VILEPLUME
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I love you man.
Do you ever need love?
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high|hgih
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I couldn't, but it always.. Ya know.. Stabs you. I feel like I only feel love for short time spans, but I also feel like with age Ill become more able to feel it for the rest of my life towards someone, maybe soon, I dunno.. Is there a perfect mate?? It seems like it but they are all taken. Plus they will probably end up what you didnt expect.. I feel like my perfect mate will be one who Im comfortable sharing my traits with, for the childs fate. But then who am I to choose what they are?> I want to mate with someone who is stern and even bi-polar in a sense, not to the extreme, but either happy or mad/sad and able to express their opinions in either phase effectively. Its something Ive never been able to do and I don't want that for my kid.
Is it right to love someone according to what they will make your child? We are just animals anyways right?
Is it right to love someone according to what they will make your child? We are just animals anyways right?
VILEPLUME
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I am getting ready myself and I always ask if I am marrying the perfect person. Then I realize that my future wife isn't perfect and neither am I, but she does make me happy and we have fun together. It isnt always perfect and fun, but I couldnt imagine marrying anyone else.
high|hgih
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Are you engaged? No matter what I feel like if shes fun to be around and you love her she's probably the right one..The problem is that some people get married, and once the kid is born or you get married, they change. I guess that happens regardless and you have to deal with it, good times bad times all that shit.. I guess its just a thing where you have to think of it what you will. Personally I never stay in situations that make me unhappy.. But thats also a downfall I feel like. When it comes down to it, its ME making me unhappy, I should just be able to get over it. But I don't, and I weasel my way out.
cannabineer
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They are alike in that they are the sole two emotions characterized by impassioned attention, yea fixation on another human. They are different in that one is benevolent, the other malicious. But it is far easier to interconvert love and hatred (since they are built onto a common, powerful emotional core) than it is to convert indifference into either. cnI guess I'm naive. Enlighten me, in what ways are they similar? Give me some examples and I'll give you examples on how they're different. Lets see. (this goes for you too neer)
VILEPLUME
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Yes, I am engaged.
I know what you are feeling though. Sometimes when we have a fight or something, I feel like just ending the relationship. But then we settle down, make up and what entails feels really good, not just sexually but a connection.
I know what you mean about avoiding unhappiness. A tip that always makes me come to grips with a situation is that, bad stuff happens to everyone. Not all are hurt in the same way, but everyone gets hurt by others and bad shit happens to everyone. Again not all are affected the same way, but it made me stop talking about a bullshit saying I had when bad stuff happened, "This bad thing happened again? It could only be my luck" Now I say, fuck that saying because it made my life miserable. My new one is, "bad stuff happens to everyone, so I need to stfu and live my life" I also watched my uncle drown in sadness and living in the past. I truly feel sorry for him, but it has made me not want to go down that same path.
high|hgih
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Congrats man
Thats a good saying too man, if one blames their problems on anything but themselves its ignorant. There are some exceptions though. But like you said shit happens to everyone.. Its unavoidable. The next step like you said would be to stop your bitchin haha every now and then though anger piles up, and you become blinded.. Happened to me yesterday lol just got surgery, now have to go in for a second. No money.. Shitty insurance. It'll pass, I know it will, but I'm pretty much jobless for 5 more weeks after friday(my next surgery). No point in getting angry though.
I normally dont express my anger but every now and then somethin gets to me.. Yesterday was probably more to do with withdrawal. But now I got my meds back. Speaking of Im gonna go pop a bunch more and nod off to TV peace!
Thats a good saying too man, if one blames their problems on anything but themselves its ignorant. There are some exceptions though. But like you said shit happens to everyone.. Its unavoidable. The next step like you said would be to stop your bitchin haha every now and then though anger piles up, and you become blinded.. Happened to me yesterday lol just got surgery, now have to go in for a second. No money.. Shitty insurance. It'll pass, I know it will, but I'm pretty much jobless for 5 more weeks after friday(my next surgery). No point in getting angry though.
I normally dont express my anger but every now and then somethin gets to me.. Yesterday was probably more to do with withdrawal. But now I got my meds back. Speaking of Im gonna go pop a bunch more and nod off to TV peace!
VILEPLUME
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I hear ya. I get blinded sometimes too and let anger get the best of me.Congrats man
Thats a good saying too man, if one blames their problems on anything but themselves its ignorant. There are some exceptions though. But like you said shit happens to everyone.. Its unavoidable. The next step like you said would be to stop your bitchin haha every now and then though anger piles up, and you become blinded.. Happened to me yesterday lol just got surgery, now have to go in for a second. No money.. Shitty insurance. It'll pass, I know it will, but I'm pretty much jobless for 5 more weeks after friday(my next surgery). No point in getting angry though.
I normally dont express my anger but every now and then somethin gets to me.. Yesterday was probably more to do with withdrawal. But now I got my meds back. Speaking of Im gonna go pop a bunch more and nod off to TV peace!
If I can ask, what kind of surgery are you going through?
high|hgih
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I cut two tendons in my finger on accident because I tripped and fell with a glass door replacement in my hand
I just got one surgery about a week ago, now I gotta go in friday for another one because I wasn't supposed to straiten out my finger, but I did it when I was asleep and snapped it again.. Anger gets the best of people a lot though, its natural to be angry... Problem is managing anger. Some it in until they snap, some are angry all the time.. Some people seem to never be angry, but Im sure behind closed doors... Or they hold it in and die of a heart attack when theyre 25
dannyboy602
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i always thought all relationships in life are based on need. from the baby/mother bond to the bonds we create as adults. the void is there. you can call it love but whatever it is called you need another to fill that void. i have only a few ppl i really can say i love. but that's all i need. oh, and a cat. i think she fills a void too. i define myself by my relationships with these few people. they are not sexual realtionships. sex is over rated. and relationships with ppl are only good for what, 50 years? but love is a necessity. like food or air. they are the reason i stick around another day. cuz too many bad choices i make make me wanna do bad things. and i know it's love because i care so much for their welfare that i can't hurt myself without hurting them. and i just can't bring myself to hurt anyone i love that much. so yes. i think we need it to live. and it isn't a stagnant thing either. it is alive. we take it in and give it back. thats a very simplistic view. but it comes from a simple man with simple needs. and i think i like it just that way too.
themanwiththeplan
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ive been on both sides of the situation. ive went 5+ years in committed LTR's and ive spent at least that same amount of time (continuously) single.
Love is tricky. ive been deeply wounded by love and ive felt some of the most intense feelings of my life. been cheated on. lied to. ive been so deep in love that i couldnt see 1ft on either side of me because my eyes were so set on that one person.
i think its one of those "your experience will be unique" type of things. for some love is so important but others have grown to live without it and dont consider it a priority. i think love only becomes a need if you find the person that makes you feel you need them/love. i dont think you walk around just needing to be in love w/o cause or reason.
you know you need love when you actually REALLY need it. thats the best way i can think to put it.
Love is tricky. ive been deeply wounded by love and ive felt some of the most intense feelings of my life. been cheated on. lied to. ive been so deep in love that i couldnt see 1ft on either side of me because my eyes were so set on that one person.
i think its one of those "your experience will be unique" type of things. for some love is so important but others have grown to live without it and dont consider it a priority. i think love only becomes a need if you find the person that makes you feel you need them/love. i dont think you walk around just needing to be in love w/o cause or reason.
you know you need love when you actually REALLY need it. thats the best way i can think to put it.
I couldn't have expressed it better!
Zaehet Strife
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In order to be able to answer this question, we all need to agree on the definition we are all using for the word "LOVE".
VTMi'kmaq
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dude were human beings.......love...hate...social.....beings. Of course your gonna feel the litany of emotions via the LOVE TRAIN .....lmao that being said its gets better as you get older. At least for me it did! Jonny cash said it best...:love is a burnin thing.......and it makes ......a firey ring".
Zaehet Strife
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What is loooove?
kpmarine
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At the least, I would imagine we would have 3 categories: Platonic love, familial love, and romantic love. You may love all of these people, but they are different kinds of love. I would say the common requirements between the three are trust, respect, and common ground. The common symptom would be exceptional loyalty. It also seems reasonable to me that they aren't all equal, but that it varies by person. Love is hard for me to define sweepingly, there's some things about it that I'm not sure how to qualify. This is about the best I can do. I really hope this one continues though, "What is love?" seems like it could generate an interesting conversation.
Zaehet Strife
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Baby don't hurt me... don't hurt me...
Granny weed
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Their are all different kinds of love, the love you have for your mum and dad is different to the love you have or your husband or wife, the love you have for your husband or wife is different to the love you have for your children however all love can cause us to do things we would not normally do and can be more painful than physical pain. People who have lacked love in their lives find it hard to express love because they don't know what real love feels like.
Super Toker
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Love is just a Fleeting moment in time that Never lasts. Sure there are instances that last but they are becoming extinct in almost every other case. Its good to be with someone but Love is a Human Beings Biggest Flaw
