Ok so I know I have had a lot "wife" related threads but right now we are doing better and something in my head has just kinda clicked and made me happier. We have more sex and it doesn't feel like I am going to have to pay her afterwards.
Anyways the other night after an episode of weeds (her favorite show) I brought up wanting to grow. In the past she had talked about how she didn't want anything illegal in the house and how if her brother (a recovering adict) or her sister (a sweet, innocent "you have DRUGS, I am telling the police" type) found the plants she would die.
I explained that she wouldn't even be able to find them and that no one is going to get caught because its not like I am turning an entire bedroom into a grow house. She still didn't like the idea so I explained that this was an issue that I felt strongly about and she needed to think about it.
She finally said she didn't mind as long as no one ever found the plants and I didn't just swap booze for pot (was a 2 or 3 case a week guy in the past.) I had fully planned on "putting my foot down" (something I have only ever done on one other issue...EVER) and telling her this is how its going to be, period. Now I am in this marriage 50/50 but sometimes things are important and you have to just say "look I know you don't like this but it doesn't effect you and I feel strongly about it".
My question is, do and of you have significant others who don't smoke or don't like the idea of your grow?
Anyways the other night after an episode of weeds (her favorite show) I brought up wanting to grow. In the past she had talked about how she didn't want anything illegal in the house and how if her brother (a recovering adict) or her sister (a sweet, innocent "you have DRUGS, I am telling the police" type) found the plants she would die.
I explained that she wouldn't even be able to find them and that no one is going to get caught because its not like I am turning an entire bedroom into a grow house. She still didn't like the idea so I explained that this was an issue that I felt strongly about and she needed to think about it.
She finally said she didn't mind as long as no one ever found the plants and I didn't just swap booze for pot (was a 2 or 3 case a week guy in the past.) I had fully planned on "putting my foot down" (something I have only ever done on one other issue...EVER) and telling her this is how its going to be, period. Now I am in this marriage 50/50 but sometimes things are important and you have to just say "look I know you don't like this but it doesn't effect you and I feel strongly about it".
My question is, do and of you have significant others who don't smoke or don't like the idea of your grow?