our kitchen staff is all women so the head chef is female not male lol
LoL. Even better!
Next time a veal anything is wagged at you, run toward the dining area and scream something like "The fuck your sticking that in my vagina, just because I'm a vegan!" Get the tears FLOWING! You see, sexual harassment in the workplace is very serious, and any accusation of it brings lots of heat. Only heat in a kitchen full of women should be those fuckin' stoves!
Seriously, if it's all women, and they're really bullying you, and you're getting NO recourse with ownership, after years of loyalty to them... Beat the shit out of the one that's harassing you the most.
Just walk up behind her, and face plant her shitty skull against the dirty greasy grill she's working over. Or the fryer. Have a knife handy, and tell 'em that you've been taking lessons, watching butcher's shows tryin' to buck up. If anyone wants to talk about it, well, you wanna practice... Again, you're cute and cry, unless you have a record you aren't telling us about, this will disappear, as other "bully" stories keep making headlines. That's if they ever report it. Even to the managers/owners...
Or, quit. Because a person with anxiety issues, and who's unwilling to fight the same way they are (and, wagging that meat at you is no less scarring, depending on your level of belief in animal/human equality is no less different than the scarring you'd give her) should NOT be in that environment. Find another job. Just like that. Call the manager back, give her 2 weeks, explain it's the distance and workplace harassment, and that you intend to file unemployment for the workplace bullying forcing you to quit.
Religion IS still an option, and Canada has some pretty solid anti-bias laws. Being a vegan is a part of more than one religion, some older than Christianity or Judaism. (hint, starts with a "B" and you get to wear cool robes when you meditate.)