Yeah man, I have so been where you are, exact same situation.
Here is what I did. I a;so had an attorney, so use yours, it keeps you sane. But expensive.
Just don't let her get the better of your temper, and head over there to get your child, or see her.
Stay away, but request placement with child.
So anyway when you get the court date. and she is blithering about a home inspection, tell her you will call the fire dept, to request a fire inspection.
They do it free and within a day or so around here. Have attorney fax that to the judge.
If it is your child and there is nothing else going against you, enjoy the time with you child.
If there is already a court order establishing your placement time which she is denying, pursue contempt, your attorney will know what to do.
Trash the grow if you have one, your compromised, close it up till it clears up.
I should have asked what state you are in
