Decided To Start A Grow, And then SHE Happened

[MircalGrow]

I met a girl a couple years back, who came into my store to sale some stuff. Needless to say we hung out once or twice and then she called me crying one day, needing a place to stay since she was kicked out of the one bd room she was staying at with a couple friends for letting the bath tube over flow and leaked into the downstairs unit. She is a beautiful girl that has a great personality, So I was curious how she could have no place to stay and prolly hopping more would come from this also, so I let her crash at my place for 2 weeks before she moved west. During that time I spent with her we had a blast, but the last night she was here I walked out of my bathroom and she was nodded off with a lit match about to burn her finger. ANd it hit me like a ton of bricks, She has a drug problem. I stayed up watching her that night with the occasional tear of sympathy rolling out of the corner of my eye. That was 2.5 years ago. We kept in touch some over the years and she has been back here around a year or so. Although not much contact during that time the occasional call "Hi how are you?" thing.

Well she needed a place to stay again. When she first hinted that this time Mom is kicking her out, I blew her off. The 2nd time I took her out of town for the weekend so she didn't have to worry about it for a few days. See normally I wouldn't be to worried about this. But this time I have a few trees growing. Well one tree (vegged 2 months) at the end of wk 4 of flower, and 4 more straight from seed going and doing great. I gave in and let her crash. So after a week I let her in on my little secrete. Now this was against my better judgement, and well against the plan of "tell no soul" but this chick makes me all mushy inside sometimes.

Here is were it gets good. She got arrested June 7th for DUI and got driving on a suspended shortly after on a four wheeler of all things. It has been to long to pull her up to see why exactly she got arrested (at least without paying $30), it could be the truth she told me, I feel like it is the half truth. So what I am looking for is this fellow RUI'ers, should I chop now and break down my setup to be on the safe side? Or let it ride? Fuck I don't want to cut yet, but don't want to deal with the potential bullshit this young lady can bring on me if she is in a situation that it would help her out, to fuck me over?! Would she? My heart wants to say hell no! (That could be my penis talking also.) My brain tells me I am a dumb ass for being in the situation in the first place with her and that I need to cover my ass at all cost at this point. What would you do if you were in my situation?

And by the way even though this is my first post I have been lurking in the background for a while now on a daily basis, reading, reading and reading some more. Thank you everyone! From the mistakes the newbs make to the pro grows they have all helped me get to were I am at now.

 

[Bluegrassgrower]

Depends if your willing to take the chance. Yeah she's stayed with you a little bit but honestly it doesn't sound like you really know her that well or she woulda told you she had a drug problem. Just remember that a junkie will rob there grandma for a hit so your honestly probably not more than a peon to her. You shouldnt of told her but if it was me id tear it down and cut ties. Give it a little time to blow over in case she does throw you under the bus. Then after a while or after you move lol I'd set up again. It seems like a lot and it may be all for nothing but I'd rather be safe then sorry. But you know her not me. I'm just saying I've seen some of the most stand up people that wouldn't take a free penny turn into the nastiest rob there grandma type mother fucker after being on that shit for a little while. Fwiw.

 

[BigNBushy]

Well, also think about it like this. If she has done something worth rolling on someone over, and if she is a drug addict, she knows people who are "more attractive" to a DA looking to get another conviction under their belt. And very often these people are not liked by their customers because they fuck them over and generally treat them like shit. So, if she is going to roll, her choice is between a dude who has been nice to her, that has something not that bad, relatively speaking to the other choice, which is one of probably several of her dealers who treat her like shit and rip her off from time to time. I would probably keep it. Her telling them you are growing, with noting more isn't enough to do anything. Don't let her back into your place, and you should be safe. Her word is not enough for a warrant.

 

[MircalGrow]

Whats " Fwiw"? Ya I am thinking the same damn thing really. I have to cut, just to cover my ass.

 

[WayBaked]

Whats " Fwiw"? Ya I am thinking the same damn thing really. I have to cut, just to cover my ass.

FWIW = For What It's Worth

I don't know what state you're in, I wouldn't chop, but I'm on the very low end of paranoia and have always lived in very liberal states.

BigNBushy says it the way I would think of it. You have a couple plants, you're no big fish to go after. And if the word of a junkie is their lead, that warrant would never get signed off on by a judge.


I guess it all comes down to how badly you want to grow the precious plant, though.

After all, is it really worth the risk? Only you can answer that.

Look at your states laws and punishments, know your prior record, educate yourself on exactly what you'd be getting yourself into in the worst case scenario.

 

[dochickory]

hey bro take a good LICK at her and fuck her real good, get her talkin ..... ...nothing to lose let your penis put an end into this! and Yeah you're not a big fish.........you're paranoid and you have loose lips....that sink ships good luck

 

[MircalGrow]

Those are some good points! I am no big fish by any means, but any grow here is a bigger deal than it should be. Hell they are advertising on the local channels for people to report any suspension of drug activity now. Lol But I did my research and worse case, I have to deal with some bullshit for a year and pay some fines being someones first offense here if they wanted to go that route. Or they could throw me under for 3 years. depends on how they feel that day. But I would like to avoid that for sure.

As for being nice to her yes, I have gone above and beyond for her really. I like to live my life using logic, I defiantly have feelings for this chick, nothing has ever happened between us really. But I also think that she uses the fuck out of everyone so she can live her lifestyle, maybe UN-knowingly? I seem to see this in her from time to time, but I may be blinded a little bit because I do like her. That's where I am getting messed up on my logic. Logic says don't trust a Junkie! But I want to help this chick out, would love to get her clean, but if this is the life she chooses so be it.

After hashing it out with ya'll I have decided to let it ride. If I feel like there is a chance, I will knock it down to 1 plant (misdemeanor) to put me in clear for the most part. : )
I have 4 12-12 from seed and big momma is in her 3rd month now middle of wk 4 of flower. She stays no matter what!

And this is me to the young lady that I am letting crash kiss-ass

 

[potpimp]

Men are "rescuers"; we fall very easily for the "wounded dove" complex that women give. Women are very, very good manipulators (not all of course) and they know how to play a man to get what they want. You don't owe her anything, not a place to stay or anything. If I were to chop my stuff for her you can bet your ass that I'd be tapping that to my hearts content as payback. At least it's a good consolation prize.

 

[MircalGrow]

At least I could say I did it to get that ass then! Lol I am chilled out now, just been on mind and since she is the only soul that knows, hard to hash it out with her since she is the cause. I need move her ass on down the road nothing but heartache, worry and money spent is all that will be involved for me. Lol

 

[sunni]

heres what i think on a womans perspective. and its gunna be fucking blunt.

- she only makes you feel mushy and talks to you the way she does because she can get what she needs out of you. (a place to stay , food, ) she will probably go as far as fucking you. but she doesnt care about you. she is simply using you


truth hurts mate sorry. if you care about her youll send her to rehab the next time she asks for a place to stay.
as for your plants if your instinct tells you to take down the grow do it. dont make a life time mistake for a few plants you can grow again after shit is better.

 

[Grandmah]

Girl with drug problems? Hmmm. I've had friends, see had, who've had drug problems. I wouldn't bring them around any of my stuff. Be careful. There are very few worse things than a hot crack head.

 

[sunni]

Girl with drug problems? Hmmm. I've had friends, see had, who've had drug problems. I wouldn't bring them around any of my stuff. Be careful. There are very few worse things than a hot crack head.

a super omega hot crack addict?

 

[beuffer420]

Girl with drug problems? Hmmm. I've had friends, see had, who've had drug problems. I wouldn't bring them around any of my stuff. Be careful. There are very few worse things than a hot crack head.

Yea it's def something to b cautious over. Most addicts thinking is nothing but about themselves and what they can gain. Manipulation is a key tool in their box, if they haven't learned it they will soon enough.

From what I read just the fact that you question this persons logic at all is enough to send the alarms up. Not to mention the whole crack thing. If you feel you can a positive affect in her life go for it!

 

[Grandmah]

I don't think crack was ever mentioned as drug of choice but it's that, pain pills, or heroine. The one night described told me a heroin story a bit. It's something I'm afraid of. Good luck to you and her though. You have to watch yourself

 

[WayBaked]

...she was nodded off with a lit match about to burn her finger...

Sounds more like heroine than crack or pills.

 

[MircalGrow]

Sunni, blunt and to the point is the only way I need it. I know this, my logic tells me so, and I am normally good at staying away from the bullshitters, but for some reason I have this deep emotional thing going on. Most likely some connection I make with my very manipulative mother and her. Maybe I have some sick connection that way? I needed to hear it just how you put it Sunni. This is what is going to happen, first I am going to post some pics on here in just a sec for all yall to gander. Nothing marvelous, I know, but they are special to me. : ) Then I am chopping the 4 small ones and letting one ride. Her and I are going to talk about her finding a new place and I will give her a month or so to do so. And depending on how I feel she reacts, Big Momma may or may not get go. But that puts worse case at a misdemeanor.

 

[sunni]

Sunni, blunt and to the point is the only way I need it. I know this, my logic tells me so, and I am normally good at staying away from the bullshitters, but for some reason I have this deep emotional thing going on. Most likely some connection I make with my very manipulative mother and her. Maybe I have some sick connection that way? I needed to hear it just how you put it Sunni. This is what is going to happen, first I am going to post some pics on here in just a sec for all yall to gander. Nothing marvelous, I know, but they are special to me. : ) Then I am chopping the 4 small ones and letting one ride. Her and I are going to talk about her finding a new place and I will give her a month or so to do so. And depending on how I feel she reacts, Big Momma may or may not get go. But that puts worse case at a misdemeanor.

dont give her a month she will manipulate you, drop her off at a womans shelter or a rehab.

 

[WayBaked]

dont give her a month she will manipulate you, drop her off at a womans shelter or a rehab.

I second this.

 

[sunni]

i also bet if you told her you weregunna bring her to one of those , she would find somewhere else to live in about 10 mins.

 

[MircalGrow]

I love me Sunni already! Lol Blunt is the only way I will have it. I normally stay away from trying to be the hero, just something about her got to me. But the way you put is spot on and I am getting used the fuck up. So I chopped the 4 I was doing 12-12 from. I am keeping Big Momma for now, since in my state one plant is a misdemeanor. I am going to talk to her about finding a new place and give her a month or so to get out. And depending on how I feel she takes it, I may or may not chop the last one. Thanks Sunni I think I really needed to hear it from the Female perspective. Well how about a peak at the Journey so far