I had a pretty strained relationship with my dad too but it got better later not long before he passed from cancer. More that I finally began to mature as I hit 30 and could see things from his point of view better. Him a WWII naval vet with a very strong work ethic and me an aspiring hippy who would work long enough to collect poggie and party the rest of the time.
He was really proud of me when I sobered up and decided to go back to school but passed before I actually started. So many times I wanted to throw in the towel but thoughts of him kept me going to graduate with a diploma in environmental chemistry at the age of almost 36. I never got a high school diploma and had to take a math upgrade course for 6 weeks in the summer before school started in Sept.
There was a black guy from Kenya sitting in on the class to brush up before taking a 2 year electronics class and as we both smoked got to talking when out for a smoke break. We ended up being pretty good friends and he even lived with us for about 6 months. My boys were pretty young and we went all over the place together. He really loved it up at our cabin and got to be a pretty good fisherman. His student visa ran out so he went over to Vancouver Island to dodge the authorities and was working at a big pot farm then a brother back home who had sworn to kill him if he came back was killed by gov't soldiers so Joel went back to Kenya and the last I heard of him was he had gone full alcoholic. He had got some lady in his village to contact me on FB as she wanted to come to Canada and he knew I was a single dad so wanted to hook us up. Bless his heart.
When I grew up near Vancouver we didn't have a black or asian kid in any class until about grade 5 so I had little contact with any but other white folk. After I dropped out of school in grade 11 and started working in factories was when I started having more contact with other races. Many were 1st gen east indians that didn't mix socially with us whites. This was back in the 70s and I have to admit to being just as prejudiced as most of my peers at the time. There was quite an influx of east indians back then and like anytime a new immigrant class starts moving in there was friction. These days I'm a visible minority in my old home town of Richmond which now looks more like the old Chinatown in Vancouver than than the smallish town I grew up in at my last visit about 7 years ago.
Rather than become more hard-nosed and anti-everything as I approach my 70th b-day later this year I've become a lot more accepting of change even tho I don't understand a lot of it. I don't think I'll ever figure out all this LGBTQ etc stuff but I've had gay friends since my teens so have no issues with any of it. My biggest concern is the total invasion of our privacy in almost every aspect of our lives. My dad told me that when they first brought in social insurance numbers there was a big stink about that. His generation compared it to how the Nazis tattooed numbers on the Jews and you look around now how the younger crowd spill their whole lives all over the internet with little or no regard to privacy concerns.
To return to the topic of this thread I think Biden proved in his SOTU address that he's still playing with a full deck and like myself has evolved enough to see that trying to keep things the way they were a century ago is not the way forward in this rapidly changing world. The kinds of programs that the right decry as socialism are no different than how neighbours help each other in times of trouble but expanded to include all neighbourhoods everywhere. Things like universal health care, a living wage and autonomy of your own body should be givens for all and not just the purview of the rich.
A lot of changes are needed but the changes the right are pushing for are in the wrong direction.