Beating your kids does nothing but teach them to beat their kids. 3 kids and I've never spanked any of them....the wost was my daughter***Sigh**** she needed her hand slappped a few times. My youngest has never experienced any sort of violence at home and he is a great kid...well adjusted,,,Happy,,,good in school and has so many friends. It takes work and consistancy which most people hate or lack the skills to acccomplish it. My step father beat us all when we were younger and I swore I would never make my kids feel like I did after a beating.