Wine tasting isnt too elaborate. Just show up, eat/drink, and pay the people.
I am thinking that is the way to go. With some little side gift. I think you guys are right on the expectations being set too hi to early.
Side note, our third date I made lamb chops and greek salad. Had the table set and everything ready to go. Got wine glasses down, but one had a spot on it...So as I am cleaning, the stem snaps and cuts my hand to the point where I needed 5 stitches. I said, "Babe, take a bite. How is it? Great...Now grab your keys, we are going to the Er." Smooth operator right