do your kids watch you take aspirin?

I have twin 9 year old's a boy and a girl, and I don't even let them see me take a dip of Copenhagen much less me smoke a joint or a bong rip. I would not want them doing it till they are 18 and can make a conscious and educated choice to use or not use mind altering substances.
I will admit the first time I smokes pot was when I was 13, and I got caught and punished accordingly. I didn't smoke pot again till I was 24 and hurt my back really bad when I was a firefighter/emt. My parents are old hippies and smoked it up till I was about 11 and then they stopped because they didn't want to set a bad example for us. I won't/Can't stop smoking if I want to lead a productive life. So if my kids ever see me, or ask about the smell in the garage I will explain to them that is it my medicine, and leave it at that. Of course they will soon realize it is so much more than just medicine and we will have to visit the subject further.

bowlfullofbliss said:

I have no interest in letting my children (4 and 7) see me use cannabis. For this reason, I only smoke after they go to bed, out in my pole barn, upstairs, never in the house.

I made the mistake of letting my then 2 yr old in my grow room while tending to my garden, which is now permanently shut down here, and every once in a while she will be walking around in the downstairs part of the garage, and ask me how the plants are doing. I just look at her like I'm confused and ask her what plants? She then replies by saying the ones that are in the other door, upstairs. Oy. Big mistake, glad its over. I can't believe she remembers that.

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The reason she recalls this my friend is the oddity of your body language, if not literally words, in the act of hiding your activities. This is how our children learn ethics and morals and they more often learn what you do not what you say. When I was a child drinking hospitalized my old man for months and upon his return he began hiding it. In the end he hid nothing and no one was better off. I told mine I grow my own medicine and we don't talk about it for security concerns.

I dont really know.... I know my daughter knows (10) that I am up to something but I know she is not 100% on what it is. I know its time to have "the talk" about mj but this is difficult. My parents are extremely conservative old school. They cant ever really handle the fact I use medically and are caught up the "drugs are bad" sort of mentality. I am almost 40 and dont really care if they did ultimately find out but I would much rather just keep the piece. For my parents at least... "ignorance is bliss". But I dont want that for my kids... I like this thread as it gives me some ideas. Been putting off this talk for a while now. Kids are just too damn smart to really fool them.

TheMan13 said:

The reason she recalls this my friend is the oddity of your body language, if not literally words, in the act of hiding your activities. This is how our children learn ethics and morals and they more often learn what you do not what you say. When I was a child drinking hospitalized my old man for months and upon his return he began hiding it. In the end he hid nothing and no one was better off. I told mine I grow my own medicine and we don't talk about it for security concerns.

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That's kind of how I handled it too. My two oldest have been sat down for the "talk", and it was explained to them what I'm doing, and why I'm doing it. I told them that some people have silly views towards marijuana, and that we have thousands of dollars worth of equipment and medicine in the house and for that reason we do not talk about this with anyone. I have chosen not to medicate in front of my kids not because I think it would be a bad influence on them, but because I don't want them (being kids) inadvertently saying something to a parent or teacher and bringing unnecessary problems to our house. I want my kids to grow up with a liberal attitude towards marijuana, but I also want them to be smart about it. I hope to pass on my joy of gardening and helping others to them.

SomeGuy said:

I dont really know.... I know my daughter knows (10) that I am up to something but I know she is not 100% on what it is. I know its time to have "the talk" about mj but this is difficult. My parents are extremely conservative old school. They cant ever really handle the fact I use medically and are caught up the "drugs are bad" sort of mentality. I am almost 40 and dont really care if they did ultimately find out but I would much rather just keep the piece. For my parents at least... "ignorance is bliss". But I dont want that for my kids... I like this thread as it gives me some ideas. Been putting off this talk for a while now. Kids are just too damn smart to really fool them.

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In the end it's all about being a responsible parent. If you are a negligent parent your MJ use and grow are irrelevant. These are essentially social issues and norms we will teach or children regardless of our intent.

TheMan13 said:

In the end it's all about being a responsible parent. If you are a negligent parent your MJ use and grow are irrelevant. These are essentially social issues and norms we will teach or children regardless of our intent.

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This is true. However there are a lot of OPINIONS about what being a responsible parent entails...LOL!! This is why discretion and caution are always present with this. All of us have a great deal of fear and rightfully so. As far as the feds are concerned we are all criminals even in legal states. I think my talk will go something like this:

-Explain what MJ really is and how/why I use
-reasons you should not consider use till an adult
-reasons for discretion when talking with people outside the home
-probably some others that my wife thinks of that I wouldn't in a million years.

I figure its coming soon. I probably would not have gone off the deep end with drugs when I was younger if I wasn't lied to about them constantly. I figure its better to help my kids protect themselves with information than propaganda.

SomeGuy said:

I figure its coming soon. I probably would not have gone off the deep end with drugs when I was younger if I wasn't lied to about them constantly. I figure its better to help my kids protect themselves with information than propaganda.

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Most "shield" their children from language and then the bully uses that tool of power on them once they hit the school yard. They can tell whom exactly this shocks and exploit that in turn. Not so different from the threat of government force in our medicine cabinet no? It's the collateral damage of these things we think we are teaching our children that concerns me. Did the censorship of Ricky & Lucy sleeping in different beds on TV have anything to do with the summer of love generation and current sexual promiscuity of our society?

The thing is, there is no right or wrong path to take on this issue as long as you truly believe in the route you take with your children. Whether its full disclosure from birth or trying to keep things hidden until the kids are of mature age, as long as the child's best interest is foremost in mind its all good!

It is CPS' opinion that matters. Never let them know what you are doing. Learn your rights when dealing with them. Do not trust your section 4 "rights"

Agreed, the end game is always keep yourself out of the system at all cost. once you're there-you're fucked- and seem to be lifetime guilty until proven innocent.