For men: Just got out of long relationship, having problems with my manhood! HELP

Nutes and Nugs

Nutes and Nugs

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Edgar9 said:
Doesn't matter if you're in your 20's. You're out of shape both mentally and physically.

Start hitting the gym hard. Two hours a day. 15 minute cardio warm up, followed by an hour and a half of weight training. Finish by doing another 30 minutes of cardio. Do this 4 times a week and on the off days keep doing cardio. In no time you'll be wanting to fuck anything that moves. You'll get that drive back. You'll get that blood flowing again, which is the key to good erections. Viagra works but that's the easy way out. Get in the best shape of your life, both mentally and physically and good erections are to follow. Act like a college football player. They work out all day and fuck all night.

Start going to strip clubs once a month too. A little strip club therapy isn't a bad idea for a person in your shoes.
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That's fine and dandy but the op said his dick works just fine, just not at the right times.

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Ringsixty

Ringsixty

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I think you have not yet severed your sub conscious mind from you previous relationship.
So, I can see where you would have a problem with a performance issue.
Funny, how the Mind works.

Take a Viagra and just go for it. If that little voice in your head tries to F_up your night.
The sub conscious mind will lose to MR. Viagra.. Boner Wins every time.:-P

The real Mind break though will happen after the Deed is done.;-)

Then you can move on mentally.

:peace:

F.Y.I..... I'm really High.:clap:
 
Dislexicmidget2021

Dislexicmidget2021

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You said that its only been 2 and a half months,,,Several people have posted it already and I think it would be sound advice to wait it out and not jump to any conclusions about the current issue.You have to go through the readjustment on a subconscious level which takes time and how much time it takes to pass depends on just how attached you were to that long term relationship IMO.I also would advise that you dont jump into another relationship,,give yourself ample time outside of those involvements.Just my 2 cents.
 
Balzac89

Balzac89

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I only had this happen one time. 3am fat chick on my bed.

I think neither of us wanted it to happen.
 
greenlikemoney

greenlikemoney

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Yep, it's just a mental block. Those new beautiful women probably have ALOT in common with your old skank, and even if YOU don't realize it, your brain and your pecker most definitely do. Try a different menu, the new tastes can really jog the old brain......and pecker !!!!!
 
Beefbisquit

Beefbisquit

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Hey homie, sorry to hear about your issue. Any problems when you're choking the chicken or just when trying to get it on with a chick?

If you're having issues snappin' off a batch of knuckle kids, you should see the Dr. immediately. If you're good to go, it's just psychological. Probably just psyching yourself out, new pussy, and bad nerves.... lol It's a a deadly combo...
 
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mattman

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Edgar9 said:
Doesn't matter if you're in your 20's. You're out of shape both mentally and physically.

Start hitting the gym hard. Two hours a day. 15 minute cardio warm up, followed by an hour and a half of weight training. Finish by doing another 30 minutes of cardio. Do this 4 times a week and on the off days keep doing cardio. In no time you'll be wanting to fuck anything that moves. You'll get that drive back. You'll get that blood flowing again, which is the key to good erections. Viagra works but that's the easy way out. Get in the best shape of your life, both mentally and physically and good erections are to follow. Act like a college football player. They work out all day and fuck all night.

Start going to strip clubs once a month too. A little strip club therapy isn't a bad idea for a person in your shoes.
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Bro I am in super good shape. Im 6 foot tall and weight 204. I have a 6 pack and bench 265 pounds. Other than that I agree with you. I hit the gym 5 days a week
 
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mattman

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I have come to the realization, unfortunately, that this is a major psychological issue. I constantly dream of having sex with my ex, its fucking ridiculous. I am going to do the viagra thing and just hit something I HAVE TO its driving me nuts.
 
Beefbisquit

Beefbisquit

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mattman said:
I have come to the realization, unfortunately, that this is a major psychological issue. I constantly dream of having sex with my ex, its fucking ridiculous. I am going to do the viagra thing and just hit something I HAVE TO its driving me nuts.
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Yeah homie, it sounds like it's just in your head.

You need a pro. lol
 
Keif.

Keif.

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Been there, just takes some time homie, took me like 4 months after my girl of 4-5 years left me. I was freaking out at first. LOL

Find a girl that is drastically different than your last, that helped a lot..

It takes your subconscious a while to let go of something like that, even if you in your conscious state think youre over it..
 
Indagrow

Indagrow

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just went though the same thing, but took me a week to move on.. definitely gym and testosterone helped. lust also helped.. find a hot girl and crush on her, seems to get things going again.

really surprised no one (ub) said 'pics or it didn't happen' yet
 
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mattman

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Indagrow said:
just went though the same thing, but took me a week to move on.. definitely gym and testosterone helped. lust also helped.. find a hot girl and crush on her, seems to get things going again.

really surprised no one (ub) said 'pics or it didn't happen' yet
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no pics homey and dont want any
 
Mr. Krambo44

Mr. Krambo44

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Try getting urself back in the mood. Everyone goes thru a breakup there's no escape from the pain. It's a normal natural thing we all go thru. What helps u get back on track is moving forward in your life alone. Do your thing. Whatever it is. Then when your comfortable in your own skin things will come into focus better. Take some time. Can't rush this. You prolly don't need ED meds just time.
 
PetFlora

PetFlora

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A shrink, or at least a psychotherapist. Problem is many ain't worth a shit, but maybe this possible insight might help...

Clearly, she didn't love you anymore, and felt if she told you that then you would try to convince her to stay.

Her guaranteed way out was to do the one thing that you would not accept - cheat and keep cheating until you caught her. The more guys she used the less likely you would forgive her

In an odd way she did you a favor. Get stoned and think about this

When I was a young man (30 something, then 40) I had 2 women break my heart

Took a long time to have any real interest in a relationship, or sex


mattman said:
fk I dont even know what type of doc to go see.
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Thriceeee

Thriceeee

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Got out of a 7 year relationship last year. Got engaged to the girl and about 6 months after took a mental vacation, did a small tour of Europe. Boy did that help!
BUT when I got home all her stuff was gone. The next week she shows up at the house saying shes pregnant with another dudes kid. Fucked me up good for a bit.

You're a hot sexy guy that already has a couple girls droolin' over you so buck up! Have some faith in your manhood!
 
Nether Region

Nether Region

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Another vote for totally normal. While it was a long time ago, I will never forget how much that girl twisted my melon. I do recall that it was not ALL women, but most. A few could get the blood going. Chemistry and it seemed trusting the girl made all the difference. Just do not push it and you should be fine. You will know if it will happen or not before things get too heavy and it just ends up really screwing you up mentally.

Wish I had this kind of help when I needed it.
 
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mattman

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Thx once again for more replies and advice. Honestly venting on here helped a shit load. Its unfortunate that some of you have had the same thing happen, but it does help to know that Im not alone on this boat and that the rough ride will end soon. God bless and keep on smoking. :eyesmoke:
 
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