Boy-Girl...please take this thred seriously

fdd2blk said:

or you're really drunk, or you don't have one 'cause you used the last one this morning, or ........

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or in my case... they don't make one big enough

Or you are polite enough not to make your dick taste funny... funnier is probably more accurate.

what... huh? said:

Or you are polite enough not to make your dick taste funny... funnier is probably more accurate.

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are you saying you've tasted dick ?

Not that there's anything wrong with that...

I was just assuming, because vagina and ass taste funny... which would be the only reason one would be wearing one... unless you just like the way they feel when you are riding the bus, pocket grinding on the amputee.

Talk to both of them.As long as you're totally honest, who's to say you can't be with both people?Everyone is different, all relationships are different.I'm the monogamous type, but I've seen some VERY healthy poly relationships....respect and honesty are the key.

WOW! Thank you all so much for giving me such good advice. I kinda feel like a dumbass now for beating myself up over such a stupid subject.

But anywho, let me start the quotes...

dan catalyst said:

i dont think you have to worry about anyone bashing you here.we are all pretty open.im stright, but i hang out with mostly gay or bi people in the 'rave' comunity.the most important thing is to get with a group of people who are supportave of you no matter what your into.im not sure whre your from, but if its possable try and go to a rave and get in with that crowd.lots of stright and gay people, but everyone is accepting.its looks to me like gay clubs might be a little drmatic you your tast,but dont rule them completely out if you get desperate for acceptance,lol.yeah man,just chill with some buds.fuck the haters their are plenty of other people out there who have something positive to offer you.

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I often go to raves and clubs and what not. It's easy for me because I live a stones throw away from philly. I just always kept it a secret, but not anymore!

OregonMeds said:

I'm a bi dude, sounds like you are too. You only have one shot at life and one chance at enjoying being the age you are now so enjoy it. Do what you can to gain the confidence to rise above the bullshit and feel confident in yourself and just go with the flow. If you're an honest monogamous bi guy just be that guy straight up with each person you ever date or whatever, no problems people will accept it or not and it's not that big of a deal if they don't.

Some girls are not ok with it, some are, others are more than ok with it and might want you to play with a guy or be their excuse to try threesomes etc you just never know.

Lots of potential, Enjoy the adventure... If you don't know who you want maybe you just need to be friends longer and see what happens, eventually you'll have more feelings for one and their sex won't be the deciding factor necessarily.

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The more and more I think about it, the more I'm realizing that I think I am Bi. And there is nothing wrong with that. Let you Bi flag wave!

what... huh? said:

Sounds to me like you just want to be loved, and the sexuality isn't important. Any feelings will feel like strong feelings... which is confusing.

I recommend you work on independence for a while. The rest will come naturally. This feels like a rush to find something to fill a void. I find that dishonest to people who might actually be investing feelings in you.

Unless you are masturbating with images in mind... this isn't about sex. Sex is a hurdle to be conquered for love.



Gotta love you first.


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heathaa said:

all i know is people choose to be gay they arent born that way. i dont mind hanging out with gays bis les or whatever usually as long as they keep it to themselves

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I am sorry, but I think that is the dumbest thing I have ever herd . I have nothing more to say to you.

fdd2blk said:

sounds like someone needs a hug.

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Thanks, I nedded that

hanimmal said:

Life is tough. Like What said you need to figure out how to be yourself and just be happy with what you are and have. Trying to decide what relationship to be in shouldn't be different than me trying to decide which girl to date in college. It is a choice between two people, take the notions of what society says you are deciding between out of it.

Besides only one choice I made worked out for me with all the attempts I had at dating. And I don't even have to deal with being someone that has to deal with societies pressures as I am strait. So just go into whatever you are with a good attitude and don't look back, if it works it works. If it doesn't it won't.



Why? What happens if it turns out you end up in a life that does not make you happy. Family life would not be much fun if you force yourself into a situation that you hate.

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I guess I put my foot in my mouth there. What I should have said was, where ever, or who ever I end up with, I do want a family later on in life with a house, white picket fence and that whole spiel.

Johnnyorganic said:

Whatever your path, I hope you find it. And happiness.

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You sir, are a saint. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.kiss-ass

Stoney McFried said:

Talk to both of them.As long as you're totally honest, who's to say you can't be with both people?Everyone is different, all relationships are different.I'm the monogamous type, but I've seen some VERY healthy poly relationships....respect and honesty are the key.

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Respect and honesty is the key, I couldn't have said it better myself



Well you all have given me a lot to pounder about. And I do belive that I need to have a sit down with my two significant others to find out just where we stand. As for my sexuality, for now I'm just going to call myself... MYSELF!!!!

once again, thank you all (even the ones i didn't quote) for your advice. And I hope to see you all around the fourm again.

Peace& Love

try to have sex with both...does your penis get hard each time?

the penis is not given enough credit in matters such as these.

Good luck... And be careful. Not all are tolerant and trust isn't someting to give lightly. But, you sound like an intelligent person. I'm sure you knew that.... blessings upon thee mortal. (I like your avatar and sig pics, btw.)

You sound like you have it figured out just the realisation may not have dawned on you yet.

Live life and be happy with your choices, if your not lieing to or decieving others, or yourself, you cant go far wrong. Everyone knows what love is to them, to some extent, and if you love someone and are comfortable with your choice then everyone else can go fuck themselves. In any loving relationship the only opinions that matter are yours and your lovers.

Peace, love & unity for all mankind

I'm assuming yo are a male - seeing as to how you added the line "i wanna settle down with a woman eventually".

as far as bisexuality or homosexuality, I believe we are all free to do what pleases us. I'm also Christian. I've read that if one doesn't have anything good to say, then one shouldn't say anything at all . . .

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So I will just say, personally, that I think Women are God's Gift to mankind. I love the women, especially the ones with the big bootaaayyy!!!! There are different qualities that satisfy different people. We choose our qualities, and modalities of how we are, althroughout life as personal choices of the individual. Just be aware - WHAT YOU DO NOW - WILL AFFECT YOU LATER ON. When you do find that final woman you want to settle down with, IF you want to avoid further inbalances and dysfunction down the road, you will have to be honest with her. You will have to let her know about your previous encounters - well - let me change that - you SHOULD be honest with her, and you SHOULD let her know. and hopefully she'll be the type that is open to those kind of lifestyles. The quality you bring to the table, and the quality she brings to the table. MOST IMPORTANTLY IS THE OFFSPRING!!! NONE of us are the productive result of a same sex union. Before one disqualifies that statement in favor of freedom of will(which I support freedom), please also consider the law of nature. We also respect Nature too don't we? Being at odds with the nature of things just sucks, cause that is fighting reality.

Me personally, I think its a kick in the face to women when a guy goes after another guy. Maybe even alot of women disagree with me. Bisexuality is included in my statement. My penis don't work with the presence of another penis. I'd suggest you stick with the women dude. They are most excellent enough.

You will never see me hating on anyone's sexuality. But you will see me making suggestions. especially if someone opens to my input. It may be worth something, it may be worth nothing. Keep that to yourself and stay on topic. That is all.

If you able to french kiss a dude and a chick i think your a bisexual male... I know if i kissed a dude i would puke my gutts out.....But thats me, everyone is different...

I think by posting this your risking alot.. You in a confused state and hearing what others have to say may complicate who YOU are... If i were in your shoes,, i would chill on the relationships and sex stuff for a while... Get your mind off of it and focus other priorities in your life... Maybe study more hit the gym what ever just pack yours days full.. Get a lil more life experience under your belt...

Like it or not your in vulnerable state where opinions matter and your likely to adhere anothers opinion to your own.

dan catalyst said:

i dont think you have to worry about anyone bashing you here.we are all pretty open.im stright, but i hang out with mostly gay or bi people in the 'rave' comunity.

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Yay ravers!!!! Honestly, it's all about who you feel more for as a person, and if neither of them "wins" out then maybe you shouldn't be in a serious relationship with either. I met my girlfriend that currently lives with me when I was dating 2 other girls that I really liked, but couldn't see myself ever really loving. So bide your time, and it'll all work out!

I'm sure you'll be fine. It's important to let your parents know though. I know if my parents were the last to know they'd be hurt, but then again, my parents would have no problem with me being gay (i'm straight however).

mate dont worry bout it, you will be more unhappy trying to please people by being what you think they want you to be rather than just being yourself, its a question i've pondered on many occasions and one that made me unhappy for a long time while i was growing up.

i've been with my girlfriend for 8 years nearly now, she knows near enough everything about me, who i slept with, what sex or race they were and what i did, believe me that was quit a diverse group of people and she was shocked when she first found out, i didnt tell her, she was informed by a friend who thought i wasnt right for her. how wrong they were.

she's made such a difference to me, made me who i am today. above all she's tought me not to lable myself, i dont consider myself straght, gay or bi, simply myself.

i suppose its easier at the moment because i'm in a traditional straght relationship and dont have to deal with any bodys narrowmindedness but if we did split up i wouldnt rule anyone out from either sex.

having said that i hope my relationship with my girl never ends, to me she is the most wonderfull person on the planet, i owe her everything including my sanity and in the end thats what counts.

its funny at 16 i hated people knowing who i really was, i'm 25 now and i coulnt be better, got my motor (my second love), a mortgae on a 3 bedroom house and i'm with someone who is perfect for me, when i see people who gave me greef when i was a kid, i smile because it all seems so insignificant now....

if you meet someone you are attracted to, go with it, sod what anyone els thinks and if someone give you shit, dont be supprised if they have someting to hide in their lives, some people who hated on me are now openly gay.... funny old world

and before anybody takes the piss outa this.. sod ya, not really fussed.

and to the guy who said sexuality is a choice??? i think you were mis-informed my friend....

I am an openly gay man in my mid 30's and have learned a lot of lessons the hard way. One thing I have learned and and embraced is that we are all varying shades of gray. I think it is a huge sliding scale with one end being straight and one end being gay. I know that lots of people would proclaim one end of the scale or another but I think that is bullshit. We are all within the ends of that scale somewhere, not at either of the extremes. I have seen flamers sucking a tittie and hardcore straight jocks watching themselves getting sucked by a dude. BUT, when it comes to a soulmate and someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, you will find that person and know instantly that this is THE person. You will likely be blindsided by the discovery and who knows, it could be a dude or a chick, remember they are somewhere on that scale too. Nothing is as cut and dry as we would all like to beleive.

Peace and good luck.

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True as fuck, end of the day, if you choose one of the 2 people your talking about probibly wont be the person you sepnd the rest of your days with, plenty of time for that.

Well hows this. My new guide to know if your gay.

HAVE YOU TAKEN IT IN THE ASS YET?: (YES:YOUR GAY.) (NO: BUT YOU LIKE MEN A LITTLE BIT, YOUR PROBABLY BI)
WOULD YOU RATHER SUCK A PENIS OR LICK A VAGINA?: I think you know the answer to this one. I'll stop now.

I'd rather suck a penis.OMG, I'm gay!

greengrowthexpert said:

Well hows this. My new guide to know if your gay.

HAVE YOU TAKEN IT IN THE ASS YET?: (YES:YOUR GAY.) (NO: BUT YOU LIKE MEN A LITTLE BIT, YOUR PROBABLY BI)
WOULD YOU RATHER SUCK A PENIS OR LICK A VAGINA?: I think you know the answer to this one. I'll stop now.

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hey man i dont judge no one but it alwayz good to be with a girl, sure she can be a bitch and all but after all that u can suck on them titys lol j/p wel not really.

but this is wut i alwayz say if u wonder if u are gay then u r.

At the end of the day, the ONLY opnions that count are yours. None of us on this tie have the ability to make the call for you, so follow your heart and it won't let you stray.. whichever you choose, make sure you're happy with the result.