i think i understood that, if your drunk go back and edit this when you arent. but anyway, if your stem is too brittle, make sure you have some airflow on it, once the stem is stronger, just do what i suggested earlier, ill explain it in detail, my method at least. put the stem between your thumb and your index and middle finger, and give it a gentle squeeze. work your way up and down the stem where you want it to bend, after shes nice and flimsy get a tie and make sure it wont dig into the stem, string is too thin and it will fuse with the stem.