hereshegrows
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You are amazingly well spoken, good on ya! It's great that you know exactly what you want but I think we need to keep in mind, we all have flaws of some sort or another. I believe it's all about balance in a person; certain less desirable characteristics I could tolerate in some people would be completely unacceptable in others. I know that's not really fair but for me it's about looking at the person as a whole. I find men very simple...feed me, love me, care for me and give me lots of intimacy and I'll be happy, that's most men. Us women tend to need more positive strokes in the way of physical or material manifestations to keep us happy. We want flowers, presents and complements. I know that's frustrating for most men but to us, one flower is just as great as a dozen...it still means you thought of us. (Maybe we are still very primitive and need to see our men arrive back at the end of the day carrying something they can present too us.) If we ever see your eye linger on a part of us we might not find attractive, we're going to need about ten positive things said to erase that feeling of inadequacy. Every woman hopes the man she's with finds her attractive...and that's why some women want the lights off. If a woman even thinks her man might be turned "off" by how she looks naked, it's all her mind will focus on during sex and it will be very difficult for her to have a good time...so, I say you men should think ahead and have a few candles by your bed...your
you are all so visual. Really, unless you got extremely lucky in the gene pool, we all look better in a little soft lighting, so do her and you that favour. I think it's a shame to see many young females putting on an "I'm so tough" act for attention when all they really want to for the male to be in the protector role. I don't know why that's gotten so prevalent but I hope there's a shift in that attitude soon. Mind you...I guess some guys are into that so I shouldn't judge. I think to be truly happy we need to start with being happy with ourselves and hopefully that positive energy will draw the right person in. I'd say something like ..."When you vibrate on the same frequency, you attract." ...and hope that sends my message without sounding too "weird and alternative." I see myself as a more "down to earth" person but I can accept everyone has their own ideas too. I believe what makes some people "click" and others not, is weather or not you have a common ground and most of the other "stuff" can be sorted out from there. I guess all I'm saying is, no one is perfect in every regard so I think we need to be careful not to close ourselves to someone because of a coffee cup left in the car when it might be spotless under the hood. On a personal note padawanbater2, you sound very intelligent, that's got to be intimidating for most of your girlfriends because we are not all born with that gift. Some of us are more kind than bright, more caring and giving than beautiful, more instinctively smart than academically gifted. Myself, I'm not trying to brag but men often find me attractive and intelligent too but I have to work very hard to hide my learning disability....(I'm so happy for a spell checker, at least it picks up that) Just sayen... Oh, and BTW, you say "fuck" a whole lot, that's something your girlfriend would have to overlook
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