What's your opinion on spanking kids?
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gfreeman
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first off. saying nothing will change your mind about it, is like saying, my heads so thick i wont listen anyway.....
second off, beating is way different from spanking. your parents might have beat you down. not spanked you. on that subject, id like to go ahead and take the time to tell you about my upbringing. My (step)dad was a ignorant redneck who despised mexicans. My mother was a hispanic from south tx. Im a hispanic. ?My sister however was his and my moms child so she was indeed also a lil hispanic. He would punish me serverely for minor things like not taking the trash out when it was full, or forgeting to sweep the porch. he constantly hit me on the back of the head as i would walk past him to do something. Being hispanic i had a mustache in 6th grade. He held me to a wall so he could shave it. i got zero respect from this guy and years of physical, emotional, and verbal abuse. well at 15 my mother left him, got on meth, and within a year disappeared. i droped out, got a job, and a 8 yrs later i have my own family with 2 adorable boys.
I remember almost everyday my upbringing. But that doesnt prevent me from raising my sons right. I do spank them, but not beat them down. The DIFFERENCE? I continue to get respect from my sons. I respect me when i say "NO" or "STOP". One day young man you too will be a parent, when that day comes i hope you know the difference and raise your children with respect. thats the key, respect.
second off, beating is way different from spanking. your parents might have beat you down. not spanked you. on that subject, id like to go ahead and take the time to tell you about my upbringing. My (step)dad was a ignorant redneck who despised mexicans. My mother was a hispanic from south tx. Im a hispanic. ?My sister however was his and my moms child so she was indeed also a lil hispanic. He would punish me serverely for minor things like not taking the trash out when it was full, or forgeting to sweep the porch. he constantly hit me on the back of the head as i would walk past him to do something. Being hispanic i had a mustache in 6th grade. He held me to a wall so he could shave it. i got zero respect from this guy and years of physical, emotional, and verbal abuse. well at 15 my mother left him, got on meth, and within a year disappeared. i droped out, got a job, and a 8 yrs later i have my own family with 2 adorable boys.
I remember almost everyday my upbringing. But that doesnt prevent me from raising my sons right. I do spank them, but not beat them down. The DIFFERENCE? I continue to get respect from my sons. I respect me when i say "NO" or "STOP". One day young man you too will be a parent, when that day comes i hope you know the difference and raise your children with respect. thats the key, respect.
father&son
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totally with you on ur first post morgan i wont spank them when their babys (1yr) havint had them over 5 yet lol but if they get out of line and have ben warned quite a few time they get a nice little hand to butt action lol never with and object tho.....
Urca
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ive gotten the most beatings out of my parents, even though my brother and sister do terrible things, they hardly get caught. me.... well lets just say ive been a favorite with a leather belt, a hanger, a hairbrush, back of the hand, bare ass, head bounced off the wall, slapped across the face, upside the head, shoved off my feet.
i problably wouldnt take it to those extremes for my kids, but they are definitely meeting mr belt if they do some of the shit i did
i problably wouldnt take it to those extremes for my kids, but they are definitely meeting mr belt if they do some of the shit i did
Urca
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people keep saying that your kids will hate you for being hit... i mean yeah at the time i really dont like my parents, but afterward im like whatever. i mean, its not like i was being abused, i just got my ass beat alot. the worse one is between my dad and my grandma.
with my dad, i broke the front door. i was 12. I had to drop my pants, lay on my bed, and count off each stroke with the belt. we went up to ten. fuck and when i flinched it would catch me on the back
i was being a disrespectful shit to my grandma, and she just started beating me. like bad. i bled. but i was 12 when that happened, and i have never talked back to her again
with my dad, i broke the front door. i was 12. I had to drop my pants, lay on my bed, and count off each stroke with the belt. we went up to ten. fuck and when i flinched it would catch me on the back
i was being a disrespectful shit to my grandma, and she just started beating me. like bad. i bled. but i was 12 when that happened, and i have never talked back to her again
Dankster4Life
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It's the mental abuse ALONG with spankings i feel.
gfreeman
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Urca you may not want to hear it but yes hun, you were treated like a stupid dog. its called abuse and its not right. beating you until you bleed is not how oyu discipline anyone! its only goes hate in their heart. you may say hey im normal, what they did was normal. but it can severly fuck someone up for the rest of their life. they could groww up to know nothing but violence and disrespect leaving them to find fucked up reletionships, or worse stay a virgin because there emotional understanding of a reletionship is all shot to hell. idk i dont like hearing how you were treated because no man or woman deserve that, especially a child or adolesant.
Urca
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nope, its not abuse. maybe very heavy handed, but im such a bad kid i drive people crazy. my dad has saint like paitience, im the only one who can break it. its not like it happened all the time. lol all of that have been spaced out from 5-Until now... im not an abused kid!
btw, the beating came from scratches she left. and bloody noses and fat lips are accidents
btw, the beating came from scratches she left. and bloody noses and fat lips are accidents
WWDave
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Morgan, I raised 5 kids with my wife. They all turned out fine. It's funny, my wife would scream and yell at them and it would do no good. They knew it was all bullshit. It's funny how kids figure this shit out. All I ever had to do was look at them and they would stop. Out of the 5 of them I would say that I gave each one about 1 slap on the ass in their life. That corporal punishment was dispensed in this manor. When the child was doing something wrong I would look at them and ask them quietly to stop. If they did not stop I would quietly walk over to them, give them 1 whack on the butt and quietly ask them to stop again. I don't think I ever had to repeat the lesson.They learned from a young age that Daddy was boss. I didn't have to raise my voice, threaten, beg, cajole, make deals or any of that bullshit. Sometimes like a stubborn mule you have to whack them upside the head with a 2x4 one time to get their attention to be able to talk to them. I mean that figuratively of course. The problem with allot of mothers is that the kids know just how far they can push you and you let them push you to the point of reacting instead of consciously acting. Your job as a parent is to raise your children to be responsible adults, not your best friends. They become best friends in their 20s and latter when the finally realize you brought them up as humans and they are succeeding in life. The rule that I followed was, never strike a child in anger!!!! Don't let it get to the point of anger. That one whack set their expectations about me. My wife on the other hand, well she never quite got the hang of it. The important point is that YOU SET THE EXPECTATIONS !!!!!!! They will get away with whatever they can. You have to set the boundary of what you will put up with. Good luck, peace. BTW, my wife and I just celebrated our 40th anniversary and have 4 grandchildren now. Life is good.
ganjames
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agreed... you can try to spin it any way you want, but discipline doesn't involve bouncing heads off walls, hangers, belts or being shoved around. that's abuse plain and simple.
i've commited arson, arrested for assault with a deadly weapon, caught driving a stolen car and caught stealing from cars, been caught with heroin, and a whole busload of other shit in my teen years.. but never did I get treated like that by my mother or grandmother... ever.
gfreeman
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IF you have a child, and your child acts like you did, and you beat him/her like your parents did you. than you would be considered a bitch, and if i saw said actions id call authorties and CPS. Your being an enabler, and than saying its ok, makes me think you in turn would do that to a child? are you mental urca?! i think your head bounced off that wall a bit too hard because i came from abuse and in no way would i ever say i fucking deserved it. NO ONE NO MATTER WTF THEY DID DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE A STUPID DOG. PERIOD.
gfreeman
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thats the thing with this webcommunity here, not enough fucking users understand the word, RESPECT. disresecting somebody like that is so degrading, humiliating, uncalled for, and strips you of any dignity. fuck that i say learn how to respect one another and discipline someone without stripping them of their dignity like some nazi ....just saying
gfreeman
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slapped on the face is such disrespect and back in the day, you did that to somebody, and best believe you 2 were meeting outside to have a gun duel. someone wasnt coming back! i can understand you calling your mom a bitch to her face or something, so im not going to assume you didnt deserve to get your face slapped. but as far as, you didnt clean your room like i asked you*SLAP*. thats kinda some nazi bullshit. theirs others ways of punishing.
Urca
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dude. seriously. my parents did hella shit for me, semi spoiled me, if i was as bad as i was, they were within their rights to do that. am i happy it happened? fuck no. did i deserve it? yeah
and ive never called my mom a bitch or said i hated her, i just got into a fight with my sister and my mom was trying to tell me what to do, and i told her why doesnt jessica ever get into trouble, (my sister has gotten into way worse things than me and has done worse, but never gets in trouble), blah, blah bitch bitch, i was screaming at her to yell at my sister for a change, and started being disrepectful.
she busted my lip open at my grad party cause i got drunk and we got into an argument, and i started saying fuck this, blah blah blah, missing my filter, hella cussing in front of her (but not at her)
and ive never called my mom a bitch or said i hated her, i just got into a fight with my sister and my mom was trying to tell me what to do, and i told her why doesnt jessica ever get into trouble, (my sister has gotten into way worse things than me and has done worse, but never gets in trouble), blah, blah bitch bitch, i was screaming at her to yell at my sister for a change, and started being disrepectful.
she busted my lip open at my grad party cause i got drunk and we got into an argument, and i started saying fuck this, blah blah blah, missing my filter, hella cussing in front of her (but not at her)
ANC
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What you experienced is called child abuse today.