but still i would like an opinion from somebody... if its a confirmed male i can start a new grow 
I would say give it a few more days. It's starting to show, but i cant see clear "balls". I can see pistles coming out. If it's a girl you'll be able to see 2 white hairs coming out behind those pistils coming out now. If it's a boy those pistols will start to look like little balls on top of the pistles.
If there are already calyxes at the nodes, why would you see balls?
You know, secondary branches are not the main concern here. As a general rule of thumb, you should wait until you see 'alternating nodes' or until your plant reaches a third to a half desired height you want it to be... another rule of thumb is that your pot size should be approximately 1 gallon per foot of plant growth. If you want the plant to be 5 feet tall in the end then you'll need a 5 gallon pot. Anyway, Depending on the strain of plant you have, the smell will vary. You usually wont get too strong of a smell until the buds are getting in their ripe stages. Again, the time it will take for you plant to smell and how potent it is will depend on it's strain. Good luck
