I was a little buzzed last night and was thinking about what could have been. It happened to me once, too, a good number of years ago. I can remember our first meeting it like it was yesterday.
I was a co-owner of a business. He was a venture capitalist/college professor from VA. We had never met but we had emailed each other a couple of times and talked on the phone once or twice about my company’s books, IP, ROI, etc. He offered to go over my business plan and check out my prototype, we decided to meet at a restaurant in my hometown.
For the meeting I did my makeup to accent my green eyes and I wore my long, honey-brown hair down about my shoulders. I was trying to look more affluent than I actual was so I chose a black turtle neck, black pants, black boots and a all white coat I needed to make this guy think that I didn’t need the money. I was starting to feel more confident, I was ready for this or so I thought.
Yes, I did get there ahead of him. Yes, I did go into the restroom to brush my hair, fix my makeup and put extra gloss on my lips. Of course, he arrived while I was in the restroom and it seemed to tick him off. Not a great start by any means. I’m not sure what I expected but he wasn’t it.
We were seated. The waiter came to our table and asked if we wanted drinks before we ordered dinner. He had a beer and I had an Ice Tea-no alcohol. He didn’t wait to order dinner before he started to tear into my business plan. Rolling his eyeballs and using terms I had not ever heard, making me feel very uncomfortable and very inadequate.
Just then the waiter came back with our drinks and I looked directly at the executive and then I slowly turned my head back to the waiter and told him I had changed my mind. I wanted a drink and I wanted it straight up. Now I didn’t care what that man thought. I had been defeated and he hadn’t even looked at my documents.
It must have been written all of my face. He shook his head and told me he didn't know why he was that nasty, but he added that he couldn’t believe that he flown in for this meeting and then had to rent a car and, oh, I just seemed to make him behave this way. And we had just met and I probably hadn’t spoken more than a couple hundred words to him.
We had a nice but cordial dinner and he continued to critique of my plan. When it was time to go he walked me out to my car in the cold, dark parking lot. As fate would have it his rental car was parked next to my car.
We stood between the cars. We shook hands and, suddenly, there was this charge. It felt like a chill and it went right through my body. Every hair stood on end. It was as if the air had changed, it was electrified. Was he handsome? No, he wasn’t. He was average at best. But, if he had reached out and pulled me to him I would have melted.
We got into our cars and we drove away. It was no more than 5 miles away and my phone rang. It was him. He asked, hesitantly, if I had felt anything. OMG! OMG! OMG! He had felt it too. It wasn’t just me that felt that feeling. That incredible, wonderful, intense, tingly feeling.
A big snowstorm was moving in and he needed to get airborne. Would I see him again and give him another chance! Would I see him again??? You have to be kidding me!!!
I had never felt that before and I haven’t felt it since. Except whenever I was with him and it was always so intense. It was always so good.
There were many reasons for this romance to end. But I wonder every once in a while if I had missed my chance at a lifetime with my soul mate.
