Attn ALL Female Members of RIU

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Stoney McFried

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THe picture is a different one of me, and I fiddled with it so it looked like it was viewed from the tie dyed eyes of a hippie....after all, don't want to be that easy to recognize.I'm 30 right now, and I hear ya about feeling old...kids add extra years.When they're eighteen and gone, I'm commiting to my lifelong ambition to be a full time drug addict....look for me in a gutter near you! And i don't get carded....everyone can tell by the defeated look on my face that I'm past my prime.My kingdom for a time machine....years of bad sex erased.....think of all the times I could have just played video games and smoked a doobie instead!:mrgreen:
Leilani Garden said:
Ms. Mc Fried? You changed your avatar? It used to be black and white? Is it the same picture, but you changed the photo effects? Whatever the case, cool imagery.

Eeek! Just read a few pages at random here. For a ladies' thread, it sure did attract the sharks and all their . . . you know. For god's sake, they never stop do they? Well, maybe in their 90s they do . . . cause I know one man in his 80's who is still trying.

Oh, and wow! I feel OLD here. I also thought that Wikid seemed older than her early twenties (even though the kitty seems to be in its 30's, heh heh). I am in my forties. I gotta say, though, that I don't feel like I'm old. It's just the physical stuff . . . your skin starts doing weird stuff, like reacting strangely to the sun . . . or you look dehydrated if you're not drinking enough water . . . or the skin on, get this, your knees starts sagging. It's a d-r-a-g, this aging thing. For all you women in your twenties? You own a GOLD MINE. Ditto for the thirties crowd. Even forty wasn't bad, but wow, you get into your mid-forties, and life starts feeling like it was always on fast forward, only it didn't notify you that it was going to do that.

But, on a positive note, last year, I got carded at the grocery store for wine. I thought that was pretty cool, esp since I was in my bathing suit, no makeup, a real mess after being out in the sun for hours. Then? As a gigantic ego booster, almost a year to the day? I got carded again!

If you're still in your twenties, you probably cannot even imagine what that can do for your fragile female ego. You really do have the gold mine at that age. I still have it, I just have to **remind myself** that I still have it, and not let myself feel bad because I don't look like, well, I don't look like women in their twenties! So just take it from your grandma here, if you're still in your twenties, treat life like it's an ice cream cone that's going to melt and enjoy it, as well as your beauty, as much as you can.

Man, I am dreading turning fifty. But then, the alternative sounds kind of nasty too--RIP dead at 45?

Live it up, girls. It will not last forever. Before you know it, you too will be older than all the pin-up girls. But then again, once you get into middle age, you have something the twenty-somethings don't have, but will one day have--experience.

Life flies by. Especially if you have children. It seems like it's all on fast forward.

And as for all the guys here (and EVERYWHERE) who want us to prove we're all women? Oh please. So lacking in originality. But ain't it fun to have them do it anyway? Men . . . ah, life would be so boring without them; not that we need them anymore, scientifically, biologically, we could all do it without them, but would we really want to? So? We put up with the goofier of them so that the real gems can shine.

And that? Brings up the whole unfair topic of: men age better than women. Oh yeah? Ever look at the singles ads on yahoo or elsewhere? Sure.

Enough. I gotta go take out my dentures and take my hormone replacement pills (not).

Women, we gotta stick together! But I love men too. I had too good a dad not to believe that all men are users.
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Leilani Garden

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Ah, so now your remark that King's Dark Tower series " is the shit" makes more sense.

That "is the shit" thing, the saying . . . as you have probably figured out from my last post, I am not a spring chicken anymore, like you. That saying just sounds so . . . weird to me. "Is the shit." Wow. I feel so old.

But I'm okay with it. I have one child who is in your age group. Granted, I've never heard her say "it's the shit," but I don't feel out of touch with women in your age group, either. If anything, I think younger women are now so much more in control of their destiny than I was, or the generation before me.

But . . . we're all in control to a certain extent, whether we were born in the 50's, 60's, 70's or beyond. Same old, same old, right? A hundred years from now, if someone were to do some sort of study on this board (which will not vanish, because as we all know, or should know, online communication never goes away), there would not be much difference in someone your age compared to my age. So we'd be twenty or so years apart in age--won't mean that much in years to come. (So everyone? Put on your best face/post for the researchers in 2118, who are trying to earn their way through grad school, doing historical research in many fields: "Online communication in the millenium age" or "Online communication among bohemian-type women in the millenium age" or "A comparative analysis of women in the online communication: why political oppression enhanced communication skills and personal bonding in an age of prohibition." You know, stuff like that.

Sometimes, I think I ought to go into the "spoofing" business. How I could spoof academic studies. God knows, I've done enough of them, as an outsider looking in (that is, someone who finally threw her hands up in the air and said, "I can't take anymore of this bullshit! And to think I'm racking huge bills to do this bullshit and learning NOTHING!!"). (But then again, it could be worth studying, right? I actually did a study of women with eating disorders, by lurking on their bulletin boards in grad school. Sometimes I felt like i was really invading their privacy!).

I still say: you da bomb, gal. No wonder your mom gave you that pendant. She knew gold when she saw it. :smile::smile: I say it should have said, "____ ____ I'm the GOLD MINE!" (and "get a license to mine, dude.)
 
Leilani Garden

Leilani Garden

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.look for me in a gutter near you!

Good god, ladybird, you give yourself no credit. Your avatar, now and the b/w one shows a gorgeous woman.

Gold mine. Listen to me, okay? You've got it, and you've got it now. Do not talk about yoruself like that!

You just wait. Your thirties will fly by so fast, you won't be able to catch your breath, and then it'll be forty. And really, forty didn't freak me out nearly as bad as thirty-five did, but worse, forty-five.

Love it while you've got it. I'm 45 now, and I have to keep telling myself that. Seriously. What am I going to feel like in ten years? Shit, I'll be eligible for discount coffee at McDonald's!

And btw, thirty was my golden year. Not twenty, not twenty-five. I was "the shit" at thirty! It was GREAT year. I don't think I ever looked better or felt really great at any other age. Thirty is a great age. Live it and love it!
 
Stoney McFried

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LOL!WEll, before I go to bed...let me just say the gold mine's getting dusty!Night all!
Leilani Garden said:
.look for me in a gutter near you!

Good god, ladybird, you give yourself no credit. Your avatar, now and the b/w one shows a gorgeous woman.

Gold mine. Listen to me, okay? You've got it, and you've got it now. Do not talk about yoruself like that!

You just wait. Your thirties will fly by so fast, you won't be able to catch your breath, and then it'll be forty. And really, forty didn't freak me out nearly as bad as thirty-five did, but worse, forty-five.

Love it while you've got it. I'm 45 now, and I have to keep telling myself that. Seriously. What am I going to feel like in ten years? Shit, I'll be eligible for discount coffee at McDonald's!

And btw, thirty was my golden year. Not twenty, not twenty-five. I was "the shit" at thirty! It was GREAT year. I don't think I ever looked better or felt really great at any other age. Thirty is a great age. Live it and love it!
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Leilani Garden

Leilani Garden

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My kingdom for a time machine....years of bad sex erased.....think of all the times I could have just played video games and smoked a doobie instead!

Hey this is a really good point. Definitely, stay home, hang out with your kids, read, play video games, cook, do some artsty stuff, whatever; just don't spend time with men if it feels like it's something you ought to be doing just because. Time spent with yourself, like really being with yourself (however out-there that might sound) is always better than time spent having bad sex just because someone made you think that was good for you. It's not. If it does not feel right, it probably is not.

And you are hardly looking bad for your age. See, this is somethign that's really bothering me as I get older. I saw some pictures of me taken by a professional photographer when I was about twenty-nine. I did them for money (no, no nudes, sorry guys). I was in graduate school, needed money, and it was fun work. But when I recall what my head was telling me about myself at the time, I could vomit. I saw those pictures a few weeks ago and I could have wept--not for myself now (because I'm pretty secure about myself and my appearance *for my age*), but because when I was so young and so beautiful, I did not realize it, and I gave myself such a hard time: Oh, my thighs were not perfect. Oh, my whatever was not perfect. You know what? No, they were not, but I was a damned good looking woman and I never let myself enjoy that.

So . .. ENJOY it. Not for the men in your life. Enjoy it for YOU. Be the beautiful woman you are, enjoy her now, enjoy being that beautiful, youthful version of yourself.

You're a mom, right? Wouldn't you want that for your own children?

So? Be your own mom and MAKE yourself see the beautiful self you are. Your head definitely gets easier to deal with as you get older, but still, we're such a materialistic culture that this age/beauty thing can really hurt some of us women as we age.

Love yourself, girls. Really.
 
Wikidbchofthewst

Wikidbchofthewst

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Leilani Garden said:
Ms. Mc Fried? You changed your avatar? It used to be black and white? Is it the same picture, but you changed the photo effects? Whatever the case, cool imagery.

Eeek! Just read a few pages at random here. For a ladies' thread, it sure did attract the sharks and all their . . . you know. For god's sake, they never stop do they? Well, maybe in their 90s they do . . . cause I know one man in his 80's who is still trying.

Oh, and wow! I feel OLD here. I also thought that Wikid seemed older than her early twenties (even though the kitty seems to be in its 30's, heh heh). I am in my forties. I gotta say, though, that I don't feel like I'm old. It's just the physical stuff . . . your skin starts doing weird stuff, like reacting strangely to the sun . . . or you look dehydrated if you're not drinking enough water . . . or the skin on, get this, your knees starts sagging. It's a d-r-a-g, this aging thing. For all you women in your twenties? You own a GOLD MINE. Ditto for the thirties crowd. Even forty wasn't bad, but wow, you get into your mid-forties, and life starts feeling like it was always on fast forward, only it didn't notify you that it was going to do that.

But, on a positive note, last year, I got carded at the grocery store for wine. I thought that was pretty cool, esp since I was in my bathing suit, no makeup, a real mess after being out in the sun for hours. Then? As a gigantic ego booster, almost a year to the day? I got carded again!

If you're still in your twenties, you probably cannot even imagine what that can do for your fragile female ego. You really do have the gold mine at that age. I still have it, I just have to **remind myself** that I still have it, and not let myself feel bad because I don't look like, well, I don't look like women in their twenties! So just take it from your grandma here, if you're still in your twenties, treat life like it's an ice cream cone that's going to melt and enjoy it, as well as your beauty, as much as you can.

Man, I am dreading turning fifty. But then, the alternative sounds kind of nasty too--RIP dead at 45?

Live it up, girls. It will not last forever. Before you know it, you too will be older than all the pin-up girls. But then again, once you get into middle age, you have something the twenty-somethings don't have, but will one day have--experience.

Life flies by. Especially if you have children. It seems like it's all on fast forward.

And as for all the guys here (and EVERYWHERE) who want us to prove we're all women? Oh please. So lacking in originality. But ain't it fun to have them do it anyway? Men . . . ah, life would be so boring without them; not that we need them anymore, scientifically, biologically, we could all do it without them, but would we really want to? So? We put up with the goofier of them so that the real gems can shine.

And that? Brings up the whole unfair topic of: men age better than women. Oh yeah? Ever look at the singles ads on yahoo or elsewhere? Sure.

Enough. I gotta go take out my dentures and take my hormone replacement pills (not).

Women, we gotta stick together! But I love men too. I had too good a dad not to believe that all men are users.
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Wow, getting all serious on me....way to bring down my high, lol.

But seriously, you're talking to someone who had a midlife crisis at the age of THIRTEEN. I kid you not. When I turned 13 I freaked out. I was afraid of getting older. I couldn't believe that 13 years had passed in my life, more than a decade, and I felt like it was nothing. And I couldn't remember half of it! Not saying that I didn't remember things from my childhood, but if you took all of my memories and added them up...it felt like it wasn't enough.

I dunno, I just really tripped out. My friends all teased me, "oooo, the big one three." rolling their eyes. lol, and I guess it was kind of silly. But I've always been very conscious of the passage of time, and what it means.

I've always been afraid of getting older, because my getting older means my mom getting older, and my grandparents and I honestly just can't imagine a world without them in it.
 
Leilani Garden

Leilani Garden

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ut seriously, you're talking to someone who had a midlife crisis at the age of THIRTEEN. I kid you not. When I turned 13 I freaked out. I was afraid of getting older. I couldn't believe that 13 years had passed in my life, more than a decade, and I felt like it was nothing. And I couldn't remember half of it! Not saying that I didn't remember things from my childhood, but if you took all of my memories and added them up...it felt like it wasn't enough.

I dunno, I just really tripped out. My friends all teased me, "oooo, the big one three." rolling their eyes. lol, and I guess it was kind of silly. But I've always been very conscious of the passage of time, and what it means.

I've always been afraid of getting older, because my getting older means my mom getting older, and my grandparents and I honestly just can't imagine a world without them in it.


Sounds like you're just a really senstive, intuitive person (and I don't mean sensitive in the way most people toss that word around, more like sensitive to things most people don't think about.

I wouldn't call your age 13 crisis a midlife crisis, though, more like the moment that your maturity kicked in and you realized life was no game, not a dress rehearsal, that every moment counts. Pretty impressive, actually.

And I totally get you on the thought of everyone we love getting older, getting closer to death. I've already lost a parent, and I can tell you--it's hard, really hard. You do get through it, but I don't think you ever really get over it if you were close to your parent. You just have to learn how to keep loving them even when they're gone. Sounds weird, I know, but you'll understand one day. And in the meantime? Love those people who mean so much to you as much as you can now. Trite but true advice.

Oh man, now I'm all sad. Dang. I sure do miss him.

That song back there that someone posted about? Is that an Edith Piaf song? She was great!
 
Wikidbchofthewst

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Leilani Garden said:
Sounds like you're just a really senstive, intuitive person (and I don't mean sensitive in the way most people toss that word around, more like sensitive to things most people don't think about.

I wouldn't call your age 13 crisis a midlife crisis, though, more like the moment that your maturity kicked in and you realized life was no game, not a dress rehearsal, that every moment counts. Pretty impressive, actually.

And I totally get you on the thought of everyone we love getting older, getting closer to death. I've already lost a parent, and I can tell you--it's hard, really hard. You do get through it, but I don't think you ever really get over it if you were close to your parent. You just have to learn how to keep loving them even when they're gone. Sounds weird, I know, but you'll understand one day. And in the meantime? Love those people who mean so much to you as much as you can now. Trite but true advice.

Oh man, now I'm all sad. Dang. I sure do miss him.

That song back there that someone posted about? Is that an Edith Piaf song? She was great!
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Yes, it was her song first.

And as for 13, I call it my midlife crisis because I'm convinced I'm going to die when I'm 26 years old. I think i got it in a fortune cookie once. Plus in history class we were talking about the Mayan calandar predicting the end of the world in the year 2012, and I'll be 26 in that year :shock:

I don't REALLY believe I'll die when I'm 26, but I wouldn't be surprised, and I'm kinda worried that it might be true....I dunno.
 
AnitaNuggs

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Wikidbchofthewst said:
Yes, it was her song first.

And as for 13, I call it my midlife crisis because I'm convinced I'm going to die when I'm 26 years old. I think i got it in a fortune cookie once. Plus in history class we were talking about the Mayan calandar predicting the end of the world in the year 2012, and I'll be 26 in that year :shock:

I don't REALLY believe I'll die when I'm 26, but I wouldn't be surprised, and I'm kinda worried that it might be true....I dunno.
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thats realllly weird..
i'd be shitin bricks
 
Stoney McFried

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I'd always thought I'd die when I was thirty.I'll be 31 in December.No, I'll probably live a loooooong annoying life.:rolleyes:
Wikidbchofthewst said:
Yes, it was her song first.

And as for 13, I call it my midlife crisis because I'm convinced I'm going to die when I'm 26 years old. I think i got it in a fortune cookie once. Plus in history class we were talking about the Mayan calandar predicting the end of the world in the year 2012, and I'll be 26 in that year :shock:

I don't REALLY believe I'll die when I'm 26, but I wouldn't be surprised, and I'm kinda worried that it might be true....I dunno.
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