It's quite simple for me: The War on Drugs. Our kids are indoctrinated into a certain culture while going through public schooling. I'm sorry, but I'm the adult, and I'm not going to put my child into the position of having to make a choice between doing what they're taught in one arena is the right thing or trying to grasp why mommy and daddy burn when it's, according to the dogma, so wrong. They can deal with it later, when they're more mature and are better able to understand the subtleties of adult life.
That just does not make sense to me, you are just going to sit back, and not teach your kids anything, and let them think that every single thing they learn out in the world, or at school is the way it should be.
You're making a whole lot of very erroneous assumptions here. What was it about my post that caused you to draw the conclusions you have? I stated that I made a conscious decision that, during their early years, my kids would not be forced to make a choice. Not because I wanted to just hang back and let others teach my kids whatever they need to know, but because I believe that all knowledge must be, where and whenever possible, what is age appropriate. For instance, there's no WAY I'm going to teach an 8yo about sodomy, nor do I want an 8yo knowing about it.
And then one day when they find out you do smoke they are going to think you are the devil and a horrible person. Because you have kept your mouth shut and allowed them to be fed the bullshit they hear at school. I think it is the parents responsibility to teach there kids these things.
Are you
sure about that? To teach them that drugs exist? Sure! But at an appropriate age, and 5yo is NOT it. My kids are now 21 & 18 (soon to be 19). Neither hates me, neither thinks that what I did was bullshit. The oldest one, however, has absolutely no respect for his father, with whom I used to argue vehemently because he would smoke, snort, and masturbate in front of them. I'm curious as to what evidence you have to base these suppositions on. Are you a parent, or did you suffer something by your parents and then learned something about them that made
you feel this way? Guess what! My folks did the same thing with me and my sisters, and we were not harmed by it. We were deeply affected by our upbringing despite being exposed to the outside world, and we cherish our parents and what they taught us very dearly.
Not 100% of everything taught at school is correct. The parent should be a huge part in helping their child be educated and ready for the world.
Of course. And it has been directly due to my own parenting that my oldest son, all on his own and without direct influence from me, has gotten onto the Ron Paul wagon and VOTES (every year since he turned 18 ) according to his beliefs, which, not surprisingly, have been shaped somewhat by the things his mother has taught him.
And teaching them to just go along with what they are told, is not right in my eyes!
However, NOT teaching your child how to get along in the culture and society they find themselves is an even bigger disservice any parent can commit. Both my kids have been taught many other things, including how to question, that they should always question, and a whole lot of other things (obviously, too much to list here).
You're way off base in your assumptions of my role, skills, and duties as a parent.
What if you got caught by your child when the kid is in say 5th grade, after just hearing all the D.A.R.E. bullshit at school and they call the police on you? If you already talked to your kids about it, then you have nothing to worry about. I will teach my kids myself as well as a school education, but I will not just leave it to other people in the world (school) to teach my kid what's what!
Hardly! When that kid is still struggling to fit in it is not fair to teach that kid that they have to essentially lie for you. Remember, I wasn't caught out til my oldest son was 14yo. Do you think your kids won't talk to
other kids about what they know? If that's what you think, then you're a fool not at all ready for parenthood. By the time my son caught me we'd already addressed many things, among them the idea that it is not good to choose the state over your family (in certain regards).
And what would give you the idea that just telling your kids, "Hey, I'm a head and I smoke pot" would relieve you of any worry? Are you going to sit there and say that there have been NO instances of teenage revenge for a grounding gone too long or a restriction unwelcomed that hasn't resulted in accusations to authorities that then go on to ruin people's lives? Again, if you think such is not the case, then you're a fool. I've had kids in my own home who have bragged about accusing a parent or stepparent of abuse, physical, sexual, drug abuse,
simply for revenge, and RUINED their family's lives. Of course they were sorry about it afterwards, but by then it's too late, isn't it?
I will reiterate, you've taken my post and made some exceedingly erroneous assumptions based on it. First and FOREMOST, beyond anything else, ANYONE who would choose their "right" to smoke pot over their responsibility as a parent is severely fucked up in the head, and believe you me, you'll pay for it later. You've got to have your priorities straight when you decide to reproduce, and one of those priorities becomes the well-being of the child(ren) over your own pleasures.
This actually speaks to a larger issue to the drug-using and pot-smoking communities, and that is the idea of responsible drug use. That's where I base my ideas, ideals, and ACTIONS. It is, plainly and simply put, WRONG to put a child in the position of covering up for you just because you want to avoid the scenario you've outlined earlier. You seem to think that just telling your kids what you do relieves you of the pressure of the laws of the land, and in one sense it does. However, in another very real sense it transplants some of that pressure onto your child, who did not ask to come into this world or to have YOU as a parent, they are innocent in all this.
Acting as a responsible parent who is involved in my children's lives is one major way that I demonstrate that I can both use and be responsible, that I can enjoy yet keep my priorities straight, and thusly nullify anti-pot arguments.
I almost freaked when my oldest caught me, out in the laundry room (where I used to live it was in a separate building). He sniffed around, and I'm holding a big-ass hit, and FINALLY I just had to let it out and he goes, "Mom! You blaze! AWESOME!" 
My wifes side of the family is pretty cool that way! My side of the family not so much. I am a little different then most my family! LOL. And someone asked about kids? Why should you hide it from your kids? I don't get why people do that? They will allow the kids to know they drink beer, but they hide the fact they smoke bud? Are they ashamed of it? If so, why do it? I dont get that! I say educate your kids, just like you would with alcohol, and don't allow them to do anything like that until they are adults and legal age to drink and stuff.
