 

[Tenner]

Dude you worry way too much

I do think love is real but people asking this question are generally asking if love is real in a very overrated way. Its not the love out of fairy tales but just a good relationship that has... well.. realistic`ish boundaries

I did 3000 mile long distance for 2 years! Hell yeah not a peck with another girl Falling asleep on the phone talking at 4am miles away....

I`m very happy to be with my girlfriend now we are close Its pretty similar to how I was with my brother but I have sex with this person

 

[Urca]

I know he's kissed other people... about killed me, but im not his gf so i cant complain

 

[Ella Jean]

ok so there is this guy i see every few weeks. we kiss and cuddle and other things not sex though... but he wont be my bf because he doesnt do long distance, which is understandable. anyway, its like when im with him everything is perfect, right, like ive known him forever, like we never spent any time apart... i dont love him or anything but i know i would if we were in a relationship. he makes me feel at peace, and just thinking about being with him makes me blush. ive been hurt alot of times before, alot, and never had a bf... im wondering if love is real? or does it only exist for the few? and if it is real, what if i fall in love with this guy? he wont ever date me.... and he told me to go kiss and be with other guys too if thats what i wanted. what if i meet someone else? i still really care for this guy. all so confusing.

love is way too real.. the only problem is that many people do not really recognize it when it comes..caring is different from loving, girl...why fear meeting someone else..this guy is already pushing you away from him..no need to cling on something where you weren't suppose to cling in the first place....

 

[Urca]

uh i wouldnt say he's pushing me away, just wants me to be with someone and not ruin my chance with a good guy if he wants to be with me. has been kinda distant last few weeks, but tonight said he missed me very much... and i know in the long run that id rather him be happy with someone else then not be happy being single. but like i wanna have sex with him and have him be my first cause he really is a great guy, doesnt judge my body, and he's hella sexy. like way too fine to be interested in me. tall, gorgeous blue eyes, skinny, dark hair. i am just afraid ill regret fucking him if i do sleep with him, but i know i will regret it if i dont.

 

[Kodank Moment]

Stop looking. And worrying. Of course love is real. Duh. Silly women. Your idea of love however may be...exaggerated which makes it seem unattainable to you. Ease up off it. I believe in someone for everyone. Might not be him...but it's someone.


Tenner...I'm glad you never slept with your brother.

 

[Tenner]

uh i wouldnt say he's pushing me away, just wants me to be with someone and not ruin my chance with a good guy if he wants to be with me. has been kinda distant last few weeks, but tonight said he missed me very much... and i know in the long run that id rather him be happy with someone else then not be happy being single. but like i wanna have sex with him and have him be my first cause he really is a great guy, doesnt judge my body, and he's hella sexy. like way too fine to be interested in me. tall, gorgeous blue eyes, skinny, dark hair. i am just afraid ill regret fucking him if i do sleep with him, but i know i will regret it if i dont.

He sounds like 2 things to me.

1)A great guy to have a relationship with
2)A great guy to have sex with

Its a bit stubborn to turn your nose and walk away if you don`t get option 1). He doesn`t want to make a commitment at his age maybe, just researching sex and having fun. You can`t blame him for that or try take him under your wing, hes a free bird. You can only put your finger out and hope he lands and stays, if he flies away he never was yours!

Your young and very emotional. The more bad things happen to you in life the less emotional and fussy your going to get. Harden up miss! You always have a few reefers and a bottle of wine (this medicine should only be taken for 1-3 days, if usage persists consult your GP) and a few friends to get you out of it if he walks of and then your friends again!

 

[Urca]

Actually the funny thing is, I got him when I wasnt looking. TBH, i got bored and posted to cl for a texting buddy, something i have done before when i was bored late at night. then, i started texting him and we clicked, but i didnt actively pursue it, we mutually agreed that we kinda liked each other more than friends, but werent quite sure. met up in person and we just fit. gave me my first kiss that night... still makes my heart race thinking about it... it was amazing. never had this kinda connection with someone before. its like effortless, i dont have to be anyone but myself

my idea of love is a guy who will spend time with me, talk to me, care about me, kiss and cuddle with me, laugh with me, and let me take care of him as much as he takes care of me. i dont romanticize what im gonna get in that department though

 

[canuckgrow]

ok so there is this guy i see every few weeks. we kiss and cuddle and other things not sex though... but he wont be my bf because he doesnt do long distance, which is understandable. anyway, its like when im with him everything is perfect, right, like ive known him forever, like we never spent any time apart... i dont love him or anything but i know i would if we were in a relationship. he makes me feel at peace, and just thinking about being with him makes me blush. ive been hurt alot of times before, alot, and never had a bf... im wondering if love is real? or does it only exist for the few? and if it is real, what if i fall in love with this guy? he wont ever date me.... and he told me to go kiss and be with other guys too if thats what i wanted. what if i meet someone else? i still really care for this guy. all so confusing.

Just my opinion here so please take it for what it is,,,, constructive criticism... You young lady have far too many issues of your own to even think about being in a healthy relationship. My advice would be to stay single for at least a year and work on your issues....You know them,,,,we know them cause you have posted about them here in this forum.
You will never find true love until you learn to love yourself for what and who you are. Nobody on this earth besides you can do that for you. To try and fix your issues by burrying them with new issues that arise from being in Love will only ruin it for you and the other person and you will end up hurt again and again and again.

 

[Urca]

eh most of my issues come from a lack of self esteem and being hurt alot....

 

[canuckgrow]

eh most of my issues come from a lack of self esteem and being hurt alot....

exactly......Fix your self esteem and you won't get hurt in every relationship you ever have for the rest of your life......Your 18 with your whole life ahead.....only one shot at it girl and just from the posts I have read of yours you seem to be on a path that will lead straight to a 32' double wide a bunch of kids and an abusive husband/boyfriend. But hey its just my opinion right? and this is the internet.

 

[Urca]

why would i live in a trailer? im not an idiot, quite smart actually... dont plan on getting married or having kids until im in my mid 20's at least... as for the abusive boyfriend/husband, your not the only one to say that... why do people think that? ive never even been in a relationship

 

[Tenner]

eh most of my issues come from a lack of self esteem and being hurt alot....

Your issues are your lack of self esteem though. I used to be pretty low on that, used to blush before I speaked!

As long as your honest and care for people I would throw low self esteem out of the window! Seriously though everybody has their own problems and egos. Secure yourself with yourself and the rest no matters. Honesty and kindness is my main source of self esteem and to me the very basics. There are complete assholes on this rock that have higher self esteem than good people and thats just not fair, don`t let it be

From what you typed on this forum your a little insecure and thats obvious but its obvious that your caring and nice too. You have no problems other than accepting yourself and that can be done with ermmmm clicking the accept button? You work it out

 

[canuckgrow]

why would i live in a trailer? im not an idiot, quite smart actually... dont plan on getting married or having kids until im in my mid 20's at least... as for the abusive boyfriend/husband, your not the only one to say that... why do people think that? ive never even been in a relationship

yeah I'm pretty much a smart ass...but read between the lines kiddo and you will see the very solid advice I gave you. I got nothing to lose by giving it....On the other hand if you took it and applied it...In 5 years you will thank me and anyone else who has given the exact same advice to you.

Get some self respect
Get an education
Get a Job
Get some Love
In that order please LOL

 

[sso]

thought i found love a few times,oh heartbreak and everything but when it came for real (30) it hit me like a thunderbolt,knew it from the start,called ourselves husband and wife a few days later,even though we didnt papermarry till 2 years later,a day without her hurts.never a doubt wanting to be old together, if she died before me,id drop dead soon afterwards.

you feel it in your heart, a connection deeper than any.

 

[Kodank Moment]

thought i found love a few times,oh heartbreak and everything but when it came for real (30) it hit me like a thunderbolt,knew it from the start,called ourselves husband and wife a few days later,even though we didnt papermarry till 2 years later,a day without her hurts.never a doubt wanting to be old together, if she died before me,id drop dead soon afterwards.

you feel it in your heart, a connection deeper than any.

Drop dead?


From a vaginal infection I presume? Maybe toxic shock?

 

[sso]

probably heartattack

 

[sso]

good luck on your loveless lusts,(in my opinion, mjeh.. sex) kodank

 

[bicycleday]

NO

 

[Tenner]

Kodank something tells me your not the sort of guy to talk about love, no offence