reasonevangelist
Well-Known Member
sometimes people go into denial about how significantly their vices/habits/patterns are actually damaging themselves (and possibly others).
Denial is a bitch of a beast to fight, in another person's mindscape.
And we all know what Nietzsche said about fighting monsters and gazing into the abyss. ^^
You go fighting other people's monsters, try to make sure you don't become one of them. That's easier said than done.
You can say it matters to them... but if you never perceive their grief, after the fact... how much weight can it legitimately have, in the decision?
If a person is suffering that much, the elimination of suffering (or merely maintaining what mitigates it) becomes the most valuable pursuit; even sometimes when that means The End. That's the same reason we euthanize animals who are too damaged or too expensive to help enough.
What is likely happening to your friend, is that he's internally tormented by something that isn't changing, and has/knows no other way of effectively coping with it. So, he requires denial of the real damage he's doing to himself, because in the meantime, it's 'helping mitigate' what may otherwise be immutable or irrevocable.
Or, there's always the possibility that he just really, really enjoys it, and so he does what all humans do, and aims to repeat the actions and experiences he prefers. Maybe.
Denial is a bitch of a beast to fight, in another person's mindscape.
And we all know what Nietzsche said about fighting monsters and gazing into the abyss. ^^
You go fighting other people's monsters, try to make sure you don't become one of them. That's easier said than done.
Right, herein lies the problem: if you're never aware of what happens to them after you're gone... does it matter?
You can say it matters to them... but if you never perceive their grief, after the fact... how much weight can it legitimately have, in the decision?
If a person is suffering that much, the elimination of suffering (or merely maintaining what mitigates it) becomes the most valuable pursuit; even sometimes when that means The End. That's the same reason we euthanize animals who are too damaged or too expensive to help enough.
What is likely happening to your friend, is that he's internally tormented by something that isn't changing, and has/knows no other way of effectively coping with it. So, he requires denial of the real damage he's doing to himself, because in the meantime, it's 'helping mitigate' what may otherwise be immutable or irrevocable.
Or, there's always the possibility that he just really, really enjoys it, and so he does what all humans do, and aims to repeat the actions and experiences he prefers. Maybe.
